What the heck do I do? (woman trouble)

[SteR]

I'm at university and I think I've fallen for one of my house-mates . This is a long story so bear with me but the problem is I just don't know what the hell to do.

Thing is, when I first met this girl I wasn't really attracted to her at all. I mean I found her attractive but I didn't really know her. Now unlike most guys I'm not the sort of person who does one night stands or any sh*t like that so I didn't get to know her for about a couple of months (4 months into uni now).

Anyway this other guy who is one of those guys asked her out in like the first week. Things were going fine for like the first month and although I felt a tiny bit jealous I could deal with it and it was all ok until about christmas. Having come back from the Christmas break some time mid january I seem to have had very strong feelings for her. We get on perfectly and are really good friends but sometimes I'm not sure what's going on. I mean she compliments me on my clothes and looks quite a bit which ok is nothing abnormal between friends. But then sometimes when we're drunk she can get a bit touchy now I don't mean she shoves her hand down my trousers but she seems to touch my leg a lot and hands and stuff like that which I'm not sure how I should take. I mean we are really great friends but I don't know if that's normal.

Anyway as I was saying, she's going out with this guy whom in my opinion is a complete jerk and I can't see what the hell she sees in him. To top it off he's also cheated on her like 6 times that I know of. Anyway she found out and they got in a row but for some STUPID bloody reason which I'm still not sure about now, she took him back. They're still together now and I'm not entirely sure about the way she feels about him. I mean one minute they seem as though they're in love, next minute she doesn't trust him and finds him a pain, next minute all she can talk about is him then the next minute she seems to forget about him.

Now the problem is I don't know how she feels about me. We are REALLY great friends and have exactly the same things in common and have same sense of humour etc rah, rah, rah but I don't know how she feels about us if you get what I mean. I mean I REALLY REALLY feel for her and in fact I could quite easily say I'm in love with her because I've never felt this way about ANYONE before but I'm just confused about how she feels.

The other problem is I can't really confront her about any of this because we're really close friends plus I live with her in halls AND I'm moving in with her and a few others in summer. The thing that bothers me is, IF I tell her and she says 'what are you thinking? I've in love with so and so..' then I'll just be totally gutted PLUS it'll screw our relationship up and make things really awkward around us. However it's eating me up inside not being able to be with her if you understand and I just don't know what to do. In fact I've taken a couple of weeks off uni just to come back and try and clear my head but I really am distressed about this.

I've never felt like this about anyone before and I wish she'd feel the same way about me but I just don't know what to do. I'd really like it if I just knew how she felt then I could sort out what I would do but i seem to be stuck in limbo. WHAT DO I DO? SHE'S DRIVING ME INSANE! Anyway sorry for the long post but I had to get this off of my chest

Is that better?

 

[Norman Bates]

I didn´t read your post, but suicide is always a solution.

 

[Testosterone boy]

Use paragraphs if you want us to read it.

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Kill her.

 

[lamamacita]

I would say tell her how you feel. Her relationship isn't that great with the other kid, anyway. You need to get this stuff off your chest! Seems like you would treat her a lot better than the other guy. Are you sure you would want to date somebody that would put up with that sort of stuff??? I don't think I would, but hey.

 

[SteR]

I'd like to tell her lamamacita but i'm worried about the possible consequences. I mean we are great mates and if i told her it'd a) make our friendship awkward, b) make us reconsider living arrangements c) cause awkwardness for the rest of our housemates. I just think talking to her could possibly ruin everything between us. I just wish I could either get her outta my head or climb into her head and see what the hell she's thinking :\

OH BOLLOCKS TO THIS

 

[spongebob]

jesus christ dude grow a pair for christ sakes. be a man and sit down with this girl and tell her exactly what you are telling us. it just might work. good luck.

 

[lamamacita]

She has obviously displayed signs of liking you as well, so I do not think it is a long shot...

 

[MassiveGunz]

Bro tahts the longest post ever inthe history of email.
I bet that is a bilion words.

But when it comes to women just fuck them.

 

[notoriousQQ]

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