What is your option on old friends....

[yonkers weights]

I have a friend, my best, who I have known for 28 of my 30 years. We grew up together and have been friends through it all. Women, family, friends, school, work, etc...

We have always stood by each other but the last year or so we have been growing apart. (Insert gay joke here)

I am not sure if it was I got engaged and now married and moving on with my life and he still wants to hit happy hour every Thursday and go out like an animal each weekend. Drink a lot of beers, do a lot of shots, hit the bathroom for a pick me up and fuck a new chick each weekend or what. He makes comments about me not going out as much or when I go out leaving early, 2am instead of 8am. It is starting to piss me off. I am moving on with my life and he is in a stand still. He is not dating anyone for real. He lives with 3 other guy roommates. Loves to go out and rage. All things I used to do but have moved on from doing.

What should I do?

1. Just say nothing and keep going on like nothing is wrong?
2. Pull him off to the side and ask him what the fuck his problem is?
3. Drift away as friends. Just because we have been friends for a long time does not mean we are friends for life. Does it?

Any real comments or real stories.

 

[jerkbox]

i think, you should get him to post here

 

[yonkers weights]

He did but is now another another roid board. Less drama... NO COMMENT....

 

[Basic_wonder]

Hang out every so often and live your life, everyone has friends like this .....

 

[KillahBee]

Drift away. It's a fact of life. He is doing nothing wrong and you are doing nothing wrong. Your paths have just gone separate ways. It happens to all of us and usually around your age (going thru it now at 27).

You have already seen the writing on the wall, bro.

 

[-SD-]

If hes a really good friend that just happens to not live a compatible life with yours then dont say anything about it, but continue to hang out whenever you can. If hes being a dick about how you dont party then thats different. Ive got a good friend who Ive known for 20 years since we were kids and we drifted apart for a few years then he got married and moved closer to town and believe it or not are seeing each other much more now (even though hes married). We hang out at his new house and play xbox, its fucking great, like we are kids all over again. So you never know what will transpire but dont ever burn that bridge if hes truly a good friend.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Drift away. It's a fact of life. He is doing nothing wrong and you are doing nothing wrong. Your paths have just gone separate ways. It happens to all of us and usually around your age (going thru it now at 27).

Precisely.

The only time I would take offense is when my friend becomes p-whooped and bossed around (forbids) by his girlfriend or wife. Now that is downright pathetic and makes me NOT want to associate with him anymore.

 

[rnch]

i'd agree with drift away but don't burn the bridges..who knows how your (or his) life may change in the future.....

 

[heavy_duty]

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I have a friend, my best, who I have known for 28 of my 30 years. We grew up together and have been friends through it all. Women, family, friends, school, work, etc...

We have always stood by each other but the last year or so we have been growing apart. (Insert gay joke here)

I am not sure if it was I got engaged and now married and moving on with my life and he still wants to hit happy hour every Thursday and go out like an animal each weekend. Drink a lot of beers, do a lot of shots, hit the bathroom for a pick me up and fuck a new chick each weekend or what. He makes comments about me not going out as much or when I go out leaving early, 2am instead of 8am. It is starting to piss me off. I am moving on with my life and he is in a stand still. He is not dating anyone for real. He lives with 3 other guy roommates. Loves to go out and rage. All things I used to do but have moved on from doing.

What should I do?

1. Just say nothing and keep going on like nothing is wrong?
2. Pull him off to the side and ask him what the fuck his problem is?
3. Drift away as friends. Just because we have been friends for a long time does not mean we are friends for life. Does it?

Any real comments or real stories.

 

[KillahBee]

i'd agree with drift away but don't burn the bridges..who knows how your (or his) life may change in the future.....

Yep, this is very important. Don't harbor any resentment towards him or his choices, just as he shouldn't towards you. Different folks, different strokes. Hopefully one day your paths will cross again.

 

[yonkers weights]

I don't harbor any resentment towards him but I feel he does towards me. He is always making comments these days. Ya know, looking to be funny. It is funny but it is starting to annoy me. He is my boy so it means something. Anyone else can talk shit and it means nothing but when it comes from a friend, it hurts.
I think he is angry. Out of the 9 guys we grew up with, all but 2 are married or engaged. The other guy will be by years end and he will be the only one left.
He just says "he will be the last to get divorced." Funny line....
He dates great girls from time to time but dumbs them after 3 months and says he is not in love. He does not give it a real shot. His parents got divorced when we were young so I think he is still hurting from that. Who knows. He is my boy and I want to help him but he is being a dick, weird situation... Thanks for the 411 so far.

 

[reno240]

I think you may be overreacting - if this guy has been your friend since you were 2 - then you know that all friendships change throughout the years. Right now you are somewhere he isn't - when he gets there - you two will be rubbin all up on each other again. Until then - just keep with the keepin on

 

[the_clockwork]

He'll probably live that life forever and be that creepy old guy at the bars, which he probably already is, I'd drift apart. You two have chosen your paths and they are clearly different. Stay friends but not so close

 

[yonkers weights]

Clockwork - love the Paris remark!!!