Aahhhh...... the summum bonum question.
Every philosophy has a summum bonum. Summum bonum means "ultimate good". Hedonism is a philosophy in which pleasure is the ultimate good. Intellectualism is the philosophy in which knowledge is the ultimate good. Materialism is the philosophy that gaining posessions is the ultimate good. Every full philosophy has a summum bonum.
Mine has changed over the years. Buddhist religion believes that eliminating suffering and attachment by eliminating desire (4 noble truths) by means of the 8 fold path is the ultimate good - I dislike this as cravings are what make my life worthwhile. Setting passionate goals and accomplishing them.
Christian religion tends to state that service to God , following Gods path is the ultimate good. I kind of like this qoute (I am doing this from memory so it may be somewhat incorrect but I think I have the major ideas right) : " Gods glory and mission is to bring to pass happiness and eternal life to man. Adam fell that man might be. Men are that they might find joy. Happiness is the object and design of mans existence, and will be the end thereof, if we persue the path that leads to it; and this path is : virtue, uprightness, holiness, faithfulness and keeping all of Gods commandments. We cannot keep them unless we know them. We cannot know them unless we keep the ones we already know. That which is wrong under one circumstance is often right under another.
Whatever God desires is right, though we may not understand why at the time, and may not understand until long after the events transpire. At times God has said THOU SHALT NOT KILL and at others he has said THOU SHALT UTTERLY DESTROY.
A parent may whip a child for stealing an apple, whereas if the child had asked before hand the parent would have given it to him and there would have been no whipping"
I dunno. I grew up super religious but have had a very hard time with the whole idea for the last few years.
A few months ago I wrote a poem called Summum Bonum. And I guess my summum bonum is LOVE. Feeling love for and feeling love from. A current - 2 way flow - like a current in a light bulb - it gives life , light and warmth when it flows. Everything can suck in your life - then you feel strong love and for a moment E-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g is allright. Its like water on parched desert ground. At times I have felt deep love have seemed magical. I can remember slow dancing with this one girl once 16 or so years ago and it was a very short moment in time, but something about it also seemed to last forever - like it was a blink of an eye but also was frozen in time in some ethereal museum somewhere like a work of art. Moments in which I have felt deep love have been complete and sufficient in and of themselves - nothing else was required. When feeling deep love I could starve to death and be satisfied.
Ever since reading my wifes feelings of animosity towards me, when I accidentally read her journal (and it was truly an accident - for those of you who read my post on Flexygirls message when she found out her husband was cheating on her) I have since felt a canyon , a void, in my life. I have been tempted to cheat to try and fill that void. Right now the only things that fill it are moments whith my kids - I feel this love and for a moment everything is full and complete. I loved my wife deeply when I married her 14 or so years ago, I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world, admired her intelligence and academic achievements, was in awe of how sophisticated and cultured she was, was impressed with how hard she could work and how caring she was. She is still a great lady and I have nothing bad to say about her, but if something happend to my kids now we would be divorced within days - simply because I don't think she loves me at all, and perhaps does not even like me. I would rather be alone than live with someone who did not care for me.
I doubt I would marry again as many women are lying cheating whoring disease-ridden dumbshits-and you cannot always tell when you are dating them because the same ones are so good at lying. There are a few gems out there but they are far and few between. So for me it is doubtful that I will ever feel a deep satisfaction of my summum bonum.