Well crap...what do I do now?

[Deleted member 33117]

Since things have been going slow in the relationship department, I had recently decided to focus on getting laid, until something works out. I've been fucking a few girls, and have a new fuck buddy (most amusing out of the group, who also happens to be fantastic in bed). Friday night, first time I slept with her, after she invited me out for a few drinks, and bought my drinks all night, we had a talk. She said she thought I was amazing in bed, and very sexy, but was not looking for a relationship right now, since she had a busy schedule with work and school. Plus she does not want to deal with the stress of getting involved with anyone right now. However, she has a very active libido, and she thought we should be regular fuck buddies for awhile to make things easier for us both in our current situations. I was game, she has some mad skills and likes to fuck for hours. SO me made an agreement to get together and fuck on any nights niether of us have made other plans for now.

Last night, after we are done, she says, "Well... you know...you are a really sweet guy, and damn good in bed... if you wanted to be more than fuck buddies I really wouldn't object." So I'm like, "I don't know... let me think on it and lets just see what happens." Since I'm not sure if I want to get involved with this girl, and we had agreed to just have casual sex.

Tonight I am in Houston, and have that funeral in Friday, so I talked to her after making some other calls, and she wants us to go out for dinner Friday night when I get home.

I'm going to sound like a total hypocrite, but I'm almost feeling like I got played into this. Its not that I am not interested in this girl, its just that I am not sure if I am or not. The sex is incredible, but do I want to get involved with her based soley on that? Shoot me some advice and perspectives here orbs. Some of you guys are pretty helpful when it comes to relationships, sex etc.

 

[jerkbox]

let fxygel hit it

 

[Buddy_Christ]

can i have cliffs notes?

 

[Deleted member 33117]

let fxygel hit it

Seriously, this girl would kill him. She is a bit too wild in bed for his first time.

 

[Dial_tone]

If you want a relationship with a girl don't screw her right away, even if it's offered.

 

[jerkbox]

Seriously, this girl would kill him.

is she a big fat person?

 

[vinylgroover]

read my 'pornstar' thread above and wax your lance by visualising yourself as me.

 

[Moderate_THIS]

I'm going to sound like a total hypocrite

You? No way

 

[Deleted member 33117]

If you want a relationship with a girl don't screw her right away, even if it's offered.

Yeah, because it starts making you think about things different. We haven't even gone out on a date. We met and exchanged numbers then a few days later (last friday) she asked me if I would like to meet her at so and so for a few drinks tonight with a few of her friends. She bought me about 10 mixed drinks, we talked, started kissing in the place and I asked her "are you ready to get out of here?" then went back to my place for mad monkey sex until noon. We had sex 7 times that night/morning.

WHen you do something like that the first time out with a girl, it totally makes you change perspectives. I was not necissarily thinking about a relationship. It was just a girl I met who hit on me, and I was in a mindset last week of "Well, these other girls seem to be playing games...fuck relationships, I'm going to get some ass this week."

 

[spongebob]

If you want a relationship with a girl don't screw her right away, even if it's offered.

love the avatar DT, thats the kind of bitch i could just tell to stand like that in the bedroom and beat off looking at it.

anyways, BBF, id just keep hitting it and let her know upfront that your really not ready for a relationship but you'll definitely keep her in the rotation, that is ofcourse she dont fuck up.

 

[Gambino]

If you want a relationship with a girl don't screw her right away, even if it's offered.

solid advice...I've done a lot of whoring, but I've always made a point to wait with the right gals...

 

[Dial_tone]

If you don't respect her enough to consider her p***y worth waiting for you got no shot at a relationship. If she's a keeper I don't care if it takes 3-4 weeks.


(well, I do but i'm still gonna wait.)

 

[Deleted member 33117]

is she a big fat person?

No, but she likes rough sex, and I just can't picture foxygel with her his first time. Plus the things coming out of her mouth when having sex might be a bit much for the poor boy. Anywho, I personally love women who are loud, and say kinky shit in bed.

 

[MAX 300]

Re: Well crap...what do I do now?

I'll take your question on face value and not as an attempt to show off how much pussy you're getting.

Answer: Stop sticking you cock into every pussy that walks by. Get some self-respect. Find inner peace. Join a fucking cult or religion if you have to. And try to live your life NOT being a sex addict.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Seriously, that is good advice DT, but what is done is done. I'm trying to figure out this whole situation, and what I should do at this point. Honestly I don't know if I want a relationship with this girl or not. However, the whole thing is messed up by the fact that we are fucking a couple times a day, and having great sex. I don't want that to schew my perspective here.

 

[The_Ghost]

solid advice...I've done a lot of whoring, but I've always made a point to wait with the right gals...

Amen brother!

 

[Smurfy]

this all boils down to being sexually intimate with someone you really dont have feelings for. its complicated isnt it?

 

[Smurfy]

oh, and also J, the bottom line is if you dont want a relationship with this girl, you need to make that clear or make it clear exactly what you DO want (just sex). If she cant handle it or isnt on the same wavelength, then i suppose you need to cut her loose and move on to the next warm body/fuck buddy.

 

[spongebob]

Re: Well crap...what do I do now?

I'll take your question on face value and not as an attempt to show off how much pussy you're getting.

Answer: Stop sticking you cock into every pussy that walks by. Get some self-respect. Find inner peace. Join a fucking cult or religion if you have to. And try to live your life NOT being a sex addict.

whats wrong with being a sex addict?

 

[vinylgroover]

It's the same with me and the girl i made the video with. We are fuck buddies, but have also become very cose friends in the process.

I would marry her in a heartbeat, but unfortunately, there are circumstances that prevent us from making it work.

Sex is a very important part of any relationship...........if it's that good, then why not take the chance that she has much more to offer? What have you got to lose?

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Re: Well crap...what do I do now?

I'll take your question on face value and not as an attempt to show off how much pussy you're getting.

Answer: Stop sticking you cock into every pussy that walks by. Get some self-respect. Find inner peace. Join a fucking cult or religion if you have to. And try to live your life NOT being a sex addict.

Well, I've shot down around 70% of the offers I have gotten for casual sex this year, so I do not stick my dick in everything that walks by.

No, this was not an attempt to show off how much I get. I have already mentioned this girl, so another thread does not say I am getting more pussy, its the same pussy I was getting already.

In any event, I've been a sex adict for some time, that is easier said than done. That is like saying, "don't be a coke addict." Honestly, as far as the sex goes, I could be contented in this situation, fuck buddy or more meaningful relatoinship. This girl likes to fuck for hours every night, so her sex drive is on par with mine. What worries me, is that I might be considering a relationship with her based on this fact, rather than on her other values as a person. On the other hand, maybe she would be a good match, and I'm resistant due to some other subconscious factor. Fuck I sound like foxygel now.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

oh, and also J, the bottom line is if you dont want a relationship with this girl, you need to make that clear or make it clear exactly what you DO want (just sex). If she cant handle it or isnt on the same wavelength, then i suppose you need to cut her loose and move on to the next warm body/fuck buddy.

Well she last night she could live with either situation, that if we didn't get involved she still thought I was a good fuck buddy. The thing is, I wasn't sure friday night if I wanted to get involved or not. I can see pro's and con's, however her offer later to be fuck buddies and her line about not having time for a relatoinship or wanting ot deal with the stress of one right now, sealed my dicision. Now she is offering otherwise, and acting interested in more, and trying to work her way into more, and I'm having to rethink all of this when I thought this was goign to be strictly a sex thing.

It's the same with me and the girl i made the video with. We are fuck buddies, but have also become very cose friends in the process.

I would marry her in a heartbeat, but unfortunately, there are circumstances that prevent us from making it work.

Sex is a very important part of any relationship...........if it's that good, then why not take the chance that she has much more to offer? What have you got to lose?

I agree, if you are not sexually compatable, things will not work out.

 

[Gambino]

BBf do you think the sauce artifically fuels your sex drive? We're about the same age, and you're libido kills mine...I dig pussy and I get it on the regular (gf), but I don't trip about it like you...lol you remind me of a 14 yr old with his first piece of ass, every piece of ass. i think sex is your sheild aganist woman(?lol) getting to know your mind.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

BBf do you think the sauce artifically fuels your sex drive? We're about the same age, and you're libido kills mine...I dig pussy and I get it on the regular (gf), but I don't trip about it like you...lol you remind me of a 14 yr old with his first piece of ass, every piece of ass. i think sex is your sheild aganist woman(?lol) getting to know your mind.

I had a strong sex drive prior to the juice, but its definately stronger on it. I have no trouble pounding away all night long, and love every minute of it. Dude there have been times, I've had sex 3 or 4 times, the girl left, and I smelled her on my sheets 30 minutes later, got a hardon again and jerked off.

 

[MAX 300]

Now that is sex addiction.

The question is, do you actually want to change?

I think you're quite content sticking your dick into the remaining 30% that you're not turning down.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Now that is sex addiction.

The question is, do you actually want to change?

I think you're quite content sticking your dick into the remaining 30% that you're not turning down.

An interesting question. I have been sitting her whinning for 2 years about not being able to get into a relationship, I'm so lonely, all I get are fuck buddies and get used boo hoo hoo.

I'm sitting here thinking now, "Ok, cute girl with goals in live who is single and available, and who is sexually compatable with me who thinks I am the bomb is wanting to get involved with me. And I am going...hmmm...I don't know... I just wanted to be fuck buddies with her." After all of that whinning and searching for a relatoinship. Its making me wonder if maybe she is someone compatable and I'm subconsciously trying to hold onto that lifestyle I have grown accustom too, dispite it making me unhappy. I don't know.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

What do you do now?

You sit down and figure out what the hell you want. You get rid of all distractions while you figure this out. Meaning, no fuck buddies, no casual sex partners, none of that.

You are a mess! You want a relationship but you don't. You don't even know what you want. Yes, this girl started out being only a fuck buddy but now she is willing to give you something you yourself even said you were looking for. Obviously you aren't looking for a relationship. To be honest, you aren't ready for a relationship. You won't be until you grow up in a lot of ways. You aren't a bad person but some of the choices you make aren't the best. I bet you are thinking that if you were to date her you'd have to turn down all other sex offers. Which you don't think you are ready for. Right?
Think with your brain not your cock for once, BBF.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

What do you do now?

You sit down and figure out what the hell you want. You get rid of all distractions while you figure this out. Meaning, no fuck buddies, no casual sex partners, none of that.

You are a mess! You want a relationship but you don't. You don't even know what you want. Yes, this girl started out being only a fuck buddy but now she is willing to give you something you yourself even said you were looking for. Obviously you aren't looking for a relationship. To be honest, you aren't ready for a relationship. You won't be until you grow up in a lot of ways. You aren't a bad person but some of the choices you make aren't the best. I bet you are thinking that if you were to date her you'd have to turn down all other sex offers. Which you don't think you are ready for. Right?
Think with your brain not your cock for once, BBF.

Good points, but actually you are wrong about the other sex offers. She is pretty good in bed, and wants to fuck as often as I do, so if I know I have good sex waiting on me at home...why bother. I don't know what is bothering me really.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

...since I do not know, that is why I am analyzing it with you guys.