Wedding Etiquette

[bigguns7]

So I'm getting married in a year, and I want to have my brother (who is also my best friend) as my best man. So when iImentioned that to my mom, she was aghast, saying "your father should be your best man." She said that it would make people look unfavorably on my relationship with my father if he were not the best man in my wedding.

I certainly don't see it that way, and I've read in at least one wedding book that it can be brother, father, or best friend. And in the few weddings I've been to, there has never been a father as a best man. Me and my dad get along great, but we're not best friends, and I certainly don't want him planning or even attending my bachelor party.

Any experiences or opinions?

 

[Latimer]

I've never been to a wedding where the best man was a family member. The groom's brother(s) are usually in the service ushering people to their seats and escorting the bride's maids to the altar and standing in the wedding.

 

[GLADIATOR351]

IT'S YOUR WEDDING!!!!! You should do what you want. It is perfectly ok to have your brother as your best man.

 

[HappyScrappy]

I've never seen the father as a best man.
I was my dad's best man at his second (failed) wedding.

 

[bigschweeler]

I've never heard of any etiquette that says you should offer it to your father. I got married last year and I didn't even have my dad in the wedding party. I love the guy to death, but I think he enjoyed it from where he was at.

I personally had my best friend as my best man, as I was his about a year ago.

You could maybe ask him to be in the wedding party.

 

[the nature boy]

yeah I've never seen a family member being the best man.

 

[beastboy]

Do what you want! I ran into similar problems with my mom, but just had to lay it out for her......

 

[pushing_fe]

My best friend was my best man. I asked my dad first, but he said that it should be one of my friends.

When my friend got married, he had two best men, his dad and his brother. It is your wedding, you can do whatever you want. (except shag a bridesmaid)