Two weeks...too long?

[sublime35]

I've been sort of seeing this girl for about 2 weeks now and we've hung out a few times, screwed a couple times..blah blah. Well I've never ONCE mentioned wanting a relationship or looking for anything more serious but then the other day she busts out with calling me her boyfriend.

I'm like "whoa" back the love train up here. I said "I like you and everything ( I really do) but I just don't want anything serious". I have no interest in it and I have a lot of other shit going on.

What I wanna know, do you think I'm the bad guy here for telling her now or is it her fault for thinking that I wanted more?

 

[nycgirl]

Its her fault for thinking that so soon.

You did nothing wrong by being honest with her. Do you want a serious relationship right now (or in the near future)? If not, I would tell her that as well. She may think okay, maybe 2 weeks is too soon, wait another month or 2 or 3 and then say it again, and you will still be uncomfortable.

 

[EnderJE]

What's the big deal about being called her boyfriend? Are you seeing others right now? No? Then what's the harm? It's not like an engagement ring or something.

 

[sublime35]

Its her fault for thinking that so soon.

You did nothing wrong by being honest with her. Do you want a serious relationship right now (or in the near future)? If not, I would tell her that as well. She may think okay, maybe 2 weeks is too soon, wait another month or 2 or 3 and then say it again, and you will still be uncomfortable.

nope, I don't want anything serious any time soon. I told her that, I said I just don't want a relationship any time soon. I guess I need to make it clear that I don't want one at all, EVER.

 

[EnderJE]

nope, I don't want anything serious any time soon. I told her that, I said I just don't want a relationship any time soon. I guess I need to make it clear that I don't want one at all, EVER.

Why? What do they mean to you? Why do you hate them? If you have fun with this chick, what's the harm?

 

[nycgirl]

nope, I don't want anything serious any time soon. I told her that, I said I just don't want a relationship any time soon. I guess I need to make it clear that I don't want one at all, EVER.

Yes, you have to. Speaking as a chick, "soon" can mean anything. You have to tell us up front. That said, its up to you to not get caught up in doing the "relationship stuff" when you don't want one.

 

[sublime35]

What's the big deal about being called her boyfriend? Are you seeing others right now? No? Then what's the harm? It's not like an engagement ring or something.

it's that b.s. that comes with it. Having to hear her being pissed if I don't call her, or if I want to spend the day alone, don't want to have to hear that shit. That's the reason for not wanting to be more committed so someone, just want a "special" friend and I felt she wanted the same.

 

[sublime35]

Why? What do they mean to you? Why do you hate them? If you have fun with this chick, what's the harm?

I just don't want one, my last girl friend left me bitter. Could be that deep down I still care about her.

 

[*MissFit*]

how old r u again?

 

[Sub-Zero]

I've been sort of seeing this girl for about 2 weeks now and we've hung out a few times, screwed a couple times..blah blah. Well I've never ONCE mentioned wanting a relationship or looking for anything more serious but then the other day she busts out with calling me her boyfriend.

I'm like "whoa" back the love train up here. I said "I like you and everything ( I really do) but I just don't want anything serious". I have no interest in it and I have a lot of other shit going on.

What I wanna know, do you think I'm the bad guy here for telling her now or is it her fault for thinking that I wanted more?

i think ur a fuckin moron for doing that.

u probably ruined whatever u had, just cause she calls u her boyfriend doesnt mean u have to invest anything more into it than u already had, it just made her feel good about givin it up to you.

your not a bad guy to her, so much as u are to society by fucking this up.

i love u buddy, but whats the big deal, (unless of course ur getting it from other places, then its good to be honest and say she isnt the only one)

 

[KillahBee]

you gotta be upfront with broads maing. you knew this was going to happen. you can always tell.

 

[Sub-Zero]

nope, I don't want anything serious any time soon. I told her that, I said I just don't want a relationship any time soon. I guess I need to make it clear that I don't want one at all, EVER.

ur hanging out with her, having fun, sharing smiles, probalby doing activities, and fucking.

thats a relationship, buddy.

 

[sublime35]

how old r u again?

Why so you can say...Oh you're young and immature you don't know what you're talking about....

yeah I'm 18, but certainly don't have the mentality of an 18 year old.

But that's another reason for not wanting one. Girls my age are all about playing games. I have more important things to worry about right now, i.e. my job, deciding if I'm going to stay where I'm at and learn a trade so I have a way to make a living and get the hell out of Mississippi.

 

[Sub-Zero]

it's that b.s. that comes with it. Having to hear her being pissed if I don't call her, or if I want to spend the day alone, don't want to have to hear that shit. That's the reason for not wanting to be more committed so someone, just want a "special" friend and I felt she wanted the same.

just because u have a special friend (ie a girlfriend) doesnt mean she has to control ur fuckin life.

as long as u have some balls then ull be able to have time to urself too...

 

[EnderJE]

it's that b.s. that comes with it. Having to hear her being pissed if I don't call her, or if I want to spend the day alone, don't want to have to hear that shit. That's the reason for not wanting to be more committed so someone, just want a "special" friend and I felt she wanted the same.

Just tell her those are the rules of the "relationship".

 

[slat1]

I would tell her you don't want a serious relationship at this point. I would explain to her that you are not looking for anyone else. That you like her a lot and are happy. Explain everything in detail and you will still get ass. Make sure she knows you are not using her!

 

[sublime35]

i think ur a fuckin moron for doing that.

u probably ruined whatever u had, just cause she calls u her boyfriend doesnt mean u have to invest anything more into it than u already had, it just made her feel good about givin it up to you.

your not a bad guy to her, so much as u are to society by fucking this up.

i love u buddy, but whats the big deal, (unless of course ur getting it from other places, then its good to be honest and say she isnt the only one)

no, I didn't ruin it and I was afraid I would. We've talked since and everything is ok and she said she still wants to spend time with me and just wishes I would have told her sooner.

I could be getting it from other places, but I haven't stopped getting it from her.

 

[sublime35]

just because u have a special friend (ie a girlfriend) doesnt mean she has to control ur fuckin life.

as long as u have some balls then ull be able to have time to urself too...

She doesn't control what I do, I like spending time with her but don't want it to get to serious....that's what happened with the last girl I was with and she ended up tearing my heart out and using it as a stress ball...I guess you could say I'm a little gun shy to jump back in to all that.

 

[Sub-Zero]

no, I didn't ruin it and I was afraid I would. We've talked since and everything is ok and she said she still wants to spend time with me and just wishes I would have told her sooner.

I could be getting it from other places, but I haven't stopped getting it from her.

oh well in that case, keep fucking her

 

[sublime35]

I would tell her you don't want a serious relationship at this point. I would explain to her that you are not looking for anyone else. That you like her a lot and are happy. Explain everything in detail and you will still get ass. Make sure she knows you are not using her!

oh yeah, that was one of the first things I said, to let her know I wasn't trying to use her and that it was up to her to decide what happens now, and she brought the sex on again so...meh...what's a guy to do.