The Womans Parents.

[flex123]

Ok let me hear what some of you people have to say about this situation. Me and the lady were in an argument and didn't talk for two days.

So today I called and we were talking and bitching at each other, the normal bullshit fighting stuff.

So as we are talking I hear her mother whisper to her "why are you wasting your time?"

My girl starts screaming at her, and I tell her to tell her mom that I heard what she said.

I also to my girl that I'll be honest and this is the reason why I never come over to your house.

I understand parents looking out for there kids, but I don't understand why people are so judgemental.

Now the strange part is that she'll probbly bring this up next time I'm over and try to apologize or something. If that happens I have no clue what to say back.

I couldn't make a statement like, everyone is intitled to their own opinion. Or something on the lines of "don't worry, you don't need to explain yourself".

All I know is that whatever happens I'm sure I'm going to feel uncomfortable around them now.

This is probbly the first time something like this has happened to me. Usually everyones parents think I'm great and a likable guy.

I'll admit that in this relationship we fight and bicker a lot. Her mom hears us on the phone and only hers her side and not mine.

Wish me luck on my long long struggle to gain a girlfriends parents acceptance.

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

How long have you been going out?

 

[flex123]

How long have you been going out?

3 years.

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

It sounds serious so I'll give it my 2 cents.

Confront the situation like a man. Next time you're over, tell her mother what you heard her say, and tell her that it hurts you that she thinks that way about you. Explain to her why you feel that her daughter is not waisting her time and why you are not waisting yours. Tell her that while you and her daughter may bicker frequently, that you still love her and that you hope to be able to work through the situation. While you can remind her that she is only hearing her daughters side of the story, and you can explain yours if you wish, keep in mind that she will almost always side with her daughter. After doing so, while the mother may still dislike you for whatever reason, she will at least have to admire your honesty, and respect you for standing up for yourself.

Of course, I never follow any of my own advice.

Good Luck.

 

[biteme]

Parents usually take the side of their child. Bring her mother flowers, kill her with kindness, that kind of stuff. It will be much harder for her to be against you. If you act bitter, you will only make things worse and eventually the daughter will choose her parents over you. It has happened to me b4.

 

[bwood]

as soon as the parents accept you, it is over...

continue as usual...

 

[louden_swain]

Flex123,

You seem like a smart and a nice guy. To me it seems that there is too much tension between this woman and you. It doesn't sound like there is a lot of stability. I would be careful if I were you and think about if this woman is really for you. These are only some thoughts.

 

[flex123]

Flex123,

You seem like a smart and a nice guy. To me it seems that there is too much tension between this woman and you. It doesn't sound like there is a lot of stability. I would be careful if I were you and think about if this woman is really for you. These are only some thoughts.

Thanks man. I appreciate it. Yeah there is tension between us but mostly we fight over being to attached to each other.

Most of our fights are about me going out without her. Or jealousy fights.

 

[theoak01]

dude Im in a relationship for over a year and a half,my girls parents never gave me a chance period,always talked behind my back but never to my face,last weekend they wanted me to goto their easter but I said no because I dont feel welcome and unless she appoligizes I wont go,well ten minutes later she called and I was dumbfounded but happy as hell,and things havent been bad since,Ive gone over twice and respect was shown each time.

so just confront it and make things happy again