The Man from Atlanta, An Update

[FreeballinDC]

Not that any of you care, but here goes.

I spent the weekend before last with a potential partner in Atlanta. We had a great time, and even though I still had a ton of questions when the trip was over, I counted it a success, because we spent all that time together, and didn't rip each others head off.

A week goes by, and we chat on the phone every now and then, but no heavy conversation or discussion towards a "commitment".

Last night I called him and asked directly what was on his mind and what he wanted to do. He was upfront with me and says he is still recovering from losing somebody over a year ago, and doesn't want to put himself out on the line for a relationship now, or for the foreseeable future.

I understand, and I feel for him. But I am in relationship mode now, and not sure I can wait until he is ready. So I've decided to keep dating around, and see what happens. If I still haven't found anybody by the time he's ready, then we'll get together. If somebody else comes along that is ready for a relationship, it's Atlanta's loss.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[bowling ball nutz]

Not that any of you care, but here goes.

I spent the weekend before last with a potential partner in Atlanta. We had a great time, and even though I still had a ton of questions when the trip was over, I counted it a success, because we spent all that time together, and didn't rip each others head off.

A week goes by, and we chat on the phone every now and then, but no heavy conversation or discussion towards a "commitment".

Last night I called him and asked directly what was on his mind and what he wanted to do. He was upfront with me and says he is still recovering from losing somebody over a year ago, and doesn't want to put himself out on the line for a relationship now, or for the foreseeable future.

I understand, and I feel for him. But I am in relationship mode now, and not sure I can wait until he is ready. So I've decided to keep dating around, and see what happens. If I still haven't found anybody by the time he's ready, then we'll get together. If somebody else comes along that is ready for a relationship, it's Atlanta's loss.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Tru Dat!

 

[Paulo]

True dat bro, best of luck to ya.

Oh, word on the street is that Frothing Zagnut fellow is available.

 

[gonelifting]

Sounds like a plan. good luck


Have fun while doing it.

 

[AAP]

#1 - Stay away from Atlanta Fags. I have NEVER encounter a group that is more fucked up and emotionally polluted than the ones in Atlanta.

-- assuming the guy you are seeing is THE exception --

#2 It sounds as though he was telling the truth about not being over the past relationship. Sometimes it is not as easy as it seems to move on. If he were truly over it, he would be sending out relationship vibes (considering his head is really on straight and he is not playing games.)

#3 Don't give up on him. If you really like him, stick around. It may just be YOU that helps him get over his past. When love ends in pain, it is often hard to love again without fear causing restraint.

 

[rnch]

i was wondering why you had the "atlanta bound" line in your old avitar....

relationships, staight or gay, are perilous and unstable in today's times....before i would uproot my life and move from DC to atlanta, i'd suggest letting some more time go by, he sounds like he is kinda ambilivent on ya'll moving in together..........gasoline or plane tickets are a LOT cheaper than moving!!

having sampled both locals, i'd take DC to atlanta!!

 

[SC4EVA]

Dunno Atlanta has Fort Troff...

 

[FreeballinDC]

#1 - Stay away from Atlanta Fags. I have NEVER encounter a group that is more fucked up and emotionally polluted than the ones in Atlanta.

-- assuming the guy you are seeing is THE exception --

#2 It sounds as though he was telling the truth about not being over the past relationship. Sometimes it is not as easy as it seems to move on. If he were truly over it, he would be sending out relationship vibes (considering his head is really on straight and he is not playing games.)

#3 Don't give up on him. If you really like him, stick around. It may just be YOU that helps him get over his past. When love ends in pain, it is often hard to love again without fear causing restraint.

LOL @ #1 - DC or ATL, it's a tossup. We're both over our respective cities. I love DC, but the guys who populate it are not exactly relationship material either.

#2, he is a straight up man, I get no bullshit vibes from him whatsoever. I will keep a place open for him, but let's get real. I am not getting any younger, so it's time for me to quit playing hard to get, and start playing Beat the Clock.

#3. I have one more trip planned with him in June. I'll see if he has progressed any, and see what his thoughts are on starting anything up then. He knows what I want and how I feel about him, so the ball is in his court. Seriously, he's a great guy, and anybody would be lucky to have him as a partner, but I can't make him love me, no matter how hard I try.

 

[rnch]

I can't make him love me, no matter how hard I try.

bonnie rait did a heartbreaking song about this a few years back...every time i hear it, it tears me up inside. as i have learned the hard way, no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do for them, you can't make him/her love you if they don't feel it inside.

 

[FreeballinDC]

I remember that tune. I couldn't listen to it then, and I still can't listen to it now. Lot's of bad memories attached to that one.

I prefer "Give Them Something to Talk About"

 

[onerepmaximum]

I think Avinerup is on the market. You could break him in.

 

[FreeballinDC]

I think Avinerup is on the market. You could break him in.

Nah, I think he's only declaring his homosexuality to be hip. He's only doing it to be trendy.

Bobby Trendy.

 

[onerepmaximum]

Nah, I think he's only declaring his homosexuality to be hip. He's only doing it to be trendy.

Bobby Trendy.

Yeah, you're probably right. Oh well, I tried. Good luck maing.

 

[Ffactor]

This the guy we met at the Sushi place?

 

[FreeballinDC]

This the guy we met at the Sushi place?

Yup, that is the one.

 

[Ffactor]

Yup, that is the one.

dude, I hate to say this but I think he has the hots for me, he was laughing at everything I said no matter how stupid it was!

 

[FreeballinDC]

dude, I hate to say this but I think he has the hots for me, he was laughing at everything I said no matter how stupid it was!

jelus?

 

[Ffactor]

jelus?

oh for god's sake, with a penis like mine why would I be jelus of anyone!