the issue of WEIGHT.. with a chick.. how do you address it? do you?

[madbomber31]

so, i decided i really think the girl should lose a little weight... not much... but i'd love to see her go from average body to GOOD body... she has the face... its flawless... with a TINY bit of work she'd be dangerous. we talked about it today and i am sure i was not supportive... but how can you be? i was very uncomfortable and had no idea what to say.. i wasnt gonna touch the subject but it came up... why did it come up? cuz we dont do the nasty all that much .... we all work out around here and i am sure 75% of us expect our partners to work at it themselves too... i know i do and i also know i never said otherwise... anyway, i feel bad cuz she left here with a little lower self esteem... i hurt her feelings even though i didnt want to... she knows we arent breaking up over this but i mean.. i hurt her feelings and we all know what chicks do to get even... and they do get even... some how, some way... they get even...

i'm ranting.. so allow me to ask this: have you ever mentioned something about your girls weight? (honestly, i'm talkin 10 lbs is all she needs to lose, if even)...

 

[Freak Show]

Look, there's NO good way. No matter how "supportive" you try to be, to them, its an insult. Its a lose/lose situation. Trust me, been there.

 

[flickenu]

i think politely saying, "hey how about you start working out at the gym with me" would be better than saying, "hey tank ass, shed 10 lbs so we can do the freak nasty more often."

 

[Austin316]

its a Pandoras Box my man, only way I see you being able to get away with it is having a third party that doesn't give a shit suggest something to her. Otherwise, don't bother

 

[madbomber31]

too late, that box is open...

i've been telling her to work out and diet and all that good shit for 6 months... i've told her i was more concerned about her gaining weight in the future... tried to avoid the present stuff cuz i figured if she started working on the future now, then the present stuff would be taken care of... no lie, she is unbelievably pretty... great face and skin...

i am sure her main weight problem (if she has a problem) is due to her being diabetic... they think low blood sugar means eat shitty sugar foods... i think it means you lower your insulin intake (she has the pump thing) and you will need less sugar to maintain a good level of blood sugar.

anyway, the subject has been touched upon... she is hurt, she took it far better than i thought... but i dunno... how can you avoid the subject? it matters to me.. i take my time and work on my own body.. what is so wrong with expecting that from whoever i end up with????

 

[Freak Show]

i take my time and work on my own body.. what is so wrong with expecting that from whoever i end up with????

See thats the problem, madb. We don't have any malicious intent. we want to help. They, for some fuckin reason, don't see it that way. It may be a stereotype, but women have major body image issues.

 

[SeXKiTTen_CanDy]

oh my god what is wrong with a bit off beef dammit?




listen, never ever tell a women she is fat or she needs to work out, you'll be in the 'shit' books for days.

take her rollerblading or some shit, she'll just think it's for fun, that way it's disguised exercise

 

[madbomber31]

i did that.. i tried to get her to play tennis with me... i got excuses NOT to play... she used to play quite a bit but stopped when she went to college (chose a college with no team so she didnt have to play anymore)...

she was never into it, i could tell... so i got her to come to my gym a few times... she worked out very softly... i wasnt supportive to that either i guess... if i said something to correct her she became defensive... so i said fuck it, i wont say a word...

i do say this.. if she is happy how she is then she needs to tell me to shut the fuck up and that its her body... but ya know what? if thats the case then i'm going to be unhappy... and anyone who knows me knows that i'm not the best unhappy boyfriend in town.

 

[Johnny Zampon]

be straight up. tell her if she doesnt lose the weight, your going to break up with her.

 

[Superbabe]

mmmm......when my boyf said to me (magazine in hand) "if you had that arse you'd be perfect" I was straight down the gym.

Maybe you need to give her a positive goal.