The EX reappears...

[slat1]

I hopped on the cpu this morning and low and behold I have an IM. Its the ex.
I almost puked.
She told me what she had been up to the last two months. A hospital stay etc. What ever.
Bottom line. I was hurt and pissed. She as usual turns the whole thing around on me.
We agreed never to talk again. It sucks though. She will forever own the majority of my heart. I will always care about her. We are meant for each other.
I just wish we could have ended it as friends rather than the way we did.
This whole thing makes me sick to my stomach...

 

[nycgirl]

Do you think the conversation you had with her finally brought closure to the situation?

 

[gotmilk]

She pwned you.

She wasn't IM'ing you for a date. I've been thru it before....in and out for two years before I had to finally send her a letter than basically threatened her if she kept screwing with my head.

I was so close to assking her to marry me....and then I started to see the real her.

 

[H_T_]

that sucks. my woman just left me this week. it sucks. it sucks more cuz we have many mutual friends, so we'll both be recieving updates. nothing like wounds being reopened.

 

[EnderJE]

Why don't you just ask why she bothered to IM you? Did she really get some personal satisfaction of hurting you or is she wanting something more?

I know that when my xgfs did this, I just came out and asked them the point. Screw the game. I just wanted to know what's what. In one case, it worked. The girl came out and told me that she still wanted to be with me. In another case, it didn't and the girl told me that she just wanted to fuck with my feelings. Once hearing this, her then boyfriend then dumped her because he realized that he'd be next.

 

[H_T_]

Why don't you just ask why she bothered to IM you? Did she really get some personal satisfaction of hurting you or is she wanting something more?

I know that when my xgfs did this, I just came out and asked them the point. Screw the game. I just wanted to know what's what. In one case, it worked. The girl came out and told me that she still wanted to be with me. In another case, it didn't and the girl told me that she just wanted to fuck with my feelings. Once hearing this, her then boyfriend then dumped her because he realized that he'd be next.

best advice i've heard in a long time.

 

[thelion2005]

I hopped on the cpu this morning and low and behold I have an IM. Its the ex.
I almost puked.
She told me what she had been up to the last two months. A hospital stay etc. What ever.
Bottom line. I was hurt and pissed. She as usual turns the whole thing around on me.
We agreed never to talk again. It sucks though. She will forever own the majority of my heart. I will always care about her. We are meant for each other.
I just wish we could have ended it as friends rather than the way we did.
This whole thing makes me sick to my stomach...

Sent you a PM

 

[KillzwithPillz]

must be a bad week for this kinda stuff, feelin ya pain brotha

 

[SoKlueles]

You should have blocked her
you still can
block her without talking to her and that will give you closure
but most of all LET HER SEE that you block her

 

[Raina]

It's sad when you have to cut ties like that Slat. Doing the right thing doesn't always mean it's painless. But if you two bring out the worst in one another and can't have something healthy, then it's better off that you go your own ways.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

It's sad when you have to cut ties like that Slat. Doing the right thing doesn't always mean it's painless. But if you two bring out the worst in one another and can't have something healthy, then it's better off that you go your own ways.

I Second this motion. Keep your head up cutie time well heal you.

 

[DieselGunz]

I always call X girlfriends...Back At One

because every time you talk to them or see them you are back at step one.

Almost like the time that you took to heal and get your head straight vanishes in one second.

They are just bad news

 

[slat1]

I should say I have only posted the worst about this girl.
By knowing her I became a better person. I was happy for once in my life. I had purpose. It was like we both lived our lives and went through what we did in order to find each other. I can't explain it. It was beyond magical. I get butterflies every time I talk to her.
The distance killed us. Its hard when you can't see someones emotions when you are talking.
She didn't IM me to fuck with me. She was excited to see me. She just got out of the hospital. What did I do.. .flip out.
I asked her if she loved me.. she said yes. But that she had to let me go.
This one is going to take years on a therapists couch to get over. Even then there is nobody that would understand us.
I will miss her every day for the rest of my life. I just wish I knew if she was happy or not. That is all I want for her.. to be happy. If it was me that made her happy... great. If not thats fine too.
I will never know now.
My life is so fucked up. So that means it is normal... its always that way!

 

[slat1]

I sent her a goodbye email. I didn't bash her. I just said thank you and listed all the things she did that changed my life for the better. Listed all the improvements I made in my life. I also told her I would always love her... always be there for her. That I just wanted her to be happy.

 

[Raptorex]

Women are like busses – you miss one and there'll be another one along in a minute

 

[EnderJE]

I sent her a goodbye email. I didn't bash her. I just said thank you and listed all the things she did that changed my life for the better. Listed all the improvements I made in my life. I also told her I would always love her... always be there for her. That I just wanted her to be happy.

Sounds like you're "guilting" her into doing something drastic.

 

[biteme]

I've never gotten anything but trouble out of them. I wish I could stay alone and be completely content.

 

[slat1]

Sounds like you're "guilting" her into doing something drastic.

She was/is very important to me. I don't want it to end on a bad note. We should be able to look at what we had and feel good about it.