Suddenly, I'm single...

[LiLady11]

I... gosh, I don't know where to start. I mean, I can understand why this would have happened, but every reason that I can think of its not it at all. He has all these other things... as you can see, I'm totally confused and probably not making any sense, but what I'm saying makes sense to me.

I don't know where I stand with him. I don't know what to think, how to act, what to say...

All I wanna do

 

[Charvelle]

You may want to update your "location", that may make you feel better. Don't sweat it, if he's a typical guy, he'll come crawling back in a little while, just be patient.

 

[vinylgroover]

Why not just give time to yourself and enjoy without worrying about being in a relationship. You have so much time for that. You're only 22. You shouldn't have to be going through the emtional hardships you have been in the last few months. Take time out Lilady and give to yourself.

 

[Newbie2building]

if he makes you feel that crazy do you really want to be with him?

 

[MP5]

let me give you some insight about men. Unless the guy is getting some quality ass or thinks he is about to, he would rather hang out with his guy friends. There is not one activity that i would rather do with a girl other than waxing.

 

[Haz]

You're right, you're aren't making much sense. But you're a woman, so thats normal.

Whats wrong with being single anyway? I've always prefered it. Go and get yourself a new guy, and forget the old one.

 

[Charvelle]

let me give you some insight about men. Unless the guy is getting some quality ass or thinks he is about to, he would rather hang out with his guy friends. There is not one activity that i would rather do with a girl other than waxing.

I got bashed pretty good when I tried to explain that a few weeks back. I don't expect the girls to know better, but the guys
were just doing their usual ass kissing (I like being friends with
girls, talking with girls, just hanging out), ya right, exactly what
I'm talking about, guys will "say the right thing" when they know
girls are reading or listening, so they can get to the 1st 2 points
you made, getting ass or having it lined up.

 

[LiLady11]

Why not just give time to yourself and enjoy without worrying about being in a relationship. You have so much time for that. You're only 22. You shouldn't have to be going through the emtional hardships you have been in the last few months. Take time out Lilady 11 and give to yourself.

Thanks hon... but heres the thing... I was single for over a year before I started dating him. I was so scared just going into the relationship because I feared something like this would happen. But we were so happy, and we still were two days ago while we just sat and were happy to be with each other. I was certain that he was special and that something brought us together. He says, "If we were truly meant to be, we will again."

So now, I sit and wonder...

 

[SofaGeorge]

if he makes you feel that crazy do you really want to be with him?

Newbie is wise.

 

[LiLady11]

if he makes you feel that crazy do you really want to be with him?

He doesn't normally make me feel crazy... this is just now, when I don't know whether to love him or hate him. I mean, of course I still love him to pieces and would love nothing more than to be in his arms right now... but I also wish that I could just say, "oh well." and move on...

But I can't... I gave my heart out...

 

[velvett]

AHEM

Pick yourself up and take yourself out with your best gal pal and go get a manicure/pedicure together.

Then go out and find the coolest pair of flip flops/thongs you can find.

If you have to find yourself single this is the best time of year to have it happen.

STAY BUSY
BE SOCIAL

and make new friends.






*BIG HUG*



....... coz either way it sucks to be let standing and wondering.

 

[MP5]

tell him you want him back but you don't want to sleep with him anymore and see what happens. I am reality.

 

[Haz]

MP5 is right. If it wasn't for the pussy, most guys wouldn't bother with women at all. There are some exceptions. I have known some great chicks to hang out with. However, for the most part, I talk and hang out with girls so that I can get in their pants. Not for their company.

It might be shallow, but its the truth.

 

[argent]

Newbie is wise.

SG is observant.

I thought the same thing.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

AHEM

Pick yourself up and take yourself out with your best gal pal and go get a manicure/pedicure together.

Then go out and find the coolest pair of flip flops/thongs you can find.

If you have to find yourself single this is the best time of year to have it happen.

STAY BUSY
BE SOCIAL

and make new friends.






*BIG HUG*



....... coz either way it sucks to be let standing and wondering.

Velvett knows because she dumped 1000 guys or so. You are really cruel.

 

[LiLady11]

AHEM

Pick yourself up and take yourself out with your best gal pal and go get a manicure/pedicure together.

Then go out and find the coolest pair of flip flops/thongs you can find.

If you have to find yourself single this is the best time of year to have it happen.

STAY BUSY
BE SOCIAL

and make new friends.






*BIG HUG*



....... coz either way it sucks to be let standing and wondering.

Thank you so much for the kind words Velvett... its going to be tough for a good while... but who knows what the outcome will be... I'll be happy again someday no matter what happens!!

 

[Longhorn85]

Pick yourself up and take yourself out with your best gal pal and go get a manicure/pedicure together.

Then go out and find the coolest pair of flip flops/thongs you can find.

And this makes you feel better? Must be a woman thing.

 

[dballer]

being single does suck.. but do this.. it always makes me feel better.....

Eat some shrooms.. listen to either some Sublime, Rolling Stones.. or Greatful Dead....

and go bowling by yourself.


but first you must eat the mushrooms. This will remind yourself how fun you are.

thank me later.

 

[casavant]

Man, that period right after the breakup, when it's all sinking in, is awful. I hope things start looking up for you. If you drink, try not to hit it to hard- that usually compounds the problem.

 

[Bullit]

let me give you some insight about men. Unless the guy is getting some quality ass or thinks he is about to, he would rather hang out with his guy friends. There is not one activity that i would rather do with a girl other than waxing.

This is true.

 

[danielson]

He says, "If we were truly meant to be, we will again."

So now, I sit and wonder...

if the effect of this was to leave you in limbo he;s a real c***. if he was gonna make a break he should say it, not try and leave it up in the air

 

[smoknjilly]

most likely he had the "omg I'm in a relationship for awhile ahhhhh" scaredy cat type of freak out....

I know its hard...but even if he comes back (which he probably will) please remember....he did it once, most likely will do it again...

I assure you that there are 1000000's of other guys out there...and at 22..you are just beginning!!!!!

 

[LiLady11]

I've been at work all day, pondering everything about him, recalling all the wonderful things that I love about him. And hes not any of the things that you guys think. He is truly a wonderful man with a wonderful heart. I don't want him to sound like a monster for hurting me because he isn't, not at all. And hes not a cock, he's not a jerk... I guess he's confused.

And yes, at 21 this isn't the end of my world. I know that there are plenty of men out there, but to honest, he was, and will continue to be, very special to me.

Some of you may think that I am only saying these things about him now and trying to justify what happened just because I am some young girl in love. But I'm not trying to justify anything, I don't want to make him sound like a prince. Just telling the truth about him...

 

[Longhorn85]

He says, "If we were truly meant to be, we will again."

Cynical translation: "Keep it warm, cuz I may want to hit that thang again sometime"

 

[polarpixie]

lilady, sometimes it's just all on the timing, which is something that is completely out of your hands. If you believe that you're meant to be together, then he will need to realize that for himself and finds out that there is just no one better than you. Otherwise, he may never truly value you for all that you are. If that makes sense. Who knows, by the time this guy realizes that fact, you might've found someone even better.

Keep your eyes and your options open. It'll be ok.

 

[wardog]

I was thru a brutal breakup just about 7 months ago and I can tell you, it isn't easy. What your doing is completely normal, there is anger, then tears, then remembering all the good times, etc. This cycle repeats itself quite a few times, but each time it gets a little better.

I do not suggest taking him back...that never works out in the long run.

Keeping yourself occupied, and adding a new hobby in your life will help. Find something you like, a MA course or something physical, and get involved. Thi is not a short process, but you will get thru it..keep the faith.

 

[dballer]

Well, I got me a fine wife, I got me old fiddle
When the sun's comin' up I got cakes on the griddle
Life ain't nothin' but a funny, funny riddle
Thank God I'm A country boy