Some things better left alone?

[Evil_Frisky]

do you ever wish you'd have handled a situation different then it bothers the hell out of you cause you can't back track and do what you wish you would have done.



For the most part I think I have a level head when it comes to handling situations.. this all comes to me in the last few years. I've learned I can say things less offensive also learned that I shouldn't 'snap'.

Walking away from a situation, for me, is one of the hardest things I ever have to do.. and I always regret not handling it my old way.. the way I've done all my life. Takes some time for me to move past the should have could have would have... that first gut instinct of how to handle this... In time yea... I get over it but I end up kicking myslef umpteen times along the way wishing I could rewind time.

 

[Cutiebaby]

i think that every one has done this

 

[slat1]

I'll bite. What happened?

 

[alien amp pharm]

I have a time machine.

I'd let you borrow it, but I don't trust you.

 

[Gambino]

I still haven't found what I'm looking for

 

[The_Ghost]

do you ever wish you'd have handled a situation different then it bothers the hell out of you cause you can't back track and do what you wish you would have done.



For the most part I think I have a level head when it comes to handling situations.. this all comes to me in the last few years. I've learned I can say things less offensive also learned that I shouldn't 'snap'.

Walking away from a situation, for me, is one of the hardest things I ever have to do.. and I always regret not handling it my old way.. the way I've done all my life. Takes some time for me to move past the should have could have would have... that first gut instinct of how to handle this... In time yea... I get over it but I end up kicking myslef umpteen times along the way wishing I could rewind time.

I would love to help ya but I just turned avi's back on and now I am sorta messed up. Oh lordy!!!

 

[nycgirl]

For the most part I think I have a level head when it comes to handling situations.. this all comes to me in the last few years. I've learned I can say things less offensive also learned that I shouldn't 'snap'.
Walking away from a situation, for me, is one of the hardest things I ever have to do.. and I always regret not handling it my old way.. the way I've done all my life.

So true.

 

[Lestat]

is this in reference to the jerseyart fiasco?

 

[slat1]

I think it may have to do with the loser at her work that asks her to do stupid stuff like print something out. He doesn't know how to do it... and... they don't even work together...

 

[awittyusername]

I think it may have to do with the loser at her work that asks her to do stupid stuff like print something out. He doesn't know how to do it... and... they don't even work together...

lol

Yes, that shit has to stop!!!!!!!!!1

 

[Evil_Frisky]

lol..

1. Quit bringing JA up in my threads.. If I wanted to discuss him I'd let you all know.. I said my part about the guy... I'm done.

2. This is just an in general question.. as I've done this alot lately.. Any one instance in particular.. Yes of course.. do i care to elaborate .. No. I'm just asking in general.

3. This happens to me in all aspects of my life.. private, social, and work related... Has nothing to do with the incomeptent assnozzle in my office.

 

[Lestat]

so its not JA then?

 

[cornfish]

lol..

1. Quit bringing JA up in my threads.. If I wanted to discuss him I'd let you all know.. I said my part about the guy... I'm done.

2. This is just an in general question.. as I've done this alot lately.. Any one instance in particular.. Yes of course.. do i care to elaborate .. No. I'm just asking in general.

3. This happens to me in all aspects of my life.. private, social, and work related... Has nothing to do with the incomeptent assnozzle in my office.

I hear ya. The older you get though the less you usually have that spite or will to have the last word. I find myself asking the question, "Would i rather be happy or rather be right?" I'm opting more and more for being happy and leaving the last word to someone else.

 

[Scotsman]

I frequently look back on a situation and wish I had phrased things a bit better/differently, but I would never go back to change them as you shouldn't regret the things that you have done, that just leads to a life of introspection and misery.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Evil_Frisky]

I frequently look back on a situation and wish I had phrased things a bit better/differently, but I would never go back to change them as you shouldn't regret the things that you have done, that just leads to a life of introspection and misery.

Cheers,
Scotsman

I don't for the most part regret the things I have done... more along the lines regret what I didn't do. I sometimes feel i'd have more closure if I'd have handled it differently..

does that make any sense?

 

[needtogetaas]

ja

 

[nycgirl]

I don't for the most part regret the things I have done... more along the lines regret what I didn't do. I sometimes feel i'd have more closure if I'd have handled it differently..
does that make any sense?

Yes. But what if they way you handled it was the mature way?

 

[Eringobraugh]

so its not JA then?

Nearly spit my coffee out when I scrolled down to this

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Yes. But what if they way you handled it was the mature way?

I know it was and normally is.. when I blow up I tend to go overboard I don't know boundries, or limits.

I'm not sure why I go back and want to do things different... I guess there was no satisfaction on my part... hmph

 

[Scotsman]

I don't for the most part regret the things I have done... more along the lines regret what I didn't do. I sometimes feel i'd have more closure if I'd have handled it differently..

does that make any sense?

Totally makes sense. Just be careful on the regrets part. There's a million things you coulda/shoulda/woulda done, but you didn't and you did what you felt was right at the time and that's what's important. Sometimes closure isn't the best thing sometime things should be left unfinished because more often than not you will finish them at an unexpected time and place.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Evil_Frisky]

so its not JA then?

don't be an asswipe Lessy

 

[Becoming]

I frequently look back on a situation and wish I had phrased things a bit better/differently, but I would never go back to change them as you shouldn't regret the things that you have done, that just leads to a life of introspection and misery.

I think scots says it best... sure you could double think yourself, but I would just say "hey, I am human and will make errors" and move on.

it happens.

 

[Lestat]

don't be an asswipe Lessy

was just trying to be thorough, not a dick.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

So yea.. some things better left as is. Though I play some scene's over and over in my head.. as I do at the moment of confrontation. And Seriously I scare myself with the thoughs that run as to what I want to do and could do opposed to what I did do.

 

[nycgirl]

If you know in your heart that you handled it the right way, that's all that matters. Sometimes things aren't meant to be closed.

 

[Becoming]

So yea.. some things better left as is. Though I play some scene's over and over in my head.. as I do at the moment of confrontation. And Seriously I scare myself with the thoughs that run as to what I want to do and could do opposed to what I did do.

There are things where if you think back on em, say you are so embarrased or something you actually get that pit feeling in your stomach all over again? I have.

I learned it is better just to let them go and to learn from the experience.

 

[Scotsman]

So yea.. some things better left as is. Though I play some scene's over and over in my head.. as I do at the moment of confrontation. And Seriously I scare myself with the thoughs that run as to what I want to do and could do opposed to what I did do.

Can you beat this.

More than once in traffic I have imagined breaking out the persons window dragging them out, beating them senseless and then flipping the car over on them while they're unconscious.

These are my daily thoughts.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[EnderJE]

No, I know that I can't change the past and wishing it won't change anything. What's the use of regret?

 

[Becoming]

Can you beat this.

More than once in traffic I have imagined breaking out the persons window dragging them out, beating them senseless and then flipping the car over on them while they're unconscious.

Hahah. One time this cabby cut me off and I yelled at him out the window...

He decided to get out of the car...

So I did to and yelled something like "I am going to fucking stomp you into the ground"

At which he quickly and quietly got back in the cab and drove away.


funny shit.

and I don't regret it. sometimes it just has to be done.

 

[slat1]

Can you beat this.

More than once in traffic I have imagined breaking out the persons window dragging them out, beating them senseless and then flipping the car over on them while they're unconscious.

These are my daily thoughts.

Cheers,
Scotsman

Thats normal in my parts. People are idiots when they drive. They have a false sense of bravado behing the wheel of a ton of steel. Get them out and its on!!!!

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Can you beat this.

More than once in traffic I have imagined breaking out the persons window dragging them out, beating them senseless and then flipping the car over on them while they're unconscious.

These are my daily thoughts.

Cheers,
Scotsman

lmoa

I have thoughts on a daily basis about punching some twit dead in the throat then grabing by the hair and blasting their face into the conrete.

 

[Scotsman]

Hahah. One time this cabby cut me off and I yelled at him out the window...

He decided to get out of the car...

So I did to and yelled something like "I am going to fucking stomp you into the ground"

At which he quickly and quietly got back in the cab and drove away.


funny shit.

and I don't regret it. sometimes it just has to be done.

This is why it's fun to drive a small car no one expects a big guy to come charging out of it, the sheer look of terror on their faces is highly worth it.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[nycgirl]

lmoa

I have thoughts on a daily basis about punching some twit dead in the throat then grabing by the hair and blasting their face into the conrete.

Frisky (I know what you are referring to) - Let that shit go. Trust me, it isn't worth it.

 

[Becoming]

I have thoughts on a daily basis about punching some twit dead in the throat then grabing by the hair and blasting their face into the conrete.

yikes! she means buisness.

I like the action words like "blasting"

LOL

 

[The_Ghost]

lmoa

I have thoughts on a daily basis about punching some twit dead in the throat then grabing by the hair and blasting their face into the conrete.

I do as well but have been advised against it, something about it being against the law or something. The drivers in Toronto suck majorly and deserve an ass whippin!!!!!

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Frisky (I know what you are referring to) - Let that shit go. Trust me, it isn't worth it.

I know its not ....... But DAMN it would feel good.. LOL

 

[Scotsman]

lmoa

I have thoughts on a daily basis about punching some twit dead in the throat then grabing by the hair and blasting their face into the conrete.

We should go drinking and discuss how the demise of those around us should occur. Would be a good time.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[The_Ghost]

This is why it's fun to drive a small car no one expects a big guy to come charging out of it, the sheer look of terror on their faces is highly worth it.

Cheers,
Scotsman

This is soo true LMAO!!

 

[Seashell]

Damn roid-heads.. all of ya!


j/k don't hurt me.

 

[nycgirl]

I know its not ....... But DAMN it would feel good.. LOL

Oh, I know. I could've blown up over a recent situation, but I chose to let it go and avoid it. You will probably never see that person again.

 

[The_Ghost]

Damn roid-heads.. all of ya!


j/k don't hurt me.

I have no idea what you are talking about.

(just practising for my day in court )

 

[Evil_Frisky]

We should go drinking and discuss how the demise of those around us should occur. Would be a good time.

Cheers,
Scotsman

Guiness and wings? I'm in

 

[Seashell]

I have no idea what you are talking about.

(just practising for my day in court )

Exhibit A: A necklace. Broken by the fury of Dawgmo's angry neck.

 

[The_Ghost]

Exhibit A: A necklace. Broken by the fury of Dawgmo's angry neck.

Gulp that and photos lol

 

[Becoming]

here is a story where you should regret it....

one of my buddies from college that I played football once was at this stop light in his car... the light turns green and the car in front of him doesn't go. he honks his horn... nothing. he rolls down the window and yells some shit at the dude in front of him.... still nothing. he gets out of the car and knocks on the guys window screaming at him something like "you better get the fuck out of the car cause I am going to kick your ass" nothing from the guy, he is looking straight ahead. my buddy gives the window a forearm, smashing it out and grabs the guy by the collar screaming "you are in a lot of trouble buddy cause I am going to kick your ass up and down this street"... the guy pulls out a badge and says "no, you are in a lot of trouble"

gets out of the car, hand cuffs my buddy and proceeds to kick the shit out of him for about half an hour with some other cops that pulled up right as he was handcuffing him...

now that one was an example of too far...

he might regret that one.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

here is a story where you should regret it....

one of my buddies from college that I played football once was at this stop light in his car... the light turns green and the car in front of him doesn't go. he honks his horn... nothing. he rolls down the window and yells some shit at the dude in front of him.... still nothing. he gets out of the car and knocks on the guys window screaming at him something like "you better get the fuck out of the car cause I am going to kick your ass" nothing from the guy, he is looking straight ahead. my buddy gives the window a forearm, smashing it out and grabs the guy by the collar screaming "you are in a lot of trouble buddy cause I am going to kick your ass up and down this street"... the guy pulls out a badge and says "no, you are in a lot of trouble"

gets out of the car, hand cuffs my buddy and proceeds to kick the shit out of him for about half an hour with some other cops that pulled up right as he was handcuffing him...

now that one was an example of too far...

he might regret that one.

OUCH..

 

[jaded]

Yes, the problem with me is that when I do this - replay scenarios over and over and wish I had done things differently - I dwell on it and beat myself up over it even though I know that I can't rewind time and change things. I've always been this way and it sucks, although I have gotten better.

 

[Scotsman]

here is a story where you should regret it....

one of my buddies from college that I played football once was at this stop light in his car... the light turns green and the car in front of him doesn't go. he honks his horn... nothing. he rolls down the window and yells some shit at the dude in front of him.... still nothing. he gets out of the car and knocks on the guys window screaming at him something like "you better get the fuck out of the car cause I am going to kick your ass" nothing from the guy, he is looking straight ahead. my buddy gives the window a forearm, smashing it out and grabs the guy by the collar screaming "you are in a lot of trouble buddy cause I am going to kick your ass up and down this street"... the guy pulls out a badge and says "no, you are in a lot of trouble"

gets out of the car, hand cuffs my buddy and proceeds to kick the shit out of him for about half an hour with some other cops that pulled up right as he was handcuffing him...

now that one was an example of too far...

he might regret that one.

This is where you should just flip the car and be done with it.

Fuck that sucks, goddamn corrupt cops suck ass.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[BUBBLES]

I rarely regret the things I have done in the past mainly because what I have done/said I have tried to do/say to the best of my ability which does not leave much room for regrets later on (ie **in serious matters). In most instances I view the issue from different angles and at the time of the situation I make my decisions based on the environment, people around, ideas, what happened before, what may happen in future, feelings who will be affected and most of all do I care or will I care about it later on.

The question that runs through my head is "am I prepared to lose a friend or my dignity over an issue" if the answer is no then I won't take adverse actions in relation to my question.

When I was about 8 years old my cousin said to me on many occasions "Never regret your past decisions" and that has always stayed with me.

 

[evansteve]

This has happened to everyone.

The question is too generic.

 

[ChefWide]

edit.


nah, its not about the doing. its about sharing some responsiblity, some humility, and some appology, no?

 

[Evil_Frisky]

edit.


nah, its not about the doing. its about sharing some responsiblity, some humility, and some appology, no?

yes darlin..