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So guys,
I've thought about it, and I realize that if I am to go around and mack on chicks out in public I am going to need self confidence before doing so. And I've thought about it and there are 2 main things I need to improve on in my life in order to increase self confidence.
1. I obviously wouldnt mind if I looked better. So I will pursue that goal.
2. It would definately help if I had "social proof"
By social proof I mean this: a good group of friends that I hung out with on a regular basis.
As you all know I am a Christian and I like to have friends that share the same beliefs, and all throughout my life I've never really had a good close group of Christian friends. I had a good non-christian friend group in high school, but eventually that kind of fell apart when college started, and now we just hang out occaisionally sometimes over the summer.
I guess its safe to say that I havent really found any new close friends since highschool has ended. So as you can imagine, during the majority of the year, I dont have friends to hang around. And unfortunately a Christian female probably wouldnt be too impressed by the fact that my close friends are non-christian.
And this last year, yall know how I went to a private Christian college, but I didnt really make a tight group of friends there, mainly I think because I didnt put enough time into getting to know people, and also the people I did try getting to know were too stuck up to wanna be with me.
I realize one of the things that really hampers my self confidence is that I don't have a strong group of friends, Christian friends, (which is what I will probably need to have if I am trying to seek after a Christian girl)
Do you guys think that maybe perhaps I am going to be really limited in my confidence towards approaching women and my success with them, until I go out and establish a main group of friends?
I dont know why, but I feel that my success with women will be limited, until I do that.
I've thought about it, and I realize that if I am to go around and mack on chicks out in public I am going to need self confidence before doing so. And I've thought about it and there are 2 main things I need to improve on in my life in order to increase self confidence.
1. I obviously wouldnt mind if I looked better. So I will pursue that goal.
2. It would definately help if I had "social proof"
By social proof I mean this: a good group of friends that I hung out with on a regular basis.
As you all know I am a Christian and I like to have friends that share the same beliefs, and all throughout my life I've never really had a good close group of Christian friends. I had a good non-christian friend group in high school, but eventually that kind of fell apart when college started, and now we just hang out occaisionally sometimes over the summer.
I guess its safe to say that I havent really found any new close friends since highschool has ended. So as you can imagine, during the majority of the year, I dont have friends to hang around. And unfortunately a Christian female probably wouldnt be too impressed by the fact that my close friends are non-christian.
And this last year, yall know how I went to a private Christian college, but I didnt really make a tight group of friends there, mainly I think because I didnt put enough time into getting to know people, and also the people I did try getting to know were too stuck up to wanna be with me.
I realize one of the things that really hampers my self confidence is that I don't have a strong group of friends, Christian friends, (which is what I will probably need to have if I am trying to seek after a Christian girl)
Do you guys think that maybe perhaps I am going to be really limited in my confidence towards approaching women and my success with them, until I go out and establish a main group of friends?
I dont know why, but I feel that my success with women will be limited, until I do that.
