social anxiety?

[superspud]

So i have rosacea and yet also think i have social anxiety. I don't mind going out but i don't like standing out in groups or talking in front of groups when i do its more like almost a mumble or people can't really hear me. I do go out with friends to bars and clubs have some drinks and then sometimes open (as everyone who drnks does ) but going up to girls is hard, talkign to them is hard just can't seem to go up to strangers that i know and start conversations and such. And it just sucks. I want to be more out going to girls and people but every time i'm about to do somthing my rosacea kicks in and makes THINGS alot harder, turn red people look at you funny so looking embarrsed and being extremly shy doesn't work to great. If i look at a girl and she looks at me i just look away, i can't look at them back in the eyes, smile wave or anything.. fucking sucks. any advice or things i should do? go see a shrink or a doctor of sorts? get drugs for it? i'm 21 and very successful, bought a house, have a 2k4 subaru STi and a 2k4 yamaha R6 bike. I'm a Senior Systems engineer so all i do is code all day and work on servers and such. And I try to hit the gym 4 times a week. Been single for almost 3 years now and unable to do things is well fucking sucks.

thanks.

 

[stingray]

I know there are drugs out there for social anxiety, Im not sure the name of them though. Possibly Paxil, but I am not positive on that one.

 

[BrokerOnce]

I know there are drugs out there for social anxiety, Im not sure the name of them though. Possibly Paxil, but I am not positive on that one.

I came here for bodybuilding info but this caught my eye, yes Paxil is the correct name for one social anxiety drug

 

[Joester]

Superspud
Before you take ANY meds such as Paxil, you should go see someone trained to evaluate you as to whether 1] you need such a med, 2] this is the correct med, for there are several out there, and each isn't for everyone. There are nuances that distinguish each psych condition, and each med has different effects and side effects, and each person responds uniquely to the med. This is why you should get eval'd first.
Anyone who tells you otherwise isn't looking out for you, and/or doesn't know what they are talking about.
Also, my advice would be to see a psychiatrist, since they can prescribe what you need, so you won't need to see anyone else.

Hope I helped, and good luck

 

[The_first_athlete]

Ecstasy

 

[Tom Treutlein]

I'm sure there could be severe cases in which people might need to be medicated for such symptoms or said disorders, but really, I think you just need more confidence. Really, it could just be something that takes getting used to. Don't turn to meds yet, man. Really focus on it. The mind is a lot more powerful than you think, and could probably fix your problem on its own, if you so permit it.

 

[senorita_lifts_alot]

i tried prozac and paxil....i am not saying that this is the cure but it definatly helped me....upping my EFA's. i have not taken any more meds for depression or anxiety...i still feel it everynow and then but its controllable now....but you definatly should see a dr about it....

 

[Spartacus]

effexor..has an anti-anxiety component and also has an energizing component..you feel great and have no fear..trouble is it will make it hard for you to orgasm if you can at all..so my recommendation would be to get on it and get used to talking with thebabes,pick one out and ask her out..go out on a few dates and when you're comfortable enough with her to get intimate,back off of the drug..explain my plaan to the doc and you be able to taper off w/o sides

 

[Luciano_]

Dude, you are shy and that's bugger. But I recomend that you face it and do little efford every day to change things. Every day, like keeping your eyes until SHE looks away. Do it with a total stranger, it's not too difficult, you'll see.

If you are going to see a psychiatrist, when he starts writing a prescription ask him if he would give the same drug to his son.

Btw, what is to be "a senior eng"?
I mean, you are 21 !

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Thanks for the info....

 

[Generic MALE]

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[Generic MALE]

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[superspud]

Dude, you are shy and that's bugger. But I recomend that you face it and do little efford every day to change things. Every day, like keeping your eyes until SHE looks away. Do it with a total stranger, it's not too difficult, you'll see.

If you are going to see a psychiatrist, when he starts writing a prescription ask him if he would give the same drug to his son.

Btw, what is to be "a senior eng"?
I mean, you are 21 !

thanks, well i managed to put some balls up over the past couple weeks and met a girl thats amazing and shes now my gf.. so i'm all set on that department now. still shy in public and all that stuff but little more confident now.

and as a senior engineer.. well age doesn't matter really its all experiance.. i was 15 and started a hosting company with 2 friends.. i stayed in for 3 years..and sold out of it. then was a vp of engineering for another hosting company left there due to the shit storm of an asshole owner now i'm happy 400 miles away in my new job .. no college just a ton of experiance.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

thanks, well i managed to put some balls up over the past couple weeks and met a girl thats amazing and shes now my gf.. so i'm all set on that department now. still shy in public and all that stuff but little more confident now.

Thats great to hear!!!

 

[Kai Hvatum]

My favorite supplements for confidence are DMAE, Nootropil 800, and Gotu Kola. They're not the perfect solution, but they help. When I've taken Gotu Kola and DMAE I immediately feel really confident in myself. I also feel like I'm able to read conversations without even thinking about it, and funny and interesting comments seem to fly of my lips without my even thinking of them. I'm still able to control myself though, so it's not like a hit of ecstasy

All I can say in the end is: Confidence Shows. When chicks sense that you might not know what's going on or that you're not in control of your life you're as good as dumped.

 

[Aeoleon]

Ex actually works. Could kill u too tho

 

[bigstve12]

Anti-d's have nasty side effects. Now that you got a GF your not gonna want to deal with those (most are sexual). Just one day at a time my man....try to take small steps evry day and they will add up.

 

[superspud]

Anti-d's have nasty side effects. Now that you got a GF your not gonna want to deal with those (most are sexual). Just one day at a time my man....try to take small steps evry day and they will add up.

unfortunetly i think this gf is ending it pretty soon :-/ for a while i was the perfect guy.. then the next day/morning she didn't even want to talk to me girls are more fucked in the head than we are.

 

[irish_pride]

man i have no problem at all in pulling a chick, keeping them happy afterwards is difficult. thats why i prefer one night stands ive had my heart broken once or twice before so from now on im only commiting myself to a girl who is really special ie. one who has my babies.

one night stands are great though as long as its protected.

its all about confidence get a few drinks into you before you approach a chick, try to make eye contact though before you approach her, you should be able to tell before hand if shes interested by her reactions

. rejection is to be expected but dont let it get you down . there is plenty more fish in the sea

i always find that making a girl laugh is what they are attracted to, aswell as a warm smile and compliments

 

[juve]

Well, I would say you need to assess how severe (if at all) your social anxiety is - is it a phobia that precludes you from normal interaction with other cohabitants or maybe you're simply an introvert, more devoted/focused on career, material investment.
Counseling is a great way to deal with many inhibitions no matter how severe. Among drugs, the usuall SSRI's (paroxetine, fluoxetine, etc) are usually only up to 25% effective in alleviating social anxiety symptoms; many people are non-responders - SSRI's tend to make you non-impulsive. Benzo's, like Clonapezam, Lorazepam have much higher rates of success (up to 60%) and they simply attenuate onset of anxiety and lossen your inhibitions. MAOI's are among the strongest - Nardil, Parnate - have high rates of success (80%) but really should be used in most severe cases.
Therapy and more open contact with people are a great step forward - how well you manage this step will tell you if you really need any drugs or supplements (GABA, Phenibut, l-Theanine, etc)!

 

[Morb]

sounds like youre functional and thats more than most, it might help if you didnt think of yourself as a superstud, youre creating an internal/external dichotomy that probably is not helping, the good news is that most psychological disorders disappear by age 30, as for the drug part i see where the mdma comment is coming from but that stuff is toxic, alters dna and burns out synapses, lsd, contrary to the reefer madness buzz is much safer if youre trying to transcend mental constraints, prescription drugs i dont think are the way to go either at best they numb your senses, the best advice is just to stay clean and be more socially active and involved, concentrate on your breathing and try to stay relaxed, things will get easier, ghb is a simple carb if im not mistaken and is being used for anxiety, not pre stressful situation but the night before as it is prescribed, if youre in cali youre in luck

 

[glennds]

oh please the kid is 21 years old!. his "social anxiety" is just a lack of self esteem and confidence.

super spud a lot us felt exactly the same way at that age. as you get older and gain more confidence you will feel more comfortable with people. you do not need paxil.

 

[Sazuki]

Social anxiety is BS, medications are also BS.

You have been conditioned to act is such ways. I used to have it, and still have it at times, you just gotto fight for your social skills. Practise practise. And if there are deep underlying causes for the anxiety fix them, be totally honest with yourself, dig inside your past if you need.

Quick fix your social anxiety with medications, like you will become a great public speaker with taking a couple of caps or seroxat?

Say no to mental medications. Buy some motivation/inspiration/self help books and tapes from amazon and start living your life.

I barely knew how to get groceries some years ago, now I can walk up to girls and get laid. Fight for it!

 

[RaMp4ge]

Just a matter of building your confidence up, try playing the "hi" game where you just say high to as many girls as you possible can while you are going where you need to go during the day. Alot of people have had very positive results from this technique. good luck dude.