So thoughts about the ex...

[Lestat]

So in true Lestat fashion.. I post one thread about my recent successes with women.. and another one about the ex.

I am hesitant to even post this, because its gonna make me look weak, emotional, blah blah blah.. but fuck it....

So now it has been 3 and a half months since the breakup with the ex...

I've done a ton of dating since then, had some wild sex, met some cool people.


I've started dating someone that is very cool, definitely relationship type material.. we are still in the beginning stages of things and its not serious, we're not boyfriend girlfriend.... but yeah, we are having sex.

She stayed the night last night.... it was nice, we had a good time.. but as I'm going to bed my thoughts were focused on my fucking ex.

Believe me, I hate the fact that I am still thinking about her at all, I wish I wasn't.. I don't know how to stop it.

So last night I was thinking... "shit, its been 3 months.. why am I still thinking of her... I wonder if she still thinks about me.. I wonder if she regrets breaking up with me"...

I thought that I could write her a letter... nothing overly emtional.. but something saying that I thought she made an immature and irrational decision.. that I don't blame her, she wanted to enjoy some single time.. but at the same time I think her and I had the potential to be amazing together.. not just good, not great, but amazing. We were compatible on so many levels, we were best friends... she's a definitely one of a kind as far as women go that I have met.

I'm not going to do that.. I'm not going to write her.. send her anything.. but why is this shit on my mind right now.....

Last night, during my session of sex.... my head was fucked... this new girl, its not her fault, but she doesn't "know me..." she fumbles around, trying to get things right trying to do what she thinks I'll like.. but its all wrong... same goes for me.. with my ex.. i could make her cum in 2 minutes.. bam! I knew exactly what to do... with this girl, I haven't made her cum yet... I'm lost... its like with my ex I was fucking money... I could't lose.. with this girl I'm wondering if I'll ever be able to please her... WTF..

Oh well.. yet another post to show what a head case I am lately.

 

[jh1]

Yeah.. ya need to keep working to get your head in the right place... that last part about the sex was right on... that sucks. Keep at it.

I guess I was so fucking lucky this time... my crazy ex broke up and someone else even more amazing walked in my life and I never looked back... Not Once.

Just keep your head on straight, and no... don't even think about writing her any letter or shit...

 

[Dial_tone]

Everytime you think about your ex you owe me $20...........this should cover next year's GH.

 

[SteelChic]

I havent read your other posts, but how long were you with this girl?

It took awhile for me to get over one of my ex's after we dated for a year. I dated other people right away, but nothing ever came out of it... I think...well I am pretty sure I was just on the rebound.

I guess I am just tring to say it takes time... I remained single for almost 2 years.... I dated some great guys in that time, but nothing clicked on my end... I might just be a little picky... I have been in a relationship now for a while, and we have been living together since March... I think I am alot closer to him than I ever was my ex...

Just dont rush into any relationship.... you may just need time...

 

[Becoming]

Bro this is totally normal - it will get less and less with time.....half the fun is finding all the stuff out about the new person (that you knew so well about the old)

I would enjoy where you are with the new girl but keep yourself open to new things just in case... you never know something even better might knock on your door

 

[bran987]

whatever you do don't write her

 

[Dakotah]

I have read a few of your previous threads about your ex and what has gone on since the split. People never know what they are missing until its gone. Keep your head up. Someday some lucky lady will win your heart and you will win hers. Im not sure if that helps.


This is sort of irrelevant but something you said struck a chord.


I remember when i used to fumble around for devastation when i first got with him. I always felt crazy after doing it;in the end i wanted to show that i am independant when i have to be and im strong. Now that we have been together for 8 months and two days i still love to do it a little every now and then but i feel so comfortable with him.
Point being that sometimes stuff like that is a good sign in my opinion, then again i could be off -- just have fun and take everything one step at a time. You said it yourself you have had some good times since the split.


Good luck with everything, and if you do write to her you dont have to give it to her just toss it sometimes it just feels better when you get it out.

Dakotah

 

[Lestat]

I have read a few of your previous threads about your ex and what has gone on since the split. People never know what they are missing until its gone. Keep your head up. Someday some lucky lady will win your heart and you will win hers. Im not sure if that helps.


This is sort of irrelevant but something you said struck a chord.


I remember when i used to fumble around for devastation when i first got with him. I always felt crazy after doing it;in the end i wanted to show that i am independant when i have to be and im strong. Now that we have been together for 8 months and two days i still love to do it a little every now and then but i feel so comfortable with him.
Point being that sometimes stuff like that is a good sign in my opinion, then again i could be off -- just have fun and take everything one step at a time. You said it yourself you have had some good times since the split.


Good luck with everything, and if you do write to her you dont have to give it to her just toss it sometimes it just feels better when you get it out.

Dakotah

good advice...

I did write the letter.. in an email for to myself... but will not send it to her... I've done this a few times, sometimes it does feel good to just get things out.


I'm still probably in no shape to really date... but I just crave that feeling of being loved... all those cute emails... I dunno.. I'm not insecure... but to me I just like knowing that there is someone out there that thinks the world of me ya know?

 

[IwouldSlamU]

I say no letter....

 

[150shot]

I did the same...exactly the same. In fact, I was barely aroused and this chick was hot, not smokin but good enough, and couldnt get the ex out at all.

I felt bad just like you, this chick was all in to me....but at least I found the real meaning of REBOUND. good luck...

 

[Lestat]

I did the same...exactly the same. In fact, I was barely aroused and this chick was hot, not smokin but good enough, and couldnt get the ex out at all.

I felt bad just like you, this chick was all in to me....but at least I found the real meaning of REBOUND. good luck...

I was hoping this WOULDN'T be a rebound though.. I've dated a lot before this girl.... thought that would have gotten the ex out of my system ya know... but when i started getting closer to this girl...when it started being more then just a hook up.. thoughts of the ex started rushing back.

 

[jh1]

good advice...

I did write the letter.. in an email for to myself... but will not send it to her... I've done this a few times, sometimes it does feel good to just get things out.


I'm still probably in no shape to really date... but I just crave that feeling of being loved... all those cute emails... I dunno.. I'm not insecure... but to me I just like knowing that there is someone out there that thinks the world of me ya know?

Yeah writing letters and keeping them is cool... gets things off your mind...

I've done that plenty....

If you want cute lovey emails... shoot me your addy over... I'll hook ya up...

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Everytime you think about your ex you owe me $20...........this should cover next year's GH.

I want in on that action.

Seriously though Lestat thoughts are just thoughts you can't stop them. Write her the letter to get it out, but don't send it.
It could be worse I came very close to screaming out the other guys name the first time I was in the sack with the new man.

 

[Lestat]

I want in on that action.

Seriously though Lestat thoughts are just thoughts you can't stop them. Write her the letter to get it out, but don't send it.
It could be worse I came very close to screaming out the other guys name the first time I was in the sack with the new man.

next time just scream out my name instead

 

[d3track]

This is sort of irrelevant but something you said struck a chord.


I remember when i used to fumble around for devastation when i first got with him. I always felt crazy after doing it;in the end i wanted to show that i am independant when i have to be and im strong. Now that we have been together for 8 months and two days i still love to do it a little every now and then but i feel so comfortable with him.
Point being that sometimes stuff like that is a good sign in my opinion, then again i could be off -- just have fun and take everything one step at a time. You said it yourself you have had some good times since the split.

wow wow wow
when did i miss the part about lestat and devastation dating?

 

[season7445]

Was the name yo where screaming Steven?

 

[Dakotah]

wow wow wow
when did i miss the part about lestat and devastation dating?

you are a ding dong

okay i didnt word it right but he still knew what i was saying.



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Lestat

I do think that you writing it and not sending it is a good idea.
You are going to go through the thinking about her part for a while but soon that will pass. I sure know what you were saying about the liking the fact that someone is all about you.
I was the same way.
Everything takes time.

Without sounding out of line I hope.
You sound like a very nice guy and some girl would be lucky to have you someday. Your heart is in the right place.
Just have confidence in yourself and that special someone will find you.

D.

 

[d3track]

you are a ding dong

okay i didnt word it right but he still knew what i was saying.

just havin fun

at least now i know that some do read my posts

 

[awittyusername]

good advice...

I did write the letter.. in an email for to myself... but will not send it to her... I've done this a few times, sometimes it does feel good to just get things out.


I'm still probably in no shape to really date... but I just crave that feeling of being loved... all those cute emails... I dunno.. I'm not insecure... but to me I just like knowing that there is someone out there that thinks the world of me ya know?

Bro, you are one smart guy. Writing the the letter helps. Now, delete it so you don't send it in a week moment.

You are exactly right about not being ready to date seriously yet. Most people jump from relationship to relationship because they are insecure. We all have felt the same way as you. I'll admit I have and I'm the most jaded mother fucker alive.

You know getting real serious w/this chic wouldnt be right. Eventhough she is a great girl. It might not be fair to her if your still thinking of your ex and if you have doubts she isn't the perfect girl for you.

 

[The Greatest]

don't become emotionally pathetic like I was with my ex. Breakup's take time, enjoy the sex, blow some coke and live it up till the real one comes along.

 

[jnevin]

Just go out, find a homeless person, rip his arm off, and beat him with it until his whole body looks like the bloody pulp at the shoulder joint.... Or not. I'm going through a divorce, so my head's a little clouded about women, feeling angry. At least you got one into bed. I just botched a sure thing with a Hooters girl this past weekend. Apparently I've lost all game. Deca and EQ don't help keep your shit straight either. Don't write the letter. If you can't talk to her directly, a letter that doesn't get a response could increase the thoughts of "What if?". Also, if you're a little drunk and the white devil came into the picture late in the evening, don't tell a Hooters girl she smells like fried stuff if she says you smell like grass.... I'm just saying, if.

 

[hoosier]

Just fight the letter as much as you can, cause someday when you are over her, and if you happen to run into her, you'll be thinking WHY did i send her that letter. You will think that she got the better of you..............Hang in there.

And DON"T SEND THE LETTER

 

[gonelifting]

Just in case you ever WANT to change your mind about the letter. Your credibility will be ZERO with her.


and me. ASS.

I think all you`re feeling is normal. It`s also cool to explore and find out what the new person likes wants in the bedroom. It can only get better from here. good luck.

 

[bran987]

Just in case you ever WANT to change your mind about the letter. Your credibility will be ZERO with her.

yes. this is why you can't write her. it would be very undude.

 

[Dial_tone]

I think if he writes it he will send it eventually.

 

[strangebrew]

I can't tell you baby what went wrong
I can't make you feel what you felt so long ago
I let it show
I can't give you back what's been hurt
Heart aches come and go and
All that's left are the words
I can't let go
If we take some time, think it over baby
Take some time, let me know
If you really wanna go
Don't know what you got til it's gone
Don't know what it is I did so wrong
Now I know what I got
It's just this song
And it ain't easy to get back takes so long
I can't feel the things that cause you pain
I can't clear my heart of your love it falls like rain
Ain't the same
I hear you calling far away
Tearing through my soul
I just can't take another day
Who's to blame
If we take some time, think it over baby
Take some time, let me know
If you really wanna go
Don't know what you got til it's gone
Don't know what it is I did so wrong
Now I know what I got
It's just this song
And it ain't easy to get back takes so long
Do you wanna see me beggin' baby
Can't you give me just one more day
Can't you see my heart's been draggin' lately
I've been looking for the words to say
Ooooh
Don't know what you got til it's gone
Don't know what it is I did so wrong, wrong, wrong
Now I know what I got
It's just this song
And it ain't easy to get back takes so long
Don't know what you got til it's gone
Don't know what it is I did so wrong, wrong, wrong
Now I know what I got
It's just this song

Don't shed no tears,
I don't need a thing.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I know what you mean Lestat. Sometimes you find a girl that can't be replaced. I'm sorry she's not still with you. You never know, one day she may come back and tell you she made a mistake and wants you back. It could happen, but in the meantime date the other girl and DO NOT contact your ex.

I'm back with my ex now and things are going great. However now I'm paranoid as shit.

 

[Dial_tone]

I'm back with my ex now and things are going great. However now I'm paranoid as shit.

You gotta remember somethin. You have the older man mystique over her. She thinks you can be out dating hot chicks 10 yrs older than so she thinks she's lucky in a way. If you lose that mystique you're done for, even if you think you don't have it act like you do.

 

[velvett]

In a week from now mail the letter to yourself and then read it.


Hauntings are hard to deal with but in time they will lessen.

 

[alien amp pharm]

You gotta remember somethin. You have the older man mystique over her. She thinks you can be out dating hot chicks 10 yrs older than so she thinks she's lucky in a way. If you lose that mystique you're done for, even if you think you don't have it act like you do.

Excellent point.
She doesn't need to know how desperate, pathetic, whooped, controlled, lonely I really am.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

keep going down the rabbit hole lestat, you havnt reached the end yet

 

[Lestat]

keep going down the rabbit hole lestat, you havnt reached the end yet

Shit man, when and how does it end?

 

[Moderate_THIS]

Excellent point.
She doesn't need to know how desperate, pathetic, whooped, controlled, lonely I really am.

So why do we?

 

[Lestat]

So why do we?

I think his sharing his personal experience benefits us as well as him.. I hope you were being sarcastic.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I think his sharing his personal experience benefits us as well as him.. I hope you were being sarcastic.

I hope he was too.

It may be boring, but it sure does help me to post my problems here and get an "outside" perspective from people that don't know me nor my (ex) girlfriend.

My girl broke it off for good yesterday, see my thread. I'm pissed, hurt, and relieved all at once right now. Life blows.