So anyway, I met this cool chick, then she turns weird on me

[Burning_Inside]

Maybe some of you read my thread a few weeks back about how I met a really decent girl while doing a play (she was in it, not in the audience or anything).

So she's good looking, really into theatre and art, in other words she actually has some substance compared to the usual lameness you'd meet.

Well the other night I was talking to her on the phone and I said "jesus christ"..Ya' know, the lords name in vain. I've said it around her lpenty of times. I mean she herself actually doesn't curse, but i never see her having any problems with other people doing it. But this time after I said it, she says "Why do you have to say that, can you please stop saying it?" I say "NO". She says "well what if someone who really cares about you wanted you to?' and I said "well, they'd have to suck it up and deal with it."

Anyway, there were a few more little points tossed back and forth. Just to razz her, I typed in huge boldface print in my AIM profile "JESUS H FUCKING CHRIST". So she saw it and typed back to me "omg you did that just to spite me! why would you do that? You can't go around mocking things people believe in" I don't think she took it too seriously tho'.

Anyway, that night, she calls again, and she gets back on the religion thing, and proceeds to tell me how she an "talk in tongues" and asks me if I believe what's in the bible. I told her I thought the bible was 90% fiction. So she got all huffy and explained to me what these tongues are. (For those that don't know, it's supposed to be Jesus talking through you, yet you don't know what they're supposed to mean. ) So I'm like wait, how do you know you're not just schizophrenic? she said she knows they're these tongues. I asked how can she possibly know? She said it's because you can have them translated by someone they know. "How does this person know what they are supposed to mean if only god's supposed to know what they mean?" I asked her. She said "Oh well this person is blessed!"

So yeah, right there, this chick's credibility went right out the window, and I'm just like look, please shut up, and don't mention anything about religion to me ever again. She then sid "Oh watch, next time I see you I'm going to start spitting off tongues, then you'll see".

So yeah, just when you think you find a chick who's actually great and all (which she is for the most part) it turns out she's also somewhat nuts. I just want to tell this chick to grow the fuck up and get over it already. Tho' I think that would be rotten for me to do cause I know it'd offend her and she views me as this really great person. She's already all paranoid as it is, as she thinks I'm avoiding her because of the religion thing that came up in the first phone conversation. Guess I'll have to see how things go in the coming days or weeks. If she's smart she'll just keep her religion to herself.

 

[Bullit]

She sounds nuts and you sound like a dick, or just stupid, or both.
A match made in heaven.

 

[Burning_Inside]

How am I a dick? cause I don't believe in tongues or god?

 

[Bullit]

Cuz you totally disrespected her, her beliefs and her amazingly simple & small request.

 

[Scarlett33]

This doesn't sound like a very good match needless to say. Is she penicostle {sp} or something? People speaking in tongues is just too much! If your views are that different it will never work. Plus if you are like me, you would be laughuing your ass off if she ever started speaking in tongues around you. I've heard some of those Tv preacher types do it and it is soooo funny! Is she also a snake handler? That usually goes hand in hand with the tongues thing.

 

[Burning_Inside]

Sorry but I'm not molding myself around someone's wishes. If she doesn't like it, she can choose not to talk to me anymore, or just grow some thicker skin and deal with it. I'd be more inclined to agree with her if for instance I felt I was offending something real, like her skin color, but not because I'm spouting off her invisible non existant lord's name in vain.

And if you are speaking of the razz on AIM that I left for her, well, if that's the case, you don't understand the realtionships I have with my friends to determine what is and isn't going too far before someone starts crying, and making me a dickhead.

 

[Burning_Inside]

This doesn't sound like a very good match needless to say. Is she penicostle {sp} or something? People speaking in tongues is just too much! If your views are that different it will never work. Plus if you are like me, you would be laughuing your ass off if she ever started speaking in tongues around you. I've heard some of those Tv preacher types do it and it is soooo funny! Is she also a snake handler? That usually goes hand in hand with the tongues thing.

Not sure, but I think just Catholic. Tho' she never went to a Catholic school, so who knows.

 

[Bullit]

A relationship requires some compromise.

If you cant even compromise something as simple not saying 'Jesus christ' in front of her then you are a dick.

What if she liked to say "your mom is a cunt."
You request "please dont say that"
She says "suck it up and deal with it."
You would immediately come on here talking about what a bitch she is.

 

[biteme]

She's a religious person and takes it seriously. Move on, the 2 of you will never work out.

 

[jackangel]

Bullit is right on this one. Well, anyway...

Her beliefs, if they are genuinely hers, are real. It doesn't matter if you think they're complete horseshit. I'm inclined to feel the same way, although I'd never make an absolute statement because I don't know what Jesus is up to these days.

You have every right to disagree, and tell her how you feel, and not change yourself. But the way you do it has significance. I'm not saying you've acted like a complete dick already, but it's all about the attitude. Maybe she should leave you alone, but until such time, it's not too much to ask that you should avoid doing something that you know she finds insulting.

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

Bullit is right on this one. Well, anyway...

Her beliefs, if they are genuinely hers, are real. It doesn't matter if you think they're complete horseshit. I'm inclined to feel the same way, although I'd never make an absolute statement because I don't know what Jesus is up to these days.

You have every right to disagree, and tell her how you feel, and not change yourself. But the way you do it has significance. I'm not saying you've acted like a complete dick already, but it's all about the attitude. Maybe she should leave you alone, but until such time, it's not too much to ask that you should avoid doing something that you know she finds insulting.

 

[casavant]

Is she also a snake handler? That usually goes hand in hand with the tongues thing.

That's a sexual double entendre if I've ever heard one. LOL. A snake handling woman with a talented tongue is a keeper in my book.


On a serious note though- B_I, it sucks she had to bust that stuff out on you. Seems like you two aren't going to be spending a whole lot of time together from now on, which I would say is a good thing considering that she really does sound nutty.

 

[Burning_Inside]

Me and her didn't even have anything going on anyway, just to let you all know. Just talk and kiss sometimes thats about it. Was testing the waters, but they've been tested. O well.

 

[john937]

Cuz you totally disrespected her, her beliefs and her amazingly simple & small request.

Bullit nailed it.

She's not nuts, she's Charismatic Christian.
Leave her alone, not because she's crazy, but because a Christian and an Athiest make a lowsy couple.

 

[casavant]

It's always annoyed the shit out of me when I use an expletive and, unbeknownst to me, there's a Jesus freak in my midst that spouts off with, "Don't SAY that!", or something of the like. It's different than calling someone's mother a cunt when you use an expletive that is not intended to offend anyone. Now, if the Jesus freak politely expresses that what I said offends them, I'll consider not using the term around them out of courtesy. But come off at me with a fucking command reeking of smug self-righteousness, and I just might do what Burning_Inside did.

 

[Bullit]

I think this thread makes it unanimous.... BULLIT IS A GENIUS

 

[supersizeme]

BI I think the JESUS H FUCKING CHRIST was a pretty bad move. Regardless of what you think about her beliefs, they are still her beliefs regardless, and you probably want to avoid shitting all over them if you dig this girl in spite of the religious side of her. I think the bottom line here is that you don't have much respect for her, thus explaining why you would take it one step further with your AIM profile. That's not a move you would make if it was a girl you respected and wanted to make happy.
My gf isn't a jesus freak by any means. She was raised Southern Baptist but doesn't go to church regularly. Since day once I've known that she doesn't like to hear me cussing with a barage of "goddammits" and "jesus christs," and those are two staples of my cussing arsenal. But even before I was dating her, I respected her enough as a person to tone it down.

I don't know what I'm trying to say here. I think what I'm getting at is you don't have much respect for this particular female and probably want to cast your line back into the lake. You pulled up a boot.

 

[Bullit]

I don't know what I'm trying to say here.

let me help you out.
What you are trying to say is: "Listen to Bullit. He is omniscient."

 

[john937]

It's always annoyed the shit out of me when I use an expletive and, unbeknownst to me, there's a Jesus freak in my midst that spouts off with, "Don't SAY that!", or something of the like. It's different than calling someone's mother a cunt when you use an expletive that is not intended to offend anyone. ...

This is the old argument: "If a tree falls in the woods and nobody hears it, did it make a sound?"
Yes it makes a sound. and Yes, cussing God's name is offensive, even if the particular people around you don't get offended. At a minimum, it's just bad taste and bad manners.
I'm not being Holy'er'n thou; (I do it too!), but I know I shouldn't and try to clean it up.

 

[casavant]

Yes it makes a sound. and Yes, cussing God's name is offensive, even if the particular people around you don't get offended.

I don't follow. How is it offensive if noone gets offended? Because someone somewhere would find it offensive?

 

[john937]

If I put on a yellow shirt, but you're color blind, it it still yellow?

Ok, let's rephrase it, "Swearing is in bad taste".
Better?

 

[ffknight84]

She says "well what if someone who really cares about you wanted you to?'

congratulations, someone is blinder than I. This was pretty obivous, and if you weren't be a dick, her nutso side never woulda came out.

no flame or offense intended, just my 2 cents

 

[jackangel]

This reminds me of a favorite saying that I made up recently: Jesus Christ on a stick!

As in, "These TV shows today just suck...Jesus Christ on a stick!"

It's especially offensive because of the crucifixion reference, but that isn't why I like it. No, I just like the sound of it.

Oh, by the way, don't say that around her.

 

[Tiervexx]

It's always annoyed the shit out of me when I use an expletive and, unbeknownst to me, there's a Jesus freak in my midst that spouts off with, "Don't SAY that!", or something of the like. It's different than calling someone's mother a cunt when you use an expletive that is not intended to offend anyone. Now, if the Jesus freak politely expresses that what I said offends them, I'll consider not using the term around them out of courtesy. But come off at me with a fucking command reeking of smug self-righteousness, and I just might do what Burning_Inside did.

agreed

 

[casavant]

Re: Re: So anyway, I met this cool chick, then she turns weird on me

if you weren't be a dick, her nutso side never woulda came out.

Sooner or later, the nutso side always comes out.

 

[casavant]

If I put on a yellow shirt, but you're color blind, it it still yellow?

Ok, let's rephrase it, "Swearing is in bad taste".
Better?

Yes, it's still yellow for all practical purposes. If I'm going to be hanging out solely around a group of people who are color blind in the same way that I am, then for all practical purposes the shirt is not yellow. It's still reflecting light waves from the same wavelength of the color spectrum, but it is not what non-color blind people would call "yellow". We could get in a mind-twisting discussion about this kind of stuff.

Swearing in bad taste? That's your perception.

 

[rnch]

That's a sexual double entendre if I've ever heard one. LOL. A snake handling woman with a talented tongue is a keeper in my book.

i dunno about a keeper, but definately a renter for several hours each weekend!!!

 

[casavant]

 

[bdog527]

bullit said it perfectly.

 

[Burning_Inside]

This is the old argument: "If a tree falls in the woods and nobody hears it, did it make a sound?"
Yes it makes a sound. and Yes, cussing God's name is offensive, even if the particular people around you don't get offended. At a minimum, it's just bad taste and bad manners.
I'm not being Holy'er'n thou; (I do it too!), but I know I shouldn't and try to clean it up.

well, let me ask you this..is it not also offensive to ask someone to not talk a certain way in their presence?

Because you may offend their god of all things?

I mean believe me, I was big time offended when she asked me to stop, maybe as much as she was when she hears me say those words.

So what do you do?

I feel you deal with it. Should she be the one to "win" just because I'm offending her god and she's JUST offending me by asking me to change myself?

I DON'T THINK SO ANNIE

 

[Tiervexx]

i agree with you.