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The more women I talk to on this site, the more I find out that they are single women with kids. Nothing wrong with that at all. It just suprises me.
Do you tell guys upfront that you have a child or children or do you try to hide it? I dated this girl back in college for a couple of months and never knew she had a little boy. She was 30 and I was 22. We were always at my place. She only had joint time with him so we went out on nights he was not with her. When I found out I was upset not about the child but that she lied and hide him. Don't give me you thought I would run crap when I found out becuase if you really liked the guy he would have to know sooner or later. Why not just be open and honest from the start?
 
If they've been single with kids for very long they'll bring it up right away. I've never dated a single mom who didn't bring it up BEFORE the first date. Most know it's an issue with some men and won't waste their time trying to "hide it until he likes me" because it doesn't work that way.
 
My baby isn't even out of me yet, and I already make it clear that the baby is on the way. Love me, love my baby, or I prefer to wait for someone who will love us both. =-)

On the other hand, my last two bf's lied to me and told me that they had 2 kids when they really had 3. The last one also lied and said that they live with their mother. Imagine my surprise when I go to move in and he has 3 kids living with him. It would be no big deal to tell the truth. The lie is what frightened me.
 
I agree. Be upfront and honest.
If he walks at first then fuck him but if you lie and he walks, then fuck you.

He lied about them living with him... and then asked you to move in.

"He is smooth like sandpaper" (Trade Marked)



heatherrae said:
My baby isn't even out of me yet, and I already make it clear that the baby is on the way. Love me, love my baby, or I prefer to wait for someone who will love us both. =-)

On the other hand, my last two bf's lied to me and told me that they had 2 kids when they really had 3. The last one also lied and said that they live with their mother. Imagine my surprise when I go to move in and he has 3 kids living with him. It would be no big deal to tell the truth. The lie is what frightened me.
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yonkers weights said:
I agree. Be upfront and honest.
If he walks at first then fuck him but if you lie and he walks, then fuck you.

He lied about them living with him... and then asked you to move in.

"He is smooth like sandpaper" (Trade Marked)
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Yeah, I get off the airplane and he is stalling to go home. I started hinting telling him "baby, I'm really tired. Can we get on home?" He kept stalling saying, "let's have one more drink." So, we are getting hammered in the damn airport. Finally, he says, "I have something to tell you." I'm like, "Oh God! What is it?" I was thinking he must be married or something. So, when he told me it was the kids live at home, I was actually just relieved that it wasn't something REALLY bad.
:worried:
 
Drunk in a airport after your flight... I have had several before a flight but never after. I want to get to where I am going or get home.
He needed some courage. What did you do?

heatherrae said:
Yeah, I get off the airplane and he is stalling to go home. I started hinting telling him "baby, I'm really tired. Can we get on home?" He kept stalling saying, "let's have one more drink." So, we are getting hammered in the damn airport. Finally, he says, "I have something to tell you." I'm like, "Oh God! What is it?" I was thinking he must be married or something. So, when he told me it was the kids live at home, I was actually just relieved that it wasn't something REALLY bad.
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yonkers weights said:
Drunk in a airport after your flight... I have had several before a flight but never after. I want to get to where I am going or get home.
He needed some courage. What did you do?
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I said, "Well, shit, why did you lie? I wouldn't have cared, but I don't like that you lied. I'm tired, though, and I want to go home." That was the end of it. I didn't make a big deal or mention it again. I tend to be TOO laid back. I don't ever get mad, usually.
 
I'm not a single woman and I have no kids, therefore; this thread does not apply to me but I have to post in every thread.. state laws
 
heatherrae said:
I said, "Well, shit, why did you lie? I wouldn't have cared, but I don't like that you lied. I'm tired, though, and I want to go home." That was the end of it. I didn't make a big deal or mention it again. I tend to be TOO laid back. I don't ever get mad, usually.
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Riiiight, timeout for you! :)
 
I let every guy know out of the starting gate that not only did I have FOUR KIDS (that they wouldn't have to worry bout meeting as they were my private treasures) but the ex from hell that just refuses to die or that I was in an insurmountable hole of legal debt as a result.

Most guys said they heard me, but obviously didnt comprehend as it didn't seem to be an issue until we got to know each other a bit. I was like, "Bitch, what part of my world did I hide from you?".... irked me to no end. Obviously, they were more interested in getting into my panties at all cost so that kind of brought on a bit of hearing impairment LOL.

My fav was guys who would be legally divorced BEFORE the first date, then suddenly became "separated" DURING that date. Ignorant fucks, as if I was going to go out w/them again, let alone give them head in the parking lot :rolleyes: or fuck them later on if they were going to lie about something THAT important.

GEEZUS

But hey, I guess you can't blame a playa for trying. I just got annoyed because those bastards wasted MY TIME... Time is our most precious commodity. No amount of money can buy that shit back once it has passed.
 
Turd Ferguson said:
i target single ladies with kids. thats my M.O.
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See now, the good guys that I met all said that this was one of my most attractive qualities for them, that I was a good mother... Of course, my target was older gentleman, most of whom had children of their own. Usually hard for someone without kids to really understand the world of someone who has them. But still, no excuse for a single parent to lie about their parental status to a perspective date.
 
Love a women with a child. I know she will not latch on and be like, "You are my first." JK

BIKINIMOM said:
See now, the good guys that I met all said that this was one of my most attractive qualities for them, that I was a good mother... Of course, my target was older gentleman, most of whom had children of their own. Usually hard for someone without kids to really understand the world of someone who has them. But still, no excuse for a single parent to lie about their parental status to a perspective date.
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It would be stupid to try and hide it. I'm proud of my son and I wouldn't want to be with anyone that couldn't except him in the package deal...very simple!
 
Most that I have meet are VERY giving. They feel like they need to be to keep you around.
I have no time playing around with them but once the kids get involved, I don't play around. Don't want to be the guy that is there one day and not the next. Not cool to the kids.

BIKINIMOM said:
I let every guy know out of the starting gate that not only did I have FOUR KIDS (that they wouldn't have to worry bout meeting as they were my private treasures) but the ex from hell that just refuses to die or that I was in an insurmountable hole of legal debt as a result.

Most guys said they heard me, but obviously didnt comprehend as it didn't seem to be an issue until we got to know each other a bit. I was like, "Bitch, what part of my world did I hide from you?".... irked me to no end. Obviously, they were more interested in getting into my panties at all cost so that kind of brought on a bit of hearing impairment LOL.

My fav was guys who would be legally divorced BEFORE the first date, then suddenly became "separated" DURING that date. Ignorant fucks, as if I was going to go out w/them again, let alone give them head in the parking lot :rolleyes: or fuck them later on if they were going to lie about something THAT important.

GEEZUS

But hey, I guess you can't blame a playa for trying. I just got annoyed because those bastards wasted MY TIME... Time is our most precious commodity. No amount of money can buy that shit back once it has passed.
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yonkers weights said:
Most that I have meet are VERY giving. They feel like they need to be to keep you around.
I have no time playing around with them but once the kids get involved, I don't play around. Don't want to be the guy that is there one day and not the next. Not cool to the kids.
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In the six years since I separated/divorced my exhusband my children only met two men... The first one I knew for several years and pursued me AND MY KIDS out the wazoo. Was a long time before I agreed to let him meet my girls and my family... I married the second one.

I NEVER brought men around my children unless I felt it would be something that would last.
 
That is how it should be but you do tell the guys you dated about the from the start, right? I agree don't bring the guy around till your at a certain point but they should know about them.

BIKINIMOM said:
In the six years since I separated/divorced my exhusband my children only met two men... I married the second one.

I NEVER brought men around my children unless I felt it would be something that would last.
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yonkers weights said:
That is how it should be but you do tell the guys you dated about the from the start, right? I agree don't bring the guy around till your at a certain point but they should know about them.
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There was NO QUESTION about the truth of my life to any man that I dated.
 
Good. That's good to hear. I hate liers. I am honest with all that I do. Some like it and some don't. Fuck em. I live my life and you live yours.
 
now on the same token, I wouldn't involve my son in the relationship unless I felt it might go somewhere. I wouldn't want my son seeing me date all these different people..that wouldn't be right.
For me I can't help but talk about my son, he is the biggest part of my life.
 
That's how it should be!!!
Know about your son but not meet until we are both ready and think it is worth it.

ksharp01 said:
now on the same token, I wouldn't involve my son in the relationship unless I felt it might go somewhere. I wouldn't want my son seeing me date all these different people..that wouldn't be right.
For me I can't help but talk about my son, he is the biggest part of my life.
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BIKINIMOM said:
See now, the good guys that I met all said that this was one of my most attractive qualities for them, that I was a good mother... Of course, my target was older gentleman, most of whom had children of their own. Usually hard for someone without kids to really understand the world of someone who has them. But still, no excuse for a single parent to lie about their parental status to a perspective date.
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Hmmm.. I married my wife a bit over a year ago. She had 4 kids from a previous marriage - 8yo triplets and a 4 year old now. She was upfront about it and I wanted a family so we hit it off wel lfrom the start on that point. I'm 14 years older than her. The ex was a loser alcoholic. I have legally adopted the kids. I had to hire a PI to track the SOB down to get him to sign the papers. He didn't argue when I threatened to send the law after him for back child support. We are a very happy family. They are my kids no doubt about it and I'll take anyone out who says different. Love is thicker than blood. So some guys don't mind and even welcome the ready made family.
 
swkelley said:
Hmmm.. I married my wife a bit over a year ago. She had 4 kids from a previous marriage - 8yo triplets and a 4 year old now. She was upfront about it and I wanted a family so we hit it off wel lfrom the start on that point. I'm 14 years older than her. The ex was a loser alcoholic. I have legally adopted the kids. I had to hire a PI to track the SOB down to get him to sign the papers. He didn't argue when I threatened to send the law after him for back child support. We are a very happy family. They are my kids no doubt about it and I'll take anyone out who says different. Love is thicker than blood. So some guys don't mind and even welcome the ready made family.
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I dunno, you're a southie, so you might just be drunk and confusing a soap opera with your life.
 
Every female that comes to mind on this site is a single mom...that's not entirely true actually since a few are married. I'm sure there are others that aren't jumping to mind but yeah, that's interesting - a few just sprung to mind but it'll hurt my argument if I mention them so I'm not going to.

I have this theory that if you're into fitness, you're fucked. I'm not saying this is the case with single moms, I'm just saying fitness peeps don't seem to take the beaten path. Look at me. FUCKED.
 
I see where yo are going... a rough road.

Nathan said:
Every female that comes to mind on this site is a single mom...that's not entirely true actually since a few are married. I'm sure there are others that aren't jumping to mind but yeah, that's interesting - a few just sprung to mind but it'll hurt my argument if I mention them so I'm not going to.

I have this theory that if you're into fitness, you're fucked. I'm not saying this is the case with single moms, I'm just saying fitness peeps don't seem to take the beaten path. Look at me. FUCKED.
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Nathan said:
Every female that comes to mind on this site is a single mom...that's not entirely true actually since a few are married. I'm sure there are others that aren't jumping to mind but yeah, that's interesting - a few just sprung to mind but it'll hurt my argument if I mention them so I'm not going to.

I have this theory that if you're into fitness, you're fucked. I'm not saying this is the case with single moms, I'm just saying fitness peeps don't seem to take the beaten path. Look at me. FUCKED.
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I not understanding where you are going ; but I want to know lol sorry.
 
jestro said:
I dunno, you're a southie, so you might just be drunk and confusing a soap opera with your life.
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Southie... LOL... born and raised in New England. No soap opera here... don't have time for it. Just wanted to point out that when you get older ( I'm 48) and realize there is more to life than chasing poon and getting drunk.
 
I can see myself settling down one day with a woman that has kids, don't want any kids of my own, I certainly don't mind them though.
 
yonkers weights said:
I see where yo are going... a rough road.
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Well, I am assuming that single parenthood is still not the norm. MY POINT, which is not to offend single moms, is that maybe there is a connection. Like, for instance, I have read articles that suggest that promiscuity and infedilty are more rampant in people who are very into fitness. Maybe many of the women who are on this site were married to men who are into fitness, got cheated on or cheated on their husbands, and split from their spouses as a result.

That might explain it and I would expect to see, on average, more divorced/single parent men on here, though it's tougher to gauge since most of the people here are dudes and hence it makes it harder to make gross generalizations about them - too many dudes I know nothing about whereas one tends to remember the women.

I really have no idea what I am talking about I was just trying to explain why so many people on here are single - though it's rather obvious when you think about it.
 
cindylou said:
I not understanding where you are going ; but I want to know lol sorry.
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Well, if you are into fitness there is probably a reason - self esteem issues, etc. I think dating and wanting to be happy with how you look are amongst the top reasons for getting into fitness though. So the women on this board are probably going to be more fit than your average woman, more physically attractive, in better shape, be overall happier on average maybe (better mood has been linked to regular exercise), etc.

Most importantly though, I think it takes a certain type of personality to get really into fitness. All I was saying is that it wouldn't really be surprising to me that people who are passionate about fitness, also tend to share commonalities in other aspects of their lives. One major example that comes to mind that could affect their single status is the fact that women who are into fitness get hit on more on average probably than women who don't. More attention means more considerations, possibly a jealous SO, etc. Who knows really.

I don't know. I look for trends in data sets for a living - I saw some data and tried to analyze it. I'm sure it made no sense to anyone but me. Crap. I could have done some work or something.
 
Nathan said:
Well, if you are into fitness there is probably a reason - self esteem issues, etc. I think dating and wanting to be happy with how you look are amongst the top reasons for getting into fitness though. So the women on this board are probably going to be more fit than your average woman, more physically attractive, in better shape, be overall happier on average maybe (better mood has been linked to regular exercise), etc.

Most importantly though, I think it takes a certain type of personality to get really into fitness. All I was saying is that it wouldn't really be surprising to me that people who are passionate about fitness, also tend to share commonalities in other aspects of their lives. One major example that comes to mind that could affect their single status is the fact that women who are into fitness get hit on more on average probably than women who don't. More attention means more considerations, possibly a jealous SO, etc. Who knows really.

I don't know. I look for trends in data sets for a living - I saw some data and tried to analyze it. I'm sure it made no sense to anyone but me. Crap. I could have done some work or something.
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very interesting.

very very interesting.

K to you
 
Most fitness people are looking for approval and to fit in. Different personalities. Most are also better looking then the average person. We all have ego's and want the best.

Nathan said:
Well, if you are into fitness there is probably a reason - self esteem issues, etc. I think dating and wanting to be happy with how you look are amongst the top reasons for getting into fitness though. So the women on this board are probably going to be more fit than your average woman, more physically attractive, in better shape, be overall happier on average maybe (better mood has been linked to regular exercise), etc.

Most importantly though, I think it takes a certain type of personality to get really into fitness. All I was saying is that it wouldn't really be surprising to me that people who are passionate about fitness, also tend to share commonalities in other aspects of their lives. One major example that comes to mind that could affect their single status is the fact that women who are into fitness get hit on more on average probably than women who don't. More attention means more considerations, possibly a jealous SO, etc. Who knows really.

I don't know. I look for trends in data sets for a living - I saw some data and tried to analyze it. I'm sure it made no sense to anyone but me. Crap. I could have done some work or something.
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yonkers weights said:
Most fitness people are looking for approval and to fit in. Different personalities. Most are also better looking then the average person. We all have ego's and want the best.
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used to be for dating

now its for sanity

Damage control after a bad eating or drinking night

routine is good ; need routine

control in general
 
What good looking? Most are. A lot of the people at my gym are. It is a meat market.
LOVE IT. I get motivation from some of the hot women in the gym. Thinking about if I get that extra rep she will want it. :-)
Helps me push myself.
 
yonkers weights said:
Most fitness people are looking for approval and to fit in. Different personalities. Most are also better looking then the average person. We all have ego's and want the best.
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If what you are saying is true, then it would make sense that people looking for approval or some sense of that would be more likely to cheat on their spouses. Sleeping with people definitely affects the way you see yourself and it depends in large part who it is with (or how often I guess to some) - for example, bagging a hot lady will up your self esteem.

So, people into fitness are more susceptible to promiscuity and infidelity, which immediately explains the trend that a high percentage of fit people are divorced if it were to exist, which I don't even know if that is the case.

This may sound weird, but I often notice trends like this and man are they ever real in some cases - I'm not saying this one in particular is but obviously there are many similar instances of certain commonalities following as a direct result of satisfying some other criteria. The oddest trends I noticed while working as a bouncer. Yikes.
 
When A man approaches me (and that is not often) and say’s “Hi my name is (fill in the blank) , What’s yours? I say “Nice to meet you (fill in the blank) . I have a nine year old daughter. This why there is no confusion
 
Nathan said:
If what you are saying is true, then it would make sense that people looking for approval or some sense of that would be more likely to cheat on their spouses. Sleeping with people definitely affects the way you see yourself and it depends in large part who it is with (or how often I guess to some) - for example, bagging a hot lady will up your self esteem.

So, people into fitness are more susceptible to promiscuity and infidelity, which immediately explains the trend that a high percentage of fit people are divorced if it were to exist, which I don't even know if that is the case.

This may sound weird, but I often notice trends like this and man are they ever real in some cases - I'm not saying this one in particular is but obviously there are many similar instances of certain commonalities following as a direct result of satisfying some other criteria. The oddest trends I noticed while working as a bouncer. Yikes.
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okay I've got to hear more


I looove stuff like this
 
Who hit it and bounced? Not cool.
I like that you are honest about your child. It should be that way so no one gets the wrong idea or hurt. Ya know. Unless he is an ass and lies and says it is ok just to hit it. Then that is fucked up!
 
Who hit it and bounced? Not cool.
I like that you are honest about your child. It should be that way so no one gets the wrong idea or hurt. Ya know. Unless he is an ass and lies and says it is ok just to hit it. Then that is fucked up!

Great line alien.
 
A single mother will forever more under the microscope than a single dad... maybe thats just my observation. What makes me any less desirable as a person, a companion than my X whom shared the making of our two kids? Would it be the fact that I have them over 90% of the time... ? The fact that my free time will forever revolve around them? The fact that I am anal about putting my kids first ..... (yes... this has been the demise of everything for me)

Well, I am a mother... A single mother. And I express that straight up front. Also express that my kids are my world... and number one in my life. I don't look at myself as being a single mother as something that is disgusting or anything to be ashamed of. There are more single dead beat dads in this world than moms... yet... they don't even have to disclose the fact that they are dead beat because they don't care for their own kids.

To many here, having kids and being single is tabooo... welll.... that is just total bullshit to me. I would love to see any of these fucktards man up and do exactly what I do day in and day out. Its so easy to cast a stone... but don't cast a stone when you live in a glass house.

I love my kids, adore my kids and take care of them mostly on my own... and that means that I provide well over 70% of what it takes for them to live day to day... hell... prolly more.

I think we need a single father thread... not one where he only has the kid every other weekend... one where its a daily thing... one where, he doesn't have the privlidge of doing what he wants to do when he wants. And thats not an insult to peeps here... cause I know there are quite a few that do that and love it.
 
cindylou said:
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I looove stuff like this
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Like you think I am talking out of my ass or you agree? It was all just conjecture and I am not passionately saying I believe all this, I was just saying it is interesting to think about.

Hell, if you study it enough I bet you can get to the point of being able to reasonably accurately predict certain aspects of peoples' futures based on their hobbies or the like - though as it stands I think that is what common sense is supposed to be for, albeit this would be a much more honed version of what we call common sense. We are talking common sense to the next level - like, you would be regularly cluing in to things that maybe aren't so obvious at all.
 
Nathan said:
Like you think I am talking out of my ass or you agree? It was all just conjecture and I am not passionately saying I believe all this, I was just saying it is interesting to think about.

Hell, if you study it enough I bet you can get to the point of being able to reasonably accurately predict certain aspects of peoples' futures based on their hobbies or the like - though as it stands I think that is what common sense is supposed to be for, albeit this would be a much more honed version of what we call common sense. We are talking common sense to the next level - like, you would be regularly cluing in to things that maybe aren't so obvious at all.
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No I agree. I wanted to hear more! Good stuff
 
yonkers weights said:
The more women I talk to on this site, the more I find out that they are single women with kids. Nothing wrong with that at all. It just suprises me.
Do you tell guys upfront that you have a child or children or do you try to hide it? I dated this girl back in college for a couple of months and never knew she had a little boy. She was 30 and I was 22. We were always at my place. She only had joint time with him so we went out on nights he was not with her. When I found out I was upset not about the child but that she lied and hide him. Don't give me you thought I would run crap when I found out becuase if you really liked the guy he would have to know sooner or later. Why not just be open and honest from the start?
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I would think it may be to protect the kids. I hear more and more stories of woman who bring different men into their childrens lives. It creates an attachment dissorder for the children if they form bonds with these men. Most nice men would have no issues meeting the kids or taking them with on occassion. This is where the problems occur, not necessarily the ass hole who won't date a woman who has children.
 
Nathan said:
Like you think I am talking out of my ass or you agree? It was all just conjecture and I am not passionately saying I believe all this, I was just saying it is interesting to think about.

Hell, if you study it enough I bet you can get to the point of being able to reasonably accurately predict certain aspects of peoples' futures based on their hobbies or the like - though as it stands I think that is what common sense is supposed to be for, albeit this would be a much more honed version of what we call common sense. We are talking common sense to the next level - like, you would be regularly cluing in to things that maybe aren't so obvious at all.
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I cant remember the name of the book that I read but I did read a book about the same type of stuff.

She was a jury selector ; she helped draw conclutions about people based on appearance. Its not 100% but close.

Like women and their hairstyle tells alot about someone ; not as far as you were going with the amount of people into the fitness and its relation to fidelity ; but I like reading about it anyway.

lol. I may not be making any sense but I think its interesting. I'm having one of those lack of communication days .
 
Frisky said:
I think we need a single father thread... not one where he only has the kid every other weekend... one where its a daily thing... one where, he doesn't have the privlidge of doing what he wants to do when he wants. And thats not an insult to peeps here... cause I know there are quite a few that do that and love it.
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:raises hand: Thats me, and yes its better than sliced bread. And her mom lives in another state, so there's no every other weekend crap.

So what, you gotta problem lady? You want some of this action?
 
jestro said:
:raises hand: Thats me, and yes its better than sliced bread. And her mom lives in another state, so there's no every other weekend crap.

So what, you gotta problem lady? You want some of this action?
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lol... a problem? Do you see me saying a negative thing about a father that stands up and takes care of his kids?

Its few and far inbetween... I respect every single one whom does.

Not sure if that last line was to be bitchy and strike at me... but you are not doing anything that other women have been doing for years... so your little high horse is nothing better than any other single mother around here.

I'm pissy and irritated,... and just a bit jumpy... and sorry if I offended you. I respect all that you do. I am off to go find an apartment now. ta ta
 
Frisky said:
I am off to go find an apartment now. ta ta
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Did I miss something? I thought you bought a house and was remodeling it?
 
swkelley said:
Southie... LOL... born and raised in New England. No soap opera here... don't have time for it. Just wanted to point out that when you get older ( I'm 48) and realize there is more to life than chasing poon and getting drunk.
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There is? Dang.



lol...just kidding. You sound like a great man.
 
swkelley said:
Hmmm.. I married my wife a bit over a year ago. She had 4 kids from a previous marriage - 8yo triplets and a 4 year old now. She was upfront about it and I wanted a family so we hit it off wel lfrom the start on that point. I'm 14 years older than her. The ex was a loser alcoholic. I have legally adopted the kids. I had to hire a PI to track the SOB down to get him to sign the papers. He didn't argue when I threatened to send the law after him for back child support. We are a very happy family. They are my kids no doubt about it and I'll take anyone out who says different. Love is thicker than blood. So some guys don't mind and even welcome the ready made family.
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You are an amazing man, no doubt, much like my own husband. Sadly my ex just wont fucking die... but my husband is taking it all on. He keeps saying, "My shoulders a broad and can bare all things."

I am truly lucky that he loves us so much.
 
I was married to an asshole for 11 years, was his faithfull dutiful partner for 13. He beat me up. I kicked him out. I remained single until I found the most amazing man on the planet and then I married him. Now I am happily married to the man of my dreams despite the fact that my ex lives to torture me...

I dated ad nauseum over the period of time when I was single. My children met two men, the second one I married.

I dont get what the big deal is. If a man refused to date me because of my kids I NEVER took offense to it. It was his right as was mine to refuse to date younger men who had no children. Right or wrong, I just felt that our worlds could not connect over the long haul. Not true for everyone. But it was "true" for me.

To each his/her own. :)
 
yonkers weights said:
The more women I talk to on this site, the more I find out that they are single women with kids. Nothing wrong with that at all. It just suprises me.
Do you tell guys upfront that you have a child or children or do you try to hide it? I dated this girl back in college for a couple of months and never knew she had a little boy. She was 30 and I was 22. We were always at my place. She only had joint time with him so we went out on nights he was not with her. When I found out I was upset not about the child but that she lied and hide him. Don't give me you thought I would run crap when I found out becuase if you really liked the guy he would have to know sooner or later. Why not just be open and honest from the start?
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how on earth can somoene have children and then pretend they dont have children?? that's contradictory and how or why would anyone want to do that?
when I was 31 a recently divorced I dated a guy VERY much younger. I only wanted to see him on the weeekends when my son was with his father - and never during the week. Basically I told him he would have no time with my as long as my son was home/ He had to get used to it I guess. That's not something I was willing to bend the rules on either - at least not for him.
 
jestro said:
:raises hand: Thats me, and yes its better than sliced bread. And her mom lives in another state, so there's no every other weekend crap.

So what, you gotta problem lady? You want some of this action?
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Respect to you for that Jestro. Tough job but glad you'r doing it for your kids sake.

S
 
BIKINIMOM said:
You are an amazing man, no doubt, much like my own husband. Sadly my ex just wont fucking die... but my husband is taking it all on. He keeps saying, "My shoulders a broad and can bare all things."

I am truly lucky that he loves us so much.
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Aw shucks... now heatherrae and bikinimom have embarrassed me. No need for accolades...like Jestro, I'm just doing my job in life.
 
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