Salsa dancing night / results are in

[fyxgel2]

Hello people,

Well, I actually decided to go out and do something this evening. My campus was having this event called "The Next Big Thing" and well, there was a lot of cool stuff going on. jumping around in rooms with mats and balls, rodeo riding simulator, and salsa dancing

Well, the highlight of the evening was the salsa dancing of course. Because that is where I have opportunity to initiate conversation with girls, and work on my skills.

So I went to this thing by myself, cuz my roomates left beforehand without me. (I saw them and chatted for a bit, but I didnt tag along with them, because it looked like they didnt want to me to. so yeah, my roomates suck.)

Anyways, yeah, so I walked into the dance area alone. And there were lots of hot chicks there. For some reason I had difficulty making myself ask the hot chicks if they wanted to dance, but I had no problem asking the average, or somewhat attractive girls, if they wanted to dance. So yeah, I danced a bit, and I sucked at it, and I am an awkward, and dont have a clue what Im doing, but I figured it out eventually. I probably danced with about 5 different girls. I probably asked about 10. Some said that they "werent in the mood"

So one of the girls I danced was best friends with Linda, the girl that I sent that email to. We got along fine and had good conversation. Not surprisingly, Linda ended up pulling her away after about 10 minutes. I said hi to some more girls.

Then I saw the amazing hottie. Linda's sister, who is at least as hot as Linda. I asked her if she wanted to dance (this was the one hot girl that I asked) and she turned me down, because she was "all danced out" 5 minutes later I see her dancing with some other guy. Lying ho.

Yeah, I hope Linda doesnt think I'm trying to piss her off, by dancing with her friend and her sister. I just did so because I knew who they were, and they seemed like cool people, and her sister is frickin hot, lol.
Maybe at the next dance I go to, I'll get the balls to ask some more hot girls to dance. I've figured out a formula to make myself do it, and I'm eager to try it out sometime.

Now the night is over and I am extremely bored.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

damn.....

You're full of good news and more progress. Congrats.
I never danced myself, but I hear it can be awkward.

 

[BileStew]

At least you tried this time instead of hiding in the corner pretending you're Deniro from Taxi Driver.

There's always next time. Just relax. You try TOO hard dude.

 

[awittyusername]

damn.....

You're full of good news and more progress. Congrats.
I never danced myself, but I hear it can be awkward.

Ok. I can take a hint. I'll dance w/you.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

Congratulations! Now keep it up.

 

[strangebrew]

I never dance unless I'm extremely drunk. Even then, it's more like I just grope every person I see.

 

[-SD-]

Im speechless. Keep doing.

 

[fyxgel2]

I like freestyle dancing a lot better (where u just dance however the heck u want)

The salsa dancing is too orderly and crap. I dont like dancing as much when there are "rules about how to dance" but it can still be fun.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Woooohoooo good job now keep it up!

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

I like freestyle dancing a lot better (where u just dance however the heck u want)

The salsa dancing is too orderly and crap. I dont like dancing as much when there are "rules about how to dance" but it can still be fun.

You can sort of add your own style to salsa. But I guess you can't break out just any dance move, it has to be fitting to salsa.

Maybe take a salsa dance class. Hey you could meet more chicks.

 

[awittyusername]

Great job. 5 out of 10 is good. Your average would have been higher if you would have stuck with all less attractive girls. Now, just forget about the hot chics. (for now) Pretend they don't even exhist. They'll come sniffing around when flxgel has all the girls.

You made a few chics night.(The ones that were not hot) They are probably writing your name in their note book.

flockygel
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less attractive girl


Or

Mr. and Mrs. Flukgel

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I Flexygel

 

[Dial_tone]

It's a numbers game, mang. Every no gets you one step closer to a yes. If somebody turns you down don't sit and stew on what went wrong. Walk to a different area and ask another right away. She didn't see you get turned down 3 times in a row.

 

[fyxgel2]

the bad part is that now the night is depressing. There is nothing to do.

My roomates went off and did shit without me I think. Which sucks, I think that they dont like me or something, even though I'm a cool guy and I've only known them for 2 weeks.

And well, "visitation hours" will be over in 5 minutes, so I cant go over to any girls' apartments And yeah, there is no one else around that I could do anything with cuz I dont know ppl here that well.

Crap, I just need to find a group of friends that will accept me. So hard to do at a college where everyone is arrogant and too cool for me. I'm a reasonable guy, I dont get what the deal is.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

50% success rate is not bad, even for an attractive guy with some confidence. Not bad orb. If you can learn to dance well, girls will just offer you pussy. Keep it up.

 

[Taps]

That’s more than 90% of elite did tonight, myself included. Good job.

We may have to lift the moratorium on foxygel threads.

 

[Lestat]

Wow man.

I think this is the best post I've read from you!

This is a great start. Its not a great night for you now, because you are home, bored and gonna wack off while looking at porn that shows chicks even hotter then ones you'll ever date, but this is where it all begins.

You had a far easier time asking the average girls to dance rather then the hot ones. This is totally normal. You gotta play within your league at all times man. Its cool to try to work up sometimes, but its only going to bruise your ego most of the time. I'd say I'm far more succesfull then most guys at getting chicks, but I'd say when I go for absolute knockouts, I am only successful about 1 out of 10 times. That is 9 rejections that would normally really get me down and make me feel like shit and desperate, but it was my wins in the younger years that have given me the confidence to know that a rejection isn't shit. One minute a hot chick may think you are a tool, and a year later she could be all over your nuts. You never know.

So anyway, keep playing within your league, get some wins, get the confidence up. Learn what chicks WANT... you can do this with ugly ones.. they are almost the same as hot ones except they will fucking eat up your attention and appreciate you even more because you make them feel like the hot chicks feel every fucking minute of their lives.

Try not to hit on chicks that know each other though. I know it seems comfortable because you know them already, but if you hit on a chick, then her friend, then her sister.. you will blow your chances with any of them.. and any other friends they have. Believe me on this one, its not worth it. Hit on one, if it doesn't work, try to be friends... then maybe one day she'll try to set you up with a friend.. that's one of the best ways to meet chicks I have found. It totally disarms them when a female friend has already vouched for you.. its like all the work is done and you can start getting to know her right away with far fewer games...

Oh the games man.... shit that's a whole different chapter in dating.. I need to write a fucking book.

 

[fyxgel2]

Lestat,

yea I plan on starting out with the average girls and one day working my way up to the hotties. The hotties are where its at. Once I get in my groove of asking them, I'm willing to take 10 rejections for 1 yes.

I wish I could mack on chicks that knew each other. If they get offended by that, my philosophy is that maybe neither of them were that good to be begin with.
If a girl hit on me and my friend, I'd be fine with it. Granted it would create an awkward situation, but awkward situations are things that we all need to get a little more used to, and not hide from them.

Oh the games man.... shit that's a whole different chapter in dating.. I need to write a fucking book.

the games is my least favorite part. I decide to put up with it, only because my obsession for a girl is so strong that it overtakes this stupid and ridiculous part of the process.

 

[Lestat]

Lestat,

yea I plan on starting out with the average girls and one day working my way up to the hotties. The hotties are where its at. Once I get in my groove of asking them, I'm willing to take 10 rejections for 1 yes.

I wish I could mack on chicks that knew each other. If they get offended by that, my philosophy is that maybe neither of them were that good to be begin with.
If a girl hit on me and my friend, I'd be fine with it. Granted it would create an awkward situation, but awkward situations are things that we all need to get a little more used to, and not hide from them.



the games is my least favorite part. I decide to put up with it, only because my obsession for a girl is so strong that it overtakes this stupid and ridiculous part of the process.

Dude, you just showed a big piece of your attitude that needs some adjusting. Something that is likely showing through in your "vibe" and hence causing you to have next to zero game.

You say that .."awkward situations are things that we all need to get a little more used to and not hide from them."

That is bullshit man, who are you to say for anyone else that they should get used to, or be more comfortable with awkward situations? I personally don't care for them and avoid them, and more importantly, I avoid CREATING them, and do you know what that does? It makes people actually enjoy hanging out with me. No one likes hanging out with someone that is constantly causing awkward situations... NO ONE. I know you are thinking that it is fake, or somehow compromising your personality, but believe me, if you look around at society the people who create more positive feelings in others are rewarded. No one wants to be made to feel like shit, especially from someone they don't even know.

 

[fyxgel2]

Dude, you just showed a big piece of your attitude that needs some adjusting. Something that is likely showing through in your "vibe" and hence causing you to have next to zero game.

You say that .."awkward situations are things that we all need to get a little more used to and not hide from them."

That is bullshit man, who are you to say for anyone else that they should get used to, or be more comfortable with awkward situations? I personally don't care for them and avoid them, and more importantly, I avoid CREATING them, and do you know what that does? It makes people actually enjoy hanging out with me. No one likes hanging out with someone that is constantly causing awkward situations... NO ONE. I know you are thinking that it is fake, or somehow compromising your personality, but believe me, if you look around at society the people who create more positive feelings in others are rewarded. No one wants to be made to feel like shit, especially from someone they don't even know.

Okay, but awkward situations happen!
Like how the heck are you going to ask a girl out, without it being awkward.
It will always be a little awkward regardless of whether or not you know and like her sister or friend or whatever.

I guess I could hold off on causing split emotions between sisters and friends and what not, but it sucks cuz that would severly limit my options.

I mean suppose you ask a girl out, and she turns you down, but u end up becoming a friend of hers, and hang out with her sometimes.
When would it be considered alright to ask her friend out? Would it ever be?

 

[Lestat]

Okay, but awkward situations happen!
Like how the heck are you going to ask a girl out, without it being awkward.
It will always be a little awkward regardless of whether or not you know and like her sister or friend or whatever.

I guess I could hold off on causing split emotions between sisters and friends and what not, but it sucks cuz that would severly limit my options.

I mean suppose you ask a girl out, and she turns you down, but u end up becoming a friend of hers, and hang out with her sometimes.
When would it be considered alright to ask her friend out? Would it ever be?

Every situation is different. In some cases it may never be ok to ask her out, maybe you two are just friends and that's gonna be it. In other cases it may grow.

I've been in all sides of that situation. I've had a close friend who I started dating over a year after we became friends. She had boyfriends too during the first year, then one day it just kinda clicked... Honestly, in that case, I played it low key and let HER make the move, it was obvious at a certain point she was interested, so I invited her over, we hung out, and I kissed her goodnight. I was evaluating things every second though. I wasn't certain I was going to make a move until it happened. You have to be able to play things by ear.

I've also had female friends that show interest in me that I'm not into. In many cases I still may hook up with them, but now I've learned its hard to do that and remain friends so if it is truly a friend I value I'll just tell them I don't think it'd be a good idea.

I've also had female friends that I would have died to take out on a date.. but for whatever reason never got any signs from her and never made a move. Odds are, had I made a move, I would have been rejected. So I avoided making things awkward.

Asking a girl out doesn't always have to be awkward. It may never feel comfortable or natural, but it doesn't have to be awkward.

 

[Illuminati]

hey bro, sounds like you had a pretty good nite. (im just getting back in from the clubs.) the thing about salsa dancing, that's shit hella fun when you get the hang of it. first time i went, i didnt have a clue what the hell i was doing. i just grabbed the closest girl, and told her that she had to teach me. we ended up salsa dancing (or at least my attempt to salsa dance) the whole nite. you see, its all in how you ask them. yeah, ill admit, everytime i go out, i feel like a dumb ass, and i feel like i can't dance. but we go out on the dance floor (usually after a good amount of jagger bombs, and long islands) and start dancing. when the girls see that you are having a good time, they start dancing around you. that is your opportunity to grab them up. girls like to see a guy that is confident in himself, even if ya look like a fool trying to dance.
and you dont always have to dance with the hottest chick, or be with the hottest girl. if you are out on the floor, and having a good time dance with any girl. shit, grab yourself a thick chick, and have some fun dancing with her. the girls that you think are hot will notice that, and try to figure out what they are missing out on. then they start dancing on the floor next to you. that is when you switch, and start moving towards another one. so maybe she rejects you. then just move on to another one. eventually, you will find one that will start grinding up on you.
that's what happened to me tonite. we were just chillin, having a good time on the dance floor. dancing with all kinds of girls. then out of no where, this fine ass girl starts dancing in the middle of us. we ended up grinding for the rest of the nite (there was about 1 hour left before it closed.) would have gone home with her, but i live 40 minutes away, and got a ride. so i got her number....

 

[fyxgel2]

Asking a girl out doesn't always have to be awkward. It may never feel comfortable or natural, but it doesn't have to be awkward.

I kind of like it when its awkward, personally.