relationship advice needed

[MrDbol]

I had been dating this girl for the past 8 months. About a month ago we broke up. She was hard working, smart, and very beautiful, with a heavenly personality.

We were very close. I introduced her to my parents and my whole extended family. My mother and father loved her like they loved me. She was coming over for dinner once a week with my family. It was a classical relationship. Everything seemed perfect. I never cheated on her. I called her everyday. Never went out without her, etc.

What happened was I was spying on her, and I found out that she was going to this party without me. I asked her in advance if she was going to that party and she kept saying no, no, no. I must have asked her about 20 times, because I knew that she was going. The night of the party I called her to ask her to go to the party, and she said that she had to study for finals. I put the pressure on her, and I told her that she was already on the highway (don't ask my how I knew that), and she confessed. And she said that she wanted to take some time off. I told her no way. You take some time off and we end the relationship. That's when she said that she wants to break up.

I told her that she broke my heart and I hung up. Two weeks later I called her and had this big conversation over the phone, and she still refused to get back together.

These were the issues:

1.) I didn't have a job and she thought that I wasn't taking on enough responsibilities.

I told her that I go to college, and I don't have time for a job. I didn't tell her that my parents give me $30,000 every year for expenses. I never asked her to pay, but she ALWAYS offered to pay when we went out. We go into a few fights over that.

2.) She thought that I was too ambitious

I didn't even want to elaborate on that topic. I told her my plans for the future in the beginning of the relationship. But I decided not to talk about it as time went on.

I really love this girl. It's been a month now and I have dreams about her every night that we are back together. I know she has been with a few guys on a few dates since we broke up. I have also had a few sexual encounters, but I still love her. I was planning to marry her as soon as I graduate next year. But I never told her that.

I want to get back with her. But I don't know how to approach her without looking like a desperate fool. I know she is the one for me, and that she is the one I love and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

Help me out. I've dated about half a dozen girls since we broke up, and I still can't get my mind off of her. I want her, and her only.

Karma for you all!

 

[Silverback316]

Either you really love this girl or you are already in the early stages of becoming a stalker.

 

[OAKBOX]

If your name is Dustin, then you got what you deserve! Thank You God, you are truly merciful.

 

[Green]

This is the wrong forum stalker!

jk

 

[Dirty Boy]

I feel that you are suffering from your ego. You appear like a man who is very seldom rejected and when you finally found a girl who you liked and she became uninterested (for the reasons you posted, etc).

I personally believe honesty is one of the fundamental building blocks of a relationship. She didn't seem honest with you about her feelings in the beginning and for all you know she has other issues. Maybe the reasons she gave you were just hiding something else.


You mentioned you dated but it appears that you haven't really tried any new meaningful relationships. By the way, sexual encounters don't classify as meaningful.


All I can say is: Move on.

 

[monkeyballs]

Do not ask her to drink piss. It never works out the way you want it to.

 

[MrDbol]

Monkey,

I never did. But actually, I think she had a piss fetish. She always liked to watch me piss, and she confessed herself that she treated her hair with her own pee.

 

[monkeyballs]

Then perhaps your golden juices are the key to this unbriddled love.

Piss in her mouth while she is brushing her teeth.

And mods...please move this post to siberia.

 

[OAKBOX]

Then perhaps your golden juices are the key to this unbriddled love.

Piss in her mouth while she is brushing her teeth.

And mods...please move this post to siberia.

 

[genarr3]

You could get a place far out in the country, with no neighbors for hundreds of miles. Think of a credible story to get her in the car with you, make sure you bring your gun, then put it to her head and say - "We're taking a ride honey".
Bring her to your country house and keep her there forever. Sure she might be mad at first but she'll come around sooner or later.
Try this, it could work for you.

BTW - Whatever you do don't show her your piss drinking, your porn movie producer, or the Had Sex With a Whore in a Club Last Night threads. She'll think you're a complete tool.