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Started seeing my x-gf last AUg. It was clear from the start that we knew we where meant for one another. She will be 37 next week and I'm 29. She's a well known personal trainer/aerobics instr. in our area. She also has a beautiful 7 yr old daughter. A few months into the relationship a started to get cold feet because it was moving too fast and I backed out. I just needed sometime to see if I had what it would take to meet her expectations.
When I finally decided I wanted to be with her for the rest of my days she couldn't wait around. she said I broke her heart and she couldn't afford to go through that again. Or put her kid through it either.
I finally came clean and told her why I needed a time out and that I was sorry I just didn't talk to her about it. (must be a guy thing). this was tormenting her even more because she was seeing a new side of me yet she had moved on.
Early one Feb moring I went to her place to explain that I wanted to be a permanet part of her and her daughter's life. And that I would get off the gear so that we could have a child of our own.
Her BMW wasn't in her parking spot. I was kind of worried because it was early sunday morning and she had clients all day but wasn't there. Or so it seemed. there was a Cougar parke in her spot with vomit all over the passenger side of the parking spot obviously someone had been partying a little too hard.
I went around front and wish I wouldn't had. I could see a trail of clothes leading from the door to the bed she had in the livingroom. Her and that bastard were wrapped around eachother. Now I knew I had recognized the Cougar from the gym. I just stood there in shock. He woke up when I pounded on the window and was white as a ghost. She saw me and went hysterical. She started to call my friends to tell me to leave. so hear I am. yelling at them, yelling at my friends on my cell. the guy in her house, 'Z" is scared as hell trying to get dressed while she's puking everywhere.
Z took off before I could catch him but was gonna come back to pick her up to take her to the gym. I wasn't mad at her because she wansn't cheating and I'm the one who left. I told her i wanted to work things out and get beyond this. She was confused more than ever.
When Z showed back up I blocked his car in. I was about to lay 230+ lbs of juiced up freak in his 24 yr old light wt. ass But for some reason I wanted to get his side of the story. He said they had been toghether a few times the last few weeks which is about the time she said she didn't want me back. this kid kept asking me if I was gonna beat the shit out of him. I just told him to chill and tell me the rest.
He said that he had strong feelings for her and was gonna try to pursue something with her. So I knew it was game on. she had no idea Z and I where up in the carport talking. I called her on my cellphone and we both listened when I called her downstars
I asked her what the deal was with Z. She said that it was a one night fling that she can't even remember because she was so drunk ( obviously beucasue it was her vomit in the parking lot). when she said that it meant nothing he had head enough and grabbed my cellphone to ask her why she said that. She started getting sick all over again. we both went downstairs together. All 3 of us in the house. she couldn't function. We where both pleading our case to her.
she was so stressed that her 8 hr work day only lasted 2 hours. She explained that once I left her she was lonley beacuse I wasn't around anymore. We worked out together too. So she eventually started to work out with Z. She said that she crossed the line and they started sleepiing together. She didn't see either Z or I for the rest of the week.
That next weekend her and I went on a date. It was like we were never apart. Everyone in the club commented on how good we looked together and that we made a cute couple. I've seen her qutie a bit over the last month while she's been working out with Z. during this period I know that she hasn't been with him. She has her daughter 5-6 nights a week and I've spent quite a bit of time with both her and her kid.
When I'm around it's great. but when I leave she says she can't see me any more because she can't afford to get hurt again. She scared beacuse she feels I have too much control over her. One night she came back from a dinner funtion a little tipsy and she began to spill her guts.
She knows I can't get her pregnant with all the gear I'm on and we've proved that time and time again. I guess she though that she might take a chance of getting pregnant by Z and then getting back with me. Fuck I was so pissed but all I could do was hug her and tell her everthing was ok. She though for sure I would hate her but I just can't. I told her that no matter what that as long as we raised a child together that would be our child and that's all that matters. I know that I will get flamed by people for this reaction but it's how I feel and I'm sticking too it.
This whole thing has taken a toll on her. Her daughter begs her to give me another chance. all her friends tell her to take a chance with me. She so drained physically and emotionally right now it's not even funny. Now I was with her one week after Z. I don't know if she's pregnant but she has been so damn emotional the last few weeks and hungry as hell. I mean her mood swings are serious. One day she tells me never to come over again. then lastnight after her aerobics class she pulled me into the tanning booth and we got it on. Go figure. she wants to move on without me. Then one day she she's me talking to a girl she hates and got so damn jealous it was scary.
I made it clear to her that no man would step up to the plate the way I have under these circumstances. she says that she know that if she ends up with anyone else it will only be a far cry from what I could offer. that makes no sense. She begged me to never tell her if I start to date.
even tonight I told her that she's the one with the control. I told her I'd drop everything I'm supposed to do tonight just to go over to ther place to snuggle all night with her and her daugher. they're the two most important women to me right now and I don't want to lose that. Hell we haven't been dating for some time and she still has my ring on whenever I run into her. In fact she begged me to promise her to never ask for it back or any of my pics.
why does this stuff have to be so complicated. I'd definitley like to here from the women on this
When I finally decided I wanted to be with her for the rest of my days she couldn't wait around. she said I broke her heart and she couldn't afford to go through that again. Or put her kid through it either.
I finally came clean and told her why I needed a time out and that I was sorry I just didn't talk to her about it. (must be a guy thing). this was tormenting her even more because she was seeing a new side of me yet she had moved on.
Early one Feb moring I went to her place to explain that I wanted to be a permanet part of her and her daughter's life. And that I would get off the gear so that we could have a child of our own.
Her BMW wasn't in her parking spot. I was kind of worried because it was early sunday morning and she had clients all day but wasn't there. Or so it seemed. there was a Cougar parke in her spot with vomit all over the passenger side of the parking spot obviously someone had been partying a little too hard.
I went around front and wish I wouldn't had. I could see a trail of clothes leading from the door to the bed she had in the livingroom. Her and that bastard were wrapped around eachother. Now I knew I had recognized the Cougar from the gym. I just stood there in shock. He woke up when I pounded on the window and was white as a ghost. She saw me and went hysterical. She started to call my friends to tell me to leave. so hear I am. yelling at them, yelling at my friends on my cell. the guy in her house, 'Z" is scared as hell trying to get dressed while she's puking everywhere.
Z took off before I could catch him but was gonna come back to pick her up to take her to the gym. I wasn't mad at her because she wansn't cheating and I'm the one who left. I told her i wanted to work things out and get beyond this. She was confused more than ever.
When Z showed back up I blocked his car in. I was about to lay 230+ lbs of juiced up freak in his 24 yr old light wt. ass But for some reason I wanted to get his side of the story. He said they had been toghether a few times the last few weeks which is about the time she said she didn't want me back. this kid kept asking me if I was gonna beat the shit out of him. I just told him to chill and tell me the rest.
He said that he had strong feelings for her and was gonna try to pursue something with her. So I knew it was game on. she had no idea Z and I where up in the carport talking. I called her on my cellphone and we both listened when I called her downstars
I asked her what the deal was with Z. She said that it was a one night fling that she can't even remember because she was so drunk ( obviously beucasue it was her vomit in the parking lot). when she said that it meant nothing he had head enough and grabbed my cellphone to ask her why she said that. She started getting sick all over again. we both went downstairs together. All 3 of us in the house. she couldn't function. We where both pleading our case to her.
she was so stressed that her 8 hr work day only lasted 2 hours. She explained that once I left her she was lonley beacuse I wasn't around anymore. We worked out together too. So she eventually started to work out with Z. She said that she crossed the line and they started sleepiing together. She didn't see either Z or I for the rest of the week.
That next weekend her and I went on a date. It was like we were never apart. Everyone in the club commented on how good we looked together and that we made a cute couple. I've seen her qutie a bit over the last month while she's been working out with Z. during this period I know that she hasn't been with him. She has her daughter 5-6 nights a week and I've spent quite a bit of time with both her and her kid.
When I'm around it's great. but when I leave she says she can't see me any more because she can't afford to get hurt again. She scared beacuse she feels I have too much control over her. One night she came back from a dinner funtion a little tipsy and she began to spill her guts.
She knows I can't get her pregnant with all the gear I'm on and we've proved that time and time again. I guess she though that she might take a chance of getting pregnant by Z and then getting back with me. Fuck I was so pissed but all I could do was hug her and tell her everthing was ok. She though for sure I would hate her but I just can't. I told her that no matter what that as long as we raised a child together that would be our child and that's all that matters. I know that I will get flamed by people for this reaction but it's how I feel and I'm sticking too it.
This whole thing has taken a toll on her. Her daughter begs her to give me another chance. all her friends tell her to take a chance with me. She so drained physically and emotionally right now it's not even funny. Now I was with her one week after Z. I don't know if she's pregnant but she has been so damn emotional the last few weeks and hungry as hell. I mean her mood swings are serious. One day she tells me never to come over again. then lastnight after her aerobics class she pulled me into the tanning booth and we got it on. Go figure. she wants to move on without me. Then one day she she's me talking to a girl she hates and got so damn jealous it was scary.
I made it clear to her that no man would step up to the plate the way I have under these circumstances. she says that she know that if she ends up with anyone else it will only be a far cry from what I could offer. that makes no sense. She begged me to never tell her if I start to date.
even tonight I told her that she's the one with the control. I told her I'd drop everything I'm supposed to do tonight just to go over to ther place to snuggle all night with her and her daugher. they're the two most important women to me right now and I don't want to lose that. Hell we haven't been dating for some time and she still has my ring on whenever I run into her. In fact she begged me to promise her to never ask for it back or any of my pics.
why does this stuff have to be so complicated. I'd definitley like to here from the women on this
Run! Don't walk! Move on!
