Question from another thread...

[Werd]

Spurred from the "women getting fat after 6 months of marriage thread".

Peeps be brutally honest here. If you knew that someone who you were attracted to would inevitably have their appearance altered due to illness, would you continue to date them anyway?

 

[d3track]

illness and just letting yourself go are two totally different things

 

[Werd]

illness and just letting yourself go are two totally different things

Yes, perhaps, but the end result is the same.... is it not?

 

[Y_lifter]

If you are dating someone long term purely due to physical attraction, that
relationship is doomed.

 

[jh1]

What do you mean altered by illness?

I mean , what are we talking about? How bad? Acne?

 

[lucidblue]

Hmmm... well if it were just someone I was attracted to and dating, I might not continue to date them. If it were someone I was completely in love with, it wouldn't matter if their appearance was altered due to illness or injury, etc, because there would be more to the relationship than just attraction.

 

[lucidblue]

illness and just letting yourself go are two totally different things

Agreed.

 

[Becoming]

Peeps be brutally honest here. If you knew that someone who you were attracted to would inevitably have their appearance altered would you continue to date them anyway?

I took out the illness part....

and yes of course I would continue to be with them... but like lucid said it would have to be stronger then attraction only...

 

[d3track]

Yes, perhaps, but the end result is the same.... is it not?

i wouldn't part with someone beacuse of something they could not control

although i could not be with someone who did not take of themself. it would drive me insane

 

[Werd]

See, this is where the area becomes grey. You all say that if you loved that person, it would not matter. But that (I would hope) goes without say.

What I am asking is that if you *just started* dating someone.... you were attracted to them... you hit it off, but because that person had an illness, though they looked pretty good in the here and now, you know for a fact, that as the illness progresses their appearance (as many other things like that person being able to work and take care of themselves) would change -

WOULD YOU CONTINUE TO DATE THEM?

 

[Becoming]

What I am asking is that if you *just started* dating someone.... you were attracted to them... you hit it off, but because that person had an illness, though they looked pretty good in the here and now, you know for a fact, that as the illness progresses their appearance (as many other things like that person being able to work and take care of themselves) would change -

WOULD YOU CONTINUE TO DATE THEM?

why not? it could just as likely happen with somone else, only you would not know about it beforehand....

 

[Mandinka2]

Attraction is about the here and now.... love is tangled up with empathy and much more.

 

[Werd]

Attraction is about the here and now.... love is tangled up with empathy and much more.

Empathy and love must begin somewhere....

 

[Y_lifter]

Can she still cook great food ?

 

[BileStew]

See, this is where the area becomes grey. You all say that if you loved that person, it would not matter. But that (I would hope) goes without say.

What I am asking is that if you *just started* dating someone.... you were attracted to them... you hit it off, but because that person had an illness, though they looked pretty good in the here and now, you know for a fact, that as the illness progresses their appearance (as many other things like that person being able to work and take care of themselves) would change -

WOULD YOU CONTINUE TO DATE THEM?

Who are you dating, the kid from Mask?

 

[juve]

only if the harm done by the illness could be rectified, and the person afflicted took active stance in doing so!

 

[Werd]

only if the harm done by the illness could be rectified, and the person afflicted took active stance in doing so!

There are lots of people in this sort of situation.

I actually had a co-worker last year - beautiful, beautiful woman. Very young, only 24. But you could see that her calves were very thin. She later confessed to me that she had a degenerative nueromuscular disorder that would eventually cause her to be wheelchairbound (docs told her she would be lucky to make it to 30) and take her life.

The confession came as we were talking about relationships....

She told me that this is why she doesn't involve herself in any "real" relationships. She doesn't tell the men, just doesn't let anyone get close and ends all of them shortly after they begin... She said, "I can't offer any one a future."

 

[Fina Junkie]

i just masterbate