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seaking420
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How do you work out your visitations with your kids. I have a few friends who are divorsed and some just see their kids everyother weekend and others split days during the week. How do you and your ex work that out
Question for those that are divorsed with kids
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mrplunkey
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I do a 7-day on / 7-day off routine and it works incredibly well. Fewer hand-offs are better. The kids transition back and forth cleanly too.
We've tried doing the changeover on Fridays at 6:00 PM and on Mondays right after school -- I'd recommend Mondays for sure as well. That way you and the children can plan events with the for the weekends because if you get them on Friday, you won't have enough time to make plans that involve their friends or your friends.
We've tried doing the changeover on Fridays at 6:00 PM and on Mondays right after school -- I'd recommend Mondays for sure as well. That way you and the children can plan events with the for the weekends because if you get them on Friday, you won't have enough time to make plans that involve their friends or your friends.
I have it set up for an every other weekend visit, he picks them up on that Friday and keeps them till monday morning and drops them off at school. But I am very easy with visitations... If he wants to see them during the week I am ok with it as long as it doesn't get in the way of them and school work/home work.
I know I couldn't go that long without seeing my kids and I'm quite sympathetic when it comes to our kids spending time with both of us.
I know I couldn't go that long without seeing my kids and I'm quite sympathetic when it comes to our kids spending time with both of us.
seaking420
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Thats exactly what Im thinking.
This is a very good question. I don't mean to hi-jack your thread, but I have a question of my own...what if the birth parents live in different states?
jack_schitt said:
I have that scenario going on. school vacations and the entire summer he is with one of us. meaning if he is going to school in his dads state he come to me for vacations vice versa. this school year he's with me.
for my youngest, his dad comes to either pick him up half way ( we each drive 150 miles) and he stays with him for a week. or he comes here and stays with friends or hotel. he can see him whenever he wants...
it's not your normal situation but it works for us (sometimes)
seaking420
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I was wondering that too
Well, regarding every other weekend parents, it's not exactly like you have a choice when the ex wife moves 30+ miles away and the husband's work schedule requires him to work at least one weekend a month.Bigroof said:
The fact is, the kids can't live between parent's homes when something like that would require them to be going between two school districts, and you can't move to follow your kids when that would require commutes of up to two or more hours (one way) for your job -- my husband works in several different locations, his ex moved to an awkward area in terms of accessibility. While the commute from where he lived/lives is about 45 minutes to most of the locations, from where she moved it could take hours.
And its not like you can just quit your job and get another one when you've got about 30 years with a company and you're pushing 50.
Bigroof
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musclemom said:
wow, you sound offended. i didn't say that to offend anyone, and i hope yo will accept my apology if you are. i was just simply giving my .02. i would do everything i could to avoid that situation and i would hope my ex would not try and make taht difficult for me b/c i think that is definetly what would be best for the children, and both parents could have an active part in all aspects of the kids lives.
Oh, no-no-no-no-no-no, no offense or anything taken!!!Bigroof said:
I was going to preface it and I should have. What you have to remember is that civilized divorces are not the rule. Yes, you would think that a mature human being would place the needs and best interests of the children above all considerations, even their anger at their ex. That is not the case. There are plenty of ex's who view visitation as the best opportunity to tell their kids what a shit their ex spouse was, and nothing more than that.
In the end, there's a reason why the divorce has taken place and one of the common ones is that these two (theoreticallly adult) people can't agree on shit.
musclemom said:
AMEN to that.
jestro
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Speaking of sticking it to X's, mine takes every chance to mess with me.jh1 said:
My kid is flying down there for spring break. When the x bought the ticket she gave the wrong email to send the confirmation and itenerary. And she didn't put me down as a contact, so I can't get the info. And with out me as the contact, I can't get passed security to see my girl to the gate. So, I need to be on there as a contact or she aint going.
So it's been about a week and a half, and my x just can't find the time to call the airline, all it would take is about 5 minutes. Everything has got to be a hassle.
