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for the first time in my life im looking for it. my parents died when i was 11 so i cant go to themPolishHammer1977
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Im on my own as well. This is how I do it. I write everything down on paper. Then I analyze it and provide sound solutions. I basically pretend that I am dealing with someody else. It works for me. Try it. You may suprise yourself.
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There are a select few on here I talk about things with......
Longhorn85
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You should find a pastor.
vixenbabe
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You are missing out on life kiddo!
Granted..opening up to other people takes a lot of hard work and trust. It's NOT easy but it's worth it if you find ONE person in life you can lean on. It's also WONDERFUL when you share yourself to someone who may need you!
Yes, there is a chance that you could get hurt. I 've been burned before just like the next person. The risk is worth it cuz you never know HOW many wonderful people can come into your life!
I'd rather risk getting hurt than being alone in life for sure!!!!
Granted..opening up to other people takes a lot of hard work and trust. It's NOT easy but it's worth it if you find ONE person in life you can lean on. It's also WONDERFUL when you share yourself to someone who may need you!
Yes, there is a chance that you could get hurt. I 've been burned before just like the next person. The risk is worth it cuz you never know HOW many wonderful people can come into your life!
I'd rather risk getting hurt than being alone in life for sure!!!!
grlpwrd
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georgie24 said:
i have no where else to go
Yes, find a friend, pastor, or counselor. I think I remember your gf situation and I don't want to sound mean, but you might also want to think about ridding your life of toxic people. That might unburden you and lighten your emotional overload.
At the very least you can journal your feelings on paper (self talk sometimes helps) or phone a crisis hotline if it really gets bad.
Take care of yourself!
PolishHammer1977
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grlpwrd said:
great minds think alike.....
cure
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vixenbabe said:
I tend to disagree. What your saying is more along the lines of "depending" on someone to "make sense" of your life or problem and IMO noone can really do that but yourself. If you want to vent to someone then fine but when you depend on that person to be your crutch is where I draw the line.
PolishHammer1977
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Re: Re: Question For The Men
Ditto Georgie......I'm here as well.
biteme said:
Ditto Georgie......I'm here as well.
vixenbabe
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Cure said:
Nope, I depend on me and ONLY me for my final choices. I "own" the bed of roses and the piles of shit I made in my life.
However.....
I'm also VERY blessed to have the kind of pals/family who can kick me in the ass with a good dose of "wake the fuck up" when I need to hear that as well. Face it, we sometimes do not see our own faults and need someone to remind us, right?
vinylgroover
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Cure, it's not depending on someone when having company, having an outlet to express your feelings and listening to others who may have an experience to share which could help.
None of us are perfect and we can all offer each other different advice and help based on our own life experinces. At the end of the day, the decisions you make are your own, but it doesn't hurt to have someone around to bounce things off of or even just someone to listen to you.
I always try to be there in times of need for my friends and family, and i feel very fortunate to have many close friends.
Georgie, spend more time meeting new people and cultivating friendships than relationships with girls, because until you get married, relationships will come and go, but good friends will last a lifetime.
None of us are perfect and we can all offer each other different advice and help based on our own life experinces. At the end of the day, the decisions you make are your own, but it doesn't hurt to have someone around to bounce things off of or even just someone to listen to you.
I always try to be there in times of need for my friends and family, and i feel very fortunate to have many close friends.
Georgie, spend more time meeting new people and cultivating friendships than relationships with girls, because until you get married, relationships will come and go, but good friends will last a lifetime.
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theoak01
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vixenbabe said:
i agree with the someone needing you
my girl needs me but it seems like in this past year she really hasnt been there and emotionally supportive when i need it
i just dont think she has been through enough,but hell it hurts when nobody will help,my friends listen but i dont think they really care all that much and at home my family has never ever shown any affection to me at all,its fucking horrible feeling alone when your surronded with so many people
cure
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vixenbabe and vinylgroover - i agree with your points yet i know too many people who "have to let things out" to have closure. For myself i find gratification in resolving my own problems and coming to my own conclusions yet i do agree that speaking to someone who has gone through those same problems can help.
Don't get me wrong, I do go to people to speak about some of my problems but i guess it was the way i was brought up. Whenever i had a problem i could never go to my mom because she was so judgemental and my friends were pretty much all guys who i couldn't really talk to. IMO you have to find someone you truly trust to be able to let things out about your personal life and in this world there are not many people who i can or wish to trust.
Don't get me wrong, I do go to people to speak about some of my problems but i guess it was the way i was brought up. Whenever i had a problem i could never go to my mom because she was so judgemental and my friends were pretty much all guys who i couldn't really talk to. IMO you have to find someone you truly trust to be able to let things out about your personal life and in this world there are not many people who i can or wish to trust.
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