Question for the Married Men.

[Deleted member 33117]

So, you only have sex with one woman (assuming you are faithful). Is it worth it? Does her nagging and complaining become unbearable? In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

Honestly, I've really never had a long-term relationship. Just haven't met any women who I wanted to be with who actually wanted to be with me, and vice versa. So I have no experience with this.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

WHY do you assume ALL women nag and complain?

 

[SoreArms]

So, you only have sex with one woman (assuming you are faithful). Is it worth it? Does her nagging and complaining become unbearable? In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

Honestly, I've really never had a long-term relationship. Just haven't met any women who I wanted to be with who actually wanted to be with me, and vice versa. So I have no experience with this.

how old are you BBF?

 

[jnuts]

In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

Yes.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Daisy_Girl because all of my friend's wives do, as well as all the married women in my family. I'm sure there are exceptions though. Granted, no girl I've dated was really a nagger.

 

[supervegitto]

So, you only have sex with one woman (assuming you are faithful). Is it worth it? Does her nagging and complaining become unbearable? In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

yes and yes, i love my girl and would never be unfaithful, never have and never will

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Sorearms, I'm probably a couple of years older than most peeps on EF realize. Its my one mystery I don't reviel on EF. Bere in mind I've already said I took 3 three year lay off from college before starting back last year, and I worked for over a year after hs before starting college.

 

[SoreArms]

how old are you BBF?

The reason I ask is because i didn't have a relationship until I was 22, and from the age of 16 'til then all I did was fuck around (a lot). I could not beleive that I could even ever fall in love, but it happened. I've had two relationships total now, both long term ( the first 1 year, the second 3 years). I did some fucking around in between them, but now, since my last GF, fucking around just doesn't feel the same, I even posted a thread the other day about letting a girl spend the night even though there wasn't any sex, just spooning. I didn't purposely look for these relationships, it started out as fun dating and one day I just realized how deep it had gotten. It'll hit you one day.

 

[velvett]

I've never nagged a man and I'm not one for fighting when compromise is so much easier.

I think if you're nagging and fighting with your mate perhaps you're not as well match as you thought.

 

[HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex]

So, you only have sex with one woman (assuming you are faithful). Is it worth it?

If she truly cares about you and puts an effort into it,yes.Most that I've seen do not.

Does her nagging and complaining become unbearable?

At times,yes.But we as men have our own nuances as well.

In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

There is a certain comfort and stability that exists,that does not when there is no commitment.

Honestly, I've really never had a long-term relationship. Just haven't met any women who I wanted to be with who actually wanted to be with me, and vice versa.

This last sentence is VERY important.Make sure that if you are crazy about a woman enough to consider marriage,that those feelings are equal on her end,otherwise chances are you will live a very frustrating life.I can speak from experience on this.Very important that you are equally as loved as you love.

So I have no experience with this.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Yes.

Don't listen to this guy. That's how he got the name jnuts = just nuts.




I believe women and men are very different. We just don't have the same interests and view things entirely differently. That being said it takes compromise and UNSELFISHNESS on BOTH parties to make a relationship last.

 

[Becoming]

with the exception of sorearms (see below) lots of good comments on here....

BBF if your woman nags or is unreasonable or jealous - I highly reccomend dropping her ass - it will only get worse with marriage - that said the street runs both ways but it is hard to change people.... as for me all is good - but that is because we both believe in putting work in.....

fucking around just doesn't feel the same, I even posted a thread the other day about letting a girl spend the night even though there wasn't any sex, just spooning

dude- you are turning homosexual - get yourself in for immediate emergency shock treatment!

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Becoming has a point. I've had a couple of girls do that... wanted to just sleep and cuddle or spoon... I had a rock hard erection all night. Plus they both complained that they had trouble sleeping, because I was humping against them and pocking them with it in my sleep all night. LoL

 

[HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex]

Becoming has a point. I've had a couple of girls do that... wanted to just sleep and cuddle or spoon... I had a rock hard erection all night. Plus they both complained that they had trouble sleeping, because I was humping against them and pocking them with it in my sleep all night. LoL

Yep,I simply CAN'T spoon.Period.My johnson is going in something if I'm right there.I would rather spend the night alone than deal with that type of torture,lol.

 

[Becoming]

^^

^^

lol

 

[The Shadow]

So, you only have sex with one woman (assuming you are faithful). Is it worth it? Does her nagging and complaining become unbearable? In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

Honestly, I've really never had a long-term relationship. Just haven't met any women who I wanted to be with who actually wanted to be with me, and vice versa. So I have no experience with this.

Ive never had short-term relationships but I think that if you are feeling nagged or being bitched at, there are 2 possibilities:

1 - You are doing something she doesnt like

2 - YOu arent doing sokmething she likes.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Ive never had short-term relationships but I think that if you are feeling nagged or being bitched at, there are 2 possibilities:

1 - You are doing something she doesnt like

2 - YOu arent doing sokmething she likes.

lol...SO true. Works both ways too....my BF complains for these same reasons.

 

[The Shadow]

lol...SO true. Works both ways too....my BF complains for these same reasons.

just do the both of you a favor.......just tell himwhat to do/not do

lol

 

[Daisy_Girl]

hahahaha

Actually neither of us nags or complains very much. Luckily, we have mastered the art of maturity......if either of need something, we ASK. Talking about things really cuts down oin nagging and complaining.

Except when I pinch his butt. He hates that, complains all the time, and I can't seem to stop.

 

[The_Ghost]

So, you only have sex with one woman (assuming you are faithful). Is it worth it? Does her nagging and complaining become unbearable? In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

Honestly, I've really never had a long-term relationship. Just haven't met any women who I wanted to be with who actually wanted to be with me, and vice versa. So I have no experience with this.

Dude you gotta change your outlook or you are doomed. Do you really have trouble understanding why you haven't had a long term or date these fucked up types? The common part in all this is you.

You need to change your attitude or be a bitter man your whole life. Tons of great women out there, its all up to you.

 

[daveyboy]

I'm married to the same woman for 20 yrs. Life has it's ups & downs but if you really care about each other you look past the bitching & complaining. Hell, she says I'm always complaining too so it kinda works both ways. It's usually just petty stuff that comes up & she pretty much knows me well enough by now to know that if I don't react to what she's saying in a day or two, I pretty much have let it go in one ear & out the other. No matter what she says after that, it's not going to have much of an effect on me one way or the other so she might as well give up. The when we hook up for our sex session(s) on the weekend, all that other crap blows over. Never cheated on her. Never really wanted to. Sex with her is still very very good & that helps a ton.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Dude you gotta change your outlook or you are doomed. Do you really have trouble understanding why you haven't had a long term or date these fucked up types? The common part in all this is you.

You need to change your attitude or be a bitter man your whole life. Tons of great women out there, its all up to you.

Good post. Dawgy, you are so enlightened.

If you were my BF, would YOU let me pinch your butt?

 

[Nubly]

you always post about how screwed up the women you've dated are or that you cant keep a girl. it seems that the problem isnt with the women, its with you

 

[Lumberg]

Ive never had short-term relationships but I think that if you are feeling nagged or being bitched at, there are 2 possibilities:

1 - You are doing something she doesnt like

2 - You arent doing sokmething she likes.

I think #2 is where most men need work. I know I am working on it.

If you do a lot of #2 you'd be surprised at how #1 becomes less of an issue.

I for one envision myself being in a long-term committed relationship even though I am not now, mostly cos that's what has to happen in order to haev kids.

 

[SoreArms]

dude- you are turning homosexual - get yourself in for immediate emergency shock treatment!

I would much rather spoon with a chick, grab some nice titties from the back and rub some ass (even with an all night painful erection) than sleep alone hugging a pillow like I do every night.

You gotta get on base before you can score.

 

[bitemeagain]

WHY do you assume ALL women nag and complain?

That's not an assumption. That's a fact. j/k maybe

 

[Buddy_Christ]

bunch of fuckin amatures i tell ya.

you don't lay there all night with a rock hard dick wishing you were stickin it in her when you know it's not gonna happen. you lay there for a while and start thinking about how much you just wanna nail her, all the differen things you'd do to her. after about 15-20 minutes of this mental torture, go head to the bathroom. you'll be done in about the same amount of time it'd take you to piss. then you can get a decent night's sleep.

damn.

BBF - i like ya man, you seem like a decent dude, but i gotta question how come you've never had a serious relationship but you point it towards the women. either you're only hanging around chicks that just want dick and nothing but, or maybe you gotta evaluate yourself. figure out which one it is, then make the proper adjustments.

 

[Robert Jan]

WHY do you assume ALL women nag and complain?

I must admit my gf hasn't nagged or complained yet ONCE in the time I'm with her.

Sometimes she has "And this one time, at band camp..." moments though.

But it's cute in a way. I pretend to care.

I pretend to care because I care-trademark of Robert Jan 2004

I understand she probably doesn't always care about everything I tell her either. She sure seems to remember every word I ever sayd to her though. I dont mean that in a bad not just the dumb or nasty things even the most irrelevant things.

 

[big4rt]

So, you only have sex with one woman (assuming you are faithful). Is it worth it? Does her nagging and complaining become unbearable? In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

Honestly, I've really never had a long-term relationship. Just haven't met any women who I wanted to be with who actually wanted to be with me, and vice versa. So I have no experience with this.

One day, when I quit training, she will endure my waist going up a few inches. Right now, she has given me a beautiful family, puts up with my gear, friday evening cognac, loud jazz and hip-hop music, snoring, stinking feet, farting, protein powder all over the kitchen floor, toilet seat up, piss on the toilet seat, "Patton", "The Good, the Bad and the Ugly", "Star Wars", "Scarface", "Tombstone", ESPN and porno flicks, obnoxious unemployed friends, family borrowing money and me just plain sitting on the couch with my hands on my crotch and playing with my belly button. Yeah, I think I what I am going to do is tolerate her shit for the rest of my life. If I want another woman, I'll go to the mall and get her a wig to wear to bed that night--problem solved... Marriage is more than a committment, fidelity and responsibility. It is a level of maturity.

"DO NOT TRADE YOUR BLESSINGS FOR DEER SOUP."

 

[The_Ghost]

Good post. Dawgy, you are so enlightened.

If you were my BF, would YOU let me pinch your butt?

that and a whole lot more

 

[Werd]

I understand she probably doesn't always care about everything I tell her either. She sure seems to remember every word I ever sayd to her though. I dont mean that in a bad not just the dumb or nasty things even the most irrelevant things.

MOST women are like this...

I have permanent shortterm memory loss from some injuries I sustained when I was younger, yet when I care for someone I can remember every word, every movement, even the smell of his skin for the simple fact that that person is important to me. I can recall the most seemingly insignificant details that is, until my feelings finally wane. With me, this takes a very, very long time.

 

[Forge]

In other words, do the perks of being commited to one woman outway the negatives?

In one word, yes. Sure marriage isn't always perfect, there are good times and bad times. There are times when the sex tapers off for awhile, and then there are times when you get it 8 times a day. There are times when a married man thinks about cheating, he may even get offers from other women, but a husband has to be man enough to stick to his word and his promise. But marriage is much more than just sex, it's a promise and a committment to be faithful to each other and to put each other first, before everything else in life, NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS.

You seem to put sex at the front of the list when it comes to serious relationships. The truth is that sex, while important, is not the most important part. If it is for you, then you aren't ready and you shouldn't bother worrying about it.

 

[indianburn]

To the OP sure it kinda sux you can experience one chick sexually but there are many other plusses that outway that. For one you won't get a vd or aids(ro you shouldn't I should say) The other you have a partner to help you in this thing we call life. Also there is somebody there for you when you are old and delapatated(sp) where no goodlooking young girl would be caught with your wrinkly old ass unless you were loaded.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

It seems a couple the people mistook this as a thread about me whinning about failed relationships, or a thread trying to figure out how I hook up with psychos. I appreciate our input, but I have a lady with a Ph.D who gets paid to analyze this every tuesday, and the explination would be a couple pages long.

For the men who gave me honest answers, I'm very appreciative of your time. I really wanted to hear input from married men, along the pros and cons in their opinion of marriage. Thanks guys.

 

[Nubly]

I have a lady with a Ph.D who gets paid to analyze this every tuesday, and the explination would be a couple pages long.

told you the problem was yourself

 

[indianburn]

For the men who gave me honest answers, I'm very appreciative of your time. I really wanted to hear input from married men, along the pros and cons in their opinion of marriage. Thanks guys.

Did I count as one those men? Because my answer is as honest as the day is long. I forgot to add about the sex with one chick thing on how to spice that up. I bought my wife like 4 different wigs in varitions of color and length. So when you are doing them they look different with helps with the variety problem in marriage.