Question for the guys mainly........

[vinylgroover]

Would any of you give up the right or chance to have children at some point in the future if it meant getting married to a woman who you believe could be the love of your life.

The woman in question already has children of her own and she is at a point in her life that she does not want more children or may be incapable of having more children. I have no children of my own and have not been married previously.

 

[BO-DEN]

never

children are the future of your bloodline

love is a chemical

like testosterone it can be replaced

 

[vinylgroover]

never

children are the future of your bloodline

love is a chemical

like testosterone it can be replaced

i see your point.

 

[Testosterone boy]

Probably....it would be hard to be my son I think. Seems I always try to hard.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Not even sure if I want kids, so sure.

 

[Bullit]

never

children are the future of your bloodline

love is a chemical

like testosterone it can be replaced

Who authored this?

I don't see a "BO-DEN" at the end so I am very confused as to what, exactly, is going on here.

 

[BO-DEN]

hehe



ill put it twice here to make up for it

BO-DEN
BO-DEN

 

[Testosterone boy]

How did the implants go for that girlfriend you had last summer?

 

[Mandinka2]

Nope , honestly I would never get involved with a woman with kids by another. Like it or not there is a bond there that you can't break and I couldnt honestly ask another man not to come into my house if his children were there.

 

[canadianhitman]

If you want a child, there's no way it can work out. You will always resent her on some level for denying you something that you really wanted badly. On the other hand, if you aren't all that keen on having a child, then by all means stay with her.

 

[SoreArms]

people should think before they have a baby and realize that it is a human being, not a thing.

 

[Bullit]

people should think before they have a baby and realize that it is a human being, not a thing.

Just stop the lyin' man.

Lies like that arent gonna help anyone.

 

[vinylgroover]

If you want a child, there's no way it can work out. You will always resent her on some level for denying you something that you really wanted badly. On the other hand, if you aren't all that keen on having a child, then by all means stay with her.

therein lies the problem i guess. i'm 31 and although kids are not on the immediate agenda for me, i can't be sure if i'll feel the same in 4 or 5 or 7 years.

 

[vinylgroover]

people should think before they have a baby and realize that it is a human being, not a thing.

not sure how that relates to my question.

 

[Dial_tone]

Absolutely, If I can't have children with the love of my life I don't want them with some second-rate person. This is possibly an issue for me as I'm 39 and the person I'm currently involved with is 24. By the time she's ready I could be in an old folk's home when the kids hit college.

 

[Sebby]

I think I could be with someone who couldn't have a child, but I don't like the idea of raising someone elses child. I'm not keen on the idea that she can have kids and doesn't want a little Sebby running around. That just isn't possilbe.

 

[vinylgroover]

This woman is 41........*gasp* and has 2 children from her previous marrriage aged 10 and 7. She is not keen on having another child at this point in her life, not to mention that it becomes more difficult to have children at her current age even if sedid want them.

If i knew now that i definitely didn't want my own kids, it wouldn't be so difficult. She is on very good terms with her ex, she is financially secure etc........it's not like she is looking for a 'father' for her kids, they already have one who is responsible and loves his kids.....she's just looking for a partner.

 

[Dial_tone]

Is it the delivery or the raising of a 3rd child that she takes issue with? Surely she must relate to the idea of you wanting your own flesh & blood?

 

[vinylgroover]

Is it the delivery or the raising of a 3rd child that she takes issue with? Surely she must relate to the idea of you wanting your own flesh & blood?

the raising.........been there, done that. She's basically telling me that as much as she cares about me, she can't give me my own flesh and blood if that's what i want. So, the decision then comes back to me.

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

VG-- are you serious?? werent you just w/that pre-teen-- uh I mean early 20s gal w/the great ass???

what happened to her?

 

[Dial_tone]

I'd pass on this one and wait for the next cab.
Ms. BH when are you and I gonna hit the town?

 

[vinylgroover]

VG-- are you serious?? werent you just w/that pre-teen-- uh I mean early 20s gal w/the great ass???

what happened to her?

i was with a girl who was 23 in the early part of last year........too young MBH and didn't know what she wanted.......had alot of issues which she eeded to sort out etc, so we went our separate ways.

I'm not in love with this 41 year old..........but i think i could fall in love with her quite easily. It started out as a casual thing........and we agreed early on that it would remain casual, but i guess our feelings have developed as it's gone on.

Not enjoying my 30's much at the moment

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

I'd pass on this one and wait for the next cab.
Ms. BH when are you and I gonna hit the town?

LOL...howabout tonight?

 

[SoreArms]

not sure how that relates to my question.

And it'sgoing to keep you up all night, isn't it?

 

[Dial_tone]

I'm not in love with this 41 year old..........but i think i could fall in love with her quite easily. It started out as a casual thing........and we agreed early on that it would remain casual, but i guess our feelings have developed as it's gone on.

Sounds like me and my 24 year old. We jokingly agreed to be sex partners til she's 28 then we'll decide what to do. I already know what I want to do. She can be a keeper anytime she's ready. She's actually touring AU for two weeks, currently in Melbourne. She had her period yesterday so I know she'll be coming home ready to rock and roll.

Ms. BH, don't tempt me.

 

[Taps]

There's always adoption. Is she against the idea of actually owning (lack of a better term) kids, or just giving birth to them?

 

[vinylgroover]

There's always adoption. Is she against the idea of actually owning (lack of a better term) kids, or just giving birth to them?

no......she has 2 from a previous marriage. she just doesn't want anymore at this stage of her life.

 

[boscoe wilson]

Sacrifices must be made in any relationship. You're the only one who can determine whether or not you are willing to make a sacrifice of that callibur.

 

[BO-DEN]

Absolutely, If I can't have children with the love of my life I don't want them with some second-rate person. This is possibly an issue for me as I'm 39 and the person I'm currently involved with is 24. By the time she's ready I could be in an old folk's home when the kids hit college.

imm 22 and my dad is 69

 

[GoldenDelicious]

no

 

[theoak01]

no I must have children,boys preferably

 

[SoreArms]

There are more than enough people having more than enough kids, so that if you do not reproduce, you are not going to have a catastrophic effect on the human population.

People do not understand that just because they can have kids, does not mean they have to. It is not something you just do, like taking a shit. It is something you do after you have thought it out well and have planned it both mentally and financially and decided that you have something worth passing on. Not just 'cause you want them to look like you and say your name and all the other egotistical reasons that people usually have kids for.

Rather than bring more children into this world, help out the ones that are already here. Fuck the bloodline, pass the wisdom.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

Me, personally, no I would not accept not being to have kids of my own. I know people who are married happily in similar situation you described. Personally I just always wanted to have a family and having my children has always been important to me.