Please help this is important to me....

[Dakotah]

Hello everyone
As you might know I got some bad news today. My grandmother passed away. Now is the part where I ask for your help - I need to come up with a little something for the funeral. I am usually the one who comes up with all the right words but this is turning out to be the hardest thing I have had to do in a really long time. I know that it is hard as to how none of you knew her but this is hard. Scotsman I know you are really good with words; any help?

 

[@dam]

sorry for your loss, God bless

 

[BUBBLES]

I am sorry about your loss.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I would guess that it would be difficult to compose a benediction for someone that the author has never met.

 

[BUBBLES]

I would guess that it would be difficult to compose a benediction for someone that the author has never met.

I think sorrow can be spelt in many different languages and anyone who has experienced sorrow would be able to compose something generic and heartfelt.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I think sorrow can be spelt in many different languages and anyone who has experienced sorrow would be able to compose something generic.

Yeah, like 3 lines...

 

[BrothaBill]

Beyond any generalities, you praise her for her qualities, tell humorous anecdotes to celebrate and remember her life. I mean talk about her as if this is the reward she deserved for living such a good life and here's why. As for offering words really I think its impossible if you dont know the person. The words could be totally off track as to your grandma and we'd have to be so general as to come off like a hallmark card. Sorry.

 

[Dakotah]

i totally get what you all are saying - im just having a shitty time right now even functioning correctly even the simple things are forgotten. I have come up with some things but it just seems to be too much for me right now
my mind is filled with soooo much right now that it is hard for me to think period. I keep seeing all the faces of the people who have left in such a close period of time that it is hard to function properly.

rambling becomes the first bumble.

I will try to post tomorrow some ideas of what i have written also after i have had some time to rest; maybe you all can give me a hand then, or at least some advice or let me know what you think then.

Thanks im going to try to get some sleep.

 

[Pamela]

I'm so sorry Dakotah!
Did she have a favorite song? If so you could get that and have them to play it.
And then add some words.
I'm not very good with words.
But we have some good people here that can come up with some.

 

[*MissFit*]

Hmm talk about the significance she had in your lives and those of the ones around her.

Did she have any speical gifts or talents.

Overcome obsticles.. etc

 

[Scotsman]

Well I don't know how much help I can be but here goes.

First of don't be afraid to cry or become overly emotional, no one is going to expect you to be stoic on this occasion. Next don't be afraid to look to others for support and console.

As for what to say here is my suggestion. Sit down without pen or paper and start thinking. Find a happy moment with her in you mind. Doesn't have to be anything out of the ordinay a day in the park, making cookies, or a trip to the zoo. Just find some really happy memory that means something to you. Focus on this the smiles and laughs, the warm feelings you felt. Now work your way out from this point to find some of the high points in you time together. At this point get a pen and jot down the really important things you want to convey to others about how you felt about her. This doesn't have to be a flowing prose just something you know you can and want to say. Don't give yourself something too difficult to read since it may be very hard for you to openly share these feeling. Most of all don't dwell in the sadness of the moment. More than likely that's the last thing she would want from you. Remember the happy times, don't be afraid to tell a silly story that might make people laugh, laughter is very healing. Other than that just keep to the happy times and let your own thoughts guide you.

My deepest condolences on your loss.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Carmen]

dakotah, first of all, i'm sorry about your grandma. pm me if you wanna talk.
i've had to write a few speeches. the best ones are personal. include a personal story, one that represents her, like a time she helped you or something she used to do that made you feel good or something funny. like scots said- don't dwell on the fact that she's gone, instead remember what a good person she was.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

dunno what to say Dakotah, and i'm usually really good with coming up with things to say. i didn't speak at my grandfather's funeral for the same reason, not that i would've been able to anyway.

i hope she found peace and i hope things start looking up for you soon.

 

[Miss24k]

I'm sorry to hear about your grandma D.

 

[theoak01]

sorry bout your loss D

 

[onebigab]

My condolences to you.

 

[Daisy_]

Sorry about your loss Keep your head up high, and remember she is in a much better place now. If you need anything feel free to PM me.. I had a bestfriend passaway a few years ago, and I know how dificult it is loosing someone you love.

 

[Gymgurl]

I'm so sorry D! Just let it come from the heart and you will know what to say...it doesn't have to long and indepth to be heart felt and to the point! ((((HUGS))))))

 

[Y_lifter]

I had a friend that had a grandma that always baked the best cookies..
She was well known for in in the Family.

When he was giving up talking about her, he had people passing
out cookies to everyone in the Church.. How cool is that ?

 

[EnderJE]

How about...(only really has a good effect when its raining on the funeral day)

"Rain makes it perfect,
But it can't rain all the time,
The sky can't fall forever,
and the night feels long,
I'll see you there and we'll smile,
and my tears will stop falling forever."

said at my granny's funeral 15 years ago...

 

[wootoom]

sorry to hear that

 

[Dakotah]

Scotsman thank you soooo much very sweet. I will definetly try that method now my problem is my family wants me to write a eulogy now and im freaking


ender that was very beautiful


the funeral is on monday vday and im really wondering whats going to happen

 

[EnderJE]

ender that was very beautiful

Thanks. The first line was from a comic and the rest was from a song. I remember thinking that it was appropriate for that day.