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DoseOfTruth

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Some of you may have read my thread about the bank teller chick I have been into.

Well today I went back to the bank. I got in line and noticed her. I noticed she had colored her hair a totally different color. I thought that if I got lucky and her window openend when I was in front of the line, bingo..I'd have an ice breaker to stear the conversation in a personal direction!

SO

I get lucky. Her window opens and I walk up:

ME: Hi, I need to make a deposit

HER: Hey you. (Smiles)

ME: Silence (Thinking compliment her hair you fucktard)

HER: Hows things?

ME: Same (Thinking same as what..fuck..you're blowing it, say something about her fucking hair)

HER: *laughs* Here you go anything else?

ME: Thant'll do it (thinking fuckkkkkkkkkkk)

I walk away with head down. I am running out of shit to deposit and probably beginning to look like a fucking stalker.

Players, help a brother out. What's a smooth move here?
 
Bro, you have it right there in your lap, so-to-speak. She seemed to initiate conversation well. That's your opportunity. It's difficult, but just take the plunge and talk to her. You had a good idea with complimenting her hair, so next time use it.

Looking back, the times I regret is when I DIDN'T do anything. Getting turned down or anything else related is really no big deal.
 
do what I did. ask her out. fuck it. what do you have to lose. when I asked she politely said she had a b/f, then like a month later she asked ME out. she turned out to be a whack job. either way, say fuck it and ask her. at least that way you know where you stand.
 
don't be a pussy. if you want to talk to her do it. if you aren't smooth with the ladies you can even use that to your advantage. something like this might work:

"Hi"
 
If you don't want to do what the nature boy said I suggest getting a bit drunk then going to the bank.
 
okay, seriously, after some small talk about you giving her your deposit say something like this:

" Do you mind if I ask you a question? (she gives the okay)

I hope this doesn't come across as too forward, but, I think you are really cute and wanted to know if you would like to ___________________"

insert something there that you typically like to do. Go grab a bite to eat and have a conversation, go grab a drink, whatever.
 
Man, all is it takes is a little confidence and some sack. Don't get a don't give a shit attitude about anything. Just go in there and know it's cool no matter what she says. Initiate conversation, and move on from there. It sounds like you've got it in the bag. Besides, if she says no, file a complaint with the bank and say she tried to grab your nuts or something and get her fired :) Sweet vengeance.
 
Next time you go to the bank.....................get drunk first.

At least you'll have a little less inhibitions, just make sure your not driving.
 
Sounds so easy!

Everyone is very correct. Thanks!

What are opinions on leaving it up to her instead of asking. For example:

"Hey, I was gonna leave you my number. If you are ever bored give me a call, I'd like to take you out"

Or does this show my obvious lack of confidence?

Whatever happens, I will post it here so you can all point and laugh :fro:
 
The Nature Boy said:
do what I did. ask her out. fuck it. what do you have to lose. when I asked she politely said she had a b/f, then like a month later she asked ME out. she turned out to be a whack job. either way, say fuck it and ask her. at least that way you know where you stand.
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you had to whack her NB? man I hate it when you have to put them down.......

R.I.P. bank teller girl, may God deposit your soul in heaven
 
Re: Sounds so easy!

DoseOfTruth said:
Everyone is very correct. Thanks!

What are opinions on leaving it up to her instead of asking. For example:

"Hey, I was gonna leave you my number. If you are ever bored give me a call, I'd like to take you out"

Or does this show my obvious lack of confidence?

Whatever happens, I will post it here so you can all point and laugh :fro:
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Dude, you don't want to leave your number. If she is interested she will give you her number or you two can exchance numbers. Think about it, if you just leave your number you have no control over the situation. Then you are going to feel like a little bitch and wonder why she hasn't called.
 
The worst thing you can do is not try. Think of it this way, by not trying you are guaranteed to not meet a cool woman. That's going to feel worse in the long run than any rejection. Finally, rejection isn't nearly as bad as you think. Most women have a canned response that will let you save face if she's not interested, "Thank you, that's very flattering but I have a boyfriend." I have NEVER been turned down in a way that embarrassed me.

Here are two examples of why you should risk rejection,

1. I saw this hot woman at the gym all time. I asked her out but it turns out she's married (never wears her ring while working out). It was an wakward moment don't I wasn't embarrassed and she was flattered, I had no reason to know she was married. We still talk to this day, nearly four years later.

2. I saw a woman at the gym but was never able to find a way to start a conversation. Out of the blue I start a conversation and ask her if she would like to go out sometime, basically said we could exchange numbers and if she felt comfortable we could go out at some point. Turns out she was moving in a couple weeks. We talked and went out and had a great time until she moved. We still hung out for a while when she visited town until she found a boyfriend.

BTW, in both instances the lady in question was fisnished with her workout, I'm not one to bother someone while they workout.

Had I not taken a risk of being rejected I never would have met two great people. What's the worst thing that happens, she says no and you know she isn't the one for you, much better than your current situation of romantic limbo.
 
bro its cool you just got clusterfuck it happens relax when you talk to her she is human just like me and you and its obvious that she has a intrust in you next time say i like your new hair color and go from there.
 
Re: Sounds so easy!

DoseOfTruth said:
Everyone is very correct. Thanks!

What are opinions on leaving it up to her instead of asking. For example:

"Hey, I was gonna leave you my number. If you are ever bored give me a call, I'd like to take you out"

Or does this show my obvious lack of confidence?

Whatever happens, I will post it here so you can all point and laugh :fro:
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the best way is to ask her for her number. this shows a lot of balls (even if you're shy.. she doesn't know that) and makes the chick think that you've got somthing going on to have the cajones to come up to her and ask her out in a bank of all places. chicks notice that shit.

if you give her your number then she has to call you, which most girls don't like doing. If you DO leave her your number (which I advise against), don't say too much. Say some shit like:

"Call me sometime and lets hang out." Or "call me and lets meet up for a drink later". don't say any crap with "if you want" or "if you fee like it".

your best bet is to just suck it up and ask her out. if she says no then no big deal, and move on. the more you ask chicks out in these types of uncomfortable situations the easier it'll get. trust me.

just say fuck it, and maybe you will.
 
This is what you do... pull ot your hard cock and tell her "this is a stick up"...

She'll want you so bad.
 
1. You had a PERFECT in yet u fucked it up... what makes you think you will actually use any of our advice?

2. I say ask for her email addy (or give her yours). I find its WAY easier to start a little online convo first.

3. Don't say "if you are bored" ... makes you sound like a last resort. Listen to Nature Broly.

4. Its probably best to disregard all my advice.. WTF do I know.
 
Bullit said:
1. You had a PERFECT in yet u fucked it up... what makes you think you will actually use any of our advice?

2. I say ask for her email addy (or give her yours). I find its WAY easier to start a little online convo first.

3. Don't say "if you are bored" ... makes you sound like a last resort. Listen to Nature Broly.

4. Its probably best to disregard all my advice.. WTF do I know.
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2. I actually like the email convo thing as well. there is no backspace button when you're the phone. plus when I'm on the phone I usually say something fucked up so I keep conversations to a minimum.
 
ok here's what to do... follow my advice and i guarantee you will get the date, whether she is single or dating a guy.

Next time you go in there this is what you say verbatim:
Hey how's it going Janine?

she responds

Wow I love what you did to your hair! Where do you go to get it done??

she responds

That sounds like a good place... you know i've been thinking about getting my hair highlighted, shaved whatever... do you think they do that??

she responds

Is it a full service salon, like do they have tanning and stuff??

she responds

your job is to get her talking bro...

well listen janine, i got to run... i have an important lunch meeting with so and so. (Make it sound really important) I defly think you and I should have lunch sometime. Why don't you write your number down on that blank piece of paper and i'll call you sometime this week so we can set something up?

then she responds

ok so what did we accomplish??

1. we established a common bond with you and her... the salon
2. we made her realize that you aren't some psycho who will stalk her, you have important things going on in your life too
3. you asked her for her # and the reason why you wanted it.... NEVER say, "i think you're cute let's hang out" that's totally lame and you're setting yourself up for rejection. You made it sound professional and dignified... no strings attached.
4. you didn't say "can i have your number" she's just gonna say no. you told her to write it down... she's gonna have to write it down now.

i'm tellin ya if you do what i say you'll get the number and the date. It's all about confidence. I've worked in sales for 2 yrs now... and selling a product is like talkin to a girl. You gotta sell youself first, then you can sell the product after (the date)

Act as if... act as if you don't really care if she gives it to you or not... she should be honored to give it to you
Act as if you have a 10 inch cock.... that you're the president of a company....


I'm tellin ya whatever these jokers on this forum say about my post... I know what i am talking about. need more help just post about it.
 
oh btw i know you have no confidence... you consider yourself a loser "Players-Help a loser out" she'll smell your fear dude... they all do. You gotta be confident. good luck. keep me posted
 
Sounds like you need Frackal's help on this one.
 
Dial Tone,

That is awesome freakin advice! You are amazing. If I guy ever did that for me, I would have totally melted!! The only time I ever came close, was when I was working in the registrars office at a community college. A guy walks right up to me and asks me out. I had a boyfriend(my husband) so I said, "that's so sweet, but I have a boyfriend." Well he goes away and before I left I was cleaning up and on one of the course booklet thingy's he wrote, oh that's sweet, but I have a boyfriend. What a freak!

I wish the bank was open right now!! Dude you gotta take his advice. Do it tomorrow!!! Let us know how it goes.

Oh, one ?, doesn't this women have kids? Or was that someone else? If so, you gotta really look out for yourself with this one, could get really hairy!!! But good luck!
 
Re: Re: Sounds so easy!

The Nature Boy said:


if you give her your number then she has to call you, which most girls don't like doing. If you DO leave her your number (which I advise against), don't say too much. Say some shit like:

"Call me sometime and lets hang out." Or "call me and lets meet up for a drink later". don't say any crap with "if you want" or "if you fee like it".
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Yes. Do NOT say any crap like "if you want" or "if you fee like it". If you don't have the balls to ask her for her number then do like The Nature Boy said.

Hey, and don't feel bad about not having the balls. I have been talking with a buff Faith Hill look-alike at my Gym and the other day ran into her and I asked her about some shit we were talking about last time. She was really excited and telling me all about the update and I ran out of time and had to go get my kids from child care. Anyway I gave her my card and cell and asked her to call me and tell me the rest of the story.
 
supernav said:
>hairy John Travolta chest just don't cut it anymore

hehe. No shit!

And if you DO give them your #, always, ALWAYS, always act as if "hey, if you don't call, no sweat off my back" kinda approach. Last thing you want to do, is give her your #, and act all desperate and "please please make sure you call!" kinda attitude. Women can smell desperation, and turned off by that. There's no challenge for them, so they look for something else.

And i just give women my business card. I got soo tired of carrying sharpies and post-it notes in my pockets, that i just printed out my pro-looking cards and just hand them that. And i put them in my back pocket, not my wallet. It looks too dorky to take out your wallet, open it up, and take out a card. Or keep 'em in your jacket. Anything to make it look smoother and not "i do this everytime" when u hand them your card.

-= nav =-
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doesn't having a card made scream " i do this everytime"??
 
Dude, I am by no means a pimp, but you fucked it up. Look at your convo....

DoseOfTruth said:
HER: Hows things?

ME: Same (Thinking same as what..fuck..you're blowing it, say something about her fucking hair)

HER: *laughs* Here you go anything else?
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(look into her eyes)

You: Actually, yea. Would you like to have dinner sometime, say saturday?



Just go back in in a week or so, and talk to her again, act calm and give her a smile and your eyes.
 
I agree about giving your number and not getting theirs. I usually hand them my business card which has my name and work number and tell them my home number is in the book. I've had a few women say they never call guys to which I reply, " I made the approach so I'm obviously interested, if you're interested you'll call." Besides, any women with a hard and fast rule not to call guys would most likely be a pain in the ass to date anyway.
 
this thread actually has some decent insight and that is just a reflection of everyone's different styles and approaches to the game.
 
The Nature Boy said:
well I think the consensus is for him to at least do something.
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yep. sure way to not get laid or get a date is to not ask. can't be afraid of failure. dare to dream. reach for greatness. spread your wings and fly.
qq
motivational speaker
 
beastboy said:
LMAO....Bullit giving advice on picking up gals.
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Did you not read my last point???

Jerkfuck.
 
You can't catch dinner without knowing how to bait your hook.
Wait a few days to lessen the stalker thing and go back at a time
that you think the bank will be slow.


Write on the back of a deposit slip

Do you love me ?

YES.....__

NO......__ Checking here will cause me to Rob you at gunpoint
 
Y_Lifter said:

Write on the back of a deposit slip

Do you love me ?

YES.....__

NO......__
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LOL.

Like I said before... you're on a roll Y.
 
Y_Lifter said:
You can't catch dinner without knowing how to bait your hook.
Wait a few days to lessen the stalker thing and go back at a time
that you think the bank will be slow.


Write on the back of a deposit slip

Do you love me ?

YES.....__

NO......__ Checking here will cause me to Rob you at gunpoint
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I think the whole message thing on the check is a good angle, however, I would never, ever write that on a check and give it to a cashier. Seriously.

Anything stating "rob you at gunpoint" in writing on a check at a bank is a big no-no. That could seriously get you in trouble. What if a manager is looking at it or your own bank or someone who doesn' t understand you were trying to ask a girl out on a date.
 
OK.....this is how you do it:

Put on your best jeans and stuff some socks in the front. Confidently stroll up and give her a big smile. Turn around and shove your ass out and ask her what she thinks.

You will have total control while she makes all the moves. Chicks dig uber confidence so much.

:fro:
 
asking her out for dinner is a big mistake. You can't just spring a date on her unless she seems to be extremely interested. She could just be a nice person and her asking how you are doing and such is normal routine. I ask everyone how they are doing and if they did anything fun since the last time I seen them.

If she is interested, I like the bank note idea. It will be a silent cute gesture to ask her out. If she says no it's not like you stood there asking her to go out with you.

Before you ask her out the main thing to do is establish a friendship when you go in. You can't even have a conversation with her when you goto the bank, why would you ask her out to dinner?

You need to get conversation going and have a regular flow of communication between you when you goto the bank. After this if you see an attraction going on between both parties you can say to her " hey I come in here a lot and I love talking to you, you think we should try and get toghether outside of the bank sometime?
 
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Bro, just ask her if she's interested in a bite to eat or a coffee during her lunch hour. Just ask her in a casual sort of way.....try not to seem anxious.

btw; have you asked her her name yet?

Next time you go in and see her, after the pleasantries just casually say 'would you be interested in grabbing a quick bite or a coffee during your lunch break, sometime'. If she says yes, then say, 'ok cool, i'm usually free, x,y,z day......if you like i can take your work number or we can organise a day next time i come in.

By having a quick bite or a coffee, it gives both of you the chance to talk a bit, and see what the interest level is like without having to endure a 3 or 4 hour dinner date, which can be uncomfortable if you have nothing in common.
 
DoseOfTruth said:
Some of you may have read my thread about the bank teller chick I have been into.

Well today I went back to the bank. I got in line and noticed her. I noticed she had colored her hair a totally different color. I thought that if I got lucky and her window openend when I was in front of the line, bingo..I'd have an ice breaker to stear the conversation in a personal direction!

SO

I get lucky. Her window opens and I walk up:

ME: Hi, I need to make a deposit

HER: Hey you. (Smiles)

ME: Silence (Thinking compliment her hair you fucktard)

HER: Hows things?

ME: Same (Thinking same as what..fuck..you're blowing it, say something about her fucking hair)

HER: *laughs* Here you go anything else?

ME: Thant'll do it (thinking fuckkkkkkkkkkk)

I walk away with head down. I am running out of shit to deposit and probably beginning to look like a fucking stalker.

Players, help a brother out. What's a smooth move here?
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I have not always been a player. You see, back when I was in college, quite a few years ago now, I was the classic nerd. I was a little overweight, of average looks, and definitely not cool. In fact, I'm sure that my lack of popularity and poor self-esteem is what led me to learn all I could about bodybuilding. I was never sexy like a Calvin Klein model, but I got pretty buff and I had more self esteem than I did before I started working out.

Although I had a good body, one thing I was not proud of and one thing that I am still embarrassed about even today is that I was not getting laid! Go ahead and laugh if you want, I was a virgin well into my 20's (ouch!). Of course I told my buddies about all kinds of sex that I was having, but none of it was true (so please don't you tell anybody either!). I looked about as good as the other guys, but when it came to girls, I just wasn't getting any. Zero, Nada, None! While there were a few guys in college who were getting as much as they could handle, and most of the guys were hooking up at least once in a while, the only body givein me any good lovein was myself!

Read more:
http://www.elitefitness.com/reports/players/
 
notoriousQQ said:
okay, seriously, after some small talk about you giving her your deposit say something like this:

" Do you mind if I ask you a question? (she gives the okay)

I hope this doesn't come across as too forward, but, I think you are really cute and wanted to know if you would like to ___________________"

insert something there that you typically like to do. Go grab a bite to eat and have a conversation, go grab a drink, whatever.
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That makes you sound like a pussy. You should be more up front and confident, but not pushy or rude, and don't mention anything sexual.
 
Never EVER give out your number. Most likely they will throw it in the trash. 9 out of 10 times the girl will never call. Always get their number. It shows you are in control.
 
Damn bro you are too shy. But confidence is king. Use your shyness then. Say while looking into her eyes and smiling:

You know, I'd really like to take you out and get to know you better. Give me your phone # and I'll call and we'll go out Saturday night.

This is all you need to do, be direct. If she like you she'll say yes.
Fucking simple but takes balls. Girls like balls
 
I've tried many different ways to get a woman and to tell you the truth the easiest way is just to be funny and shocking. I would always steer the conversation towards sex and I would make the conversation so nasty that I thought chicks would slap me but I was always the one going home with them. Wierd stuff!!!
 
I think your approach should correspond to how attractive you are. You should know by now if you are decent looking or not. If you are good looking enough all you will have to do is ask her out...trust me women are not as secure as they seem, they are flattered by a good looking guy who shows SINCERE interest in them. If you act like a 'playa' and that is not who you are you are never going to have a real relationship with that girl. If a girl acted too smooth would you trust her? In you case bro, honesty is the only thing that will work and let you be who you really are, at the same time allowing her to decide if she likes you. Just be honest. "Look I never do this because I am kind of shy but I think you are beautiful and I want to take you out." You can have confidence without putting on an act and looking ridiculous
 
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