Patching things up with an ex b/f or g/f?

[Sexual Mustard]

thanks freakshow and luv2workout....and even SG for the funny post. I'll just speak from the heart, and at least I'll get the REAL reason she wanted a breakup....

 

[KAYNE]

I agree with thefanthom here.

WHAT THE HELL DO YOU KNOW BUDDY? YOU LIKE THE SAINTS!!! LOL.

(YOU KNOW I'M FUCKING WITH YOU!!!)

KAYNE

 

[snaplink175]

this is snaplink's woman- i no longer play with emotions or any of that middle school stuff so i hope i can help. by asking you to meet her for dinner to "talk" means she wants something. knowing how we can be, that something will only benefit her. if she wants you back, she knows she can wink and blow kisses over dinner and she's in. if she just wants to give you your stuff back, she's getting a free meal out of it. just go, smile, eat, and tell yourself that this will be the closure you need regardless of the outcome of the dinner. ONLY GO BACK TO HER ON YOUR TERMS (if at all) OR YOU WILL BE THE OFFICIAL BITCH OF THE RELATIONSHIP. not to be sappy, but it took me awhile and a few heartaches to find my man. saying that, i would never let him go, not for anything. she let you go- maybe you should move on too. there's always another.

 

[AnalExplorer]

Maybe because she realized you´re not a true american!!!

 

[slickdadd]

Fantom said it good. She didn't seem like the best anyway from what you've said about her before. Sounded pretty selfish and not giving as much as you were in the relationship. Just be yourself , dont mention getting back together, and definitely act happy. Get back in the driver's seat if anything

 

[bstone]

Here's my view, only because you asked for opinions.

These guys are steering in the right direction by telling you to be upbeat. If a woman sees you down over her, she will eat you alive. You will have no chance of getting back together with her at all because she knows that you will be around whenever she wants you to be. Trust me, you will become "that guy" faster then you can belch after a protein shake.
You MUST! act like you are TOTALLY FINE WITH HER DECISION. That does not mean be an a$$hole to her and blow her off. That means that you know there is nothing wrong with yourself and that she made this decision for her own selfish reasons and that doesn't reflect on you as a person.
As far as getting back with her...Well, if she gives you a damn good reason for the break up and, then apologizes for everything AND assures you it will not happen again...go for it. If not, you don't want to go there. You think it hurts now with just the pain of not knowing why? How bad is it gonna hurt when you beg her back and she just pulls the same shit again or decides that she is unhappy and cheats or something like that? Not only will you be hurt but you will feel demoralized and stupid, "I should have ditched this chick a long time ago and I wouldn't be hurting anymore!"
Second chances are almost never worth the effort. It usually winds up being a crutch just long enough to find someone else. Hardly what you are looking for...
If I was the voice of reason for you I would be saying, "suck it up, as hard as it may be now, and let her go." You will be much happier in the long run. And a final note...Women like men who are strong and decisive. I have seen many more women return to a man down the road, after he has just let them go without issue, then I have to a man who pleaded for them to stay. Be strong! Be decisive! and Be yourself!

Hope this helps?? I am always willing to take time for a brother in need.

 

[Sexual Mustard]

Thanks, Snaplink's woman (nice to have a female point-of-view), slickdadd (you've always helped with my stupid problems) and bstone. I will keep your suggestions in mind...