parenting your parents

[stilleto]

When i was a kid, my parents were irresponsible hippies. They left me alone (overnight) from the time i was 10. My father supplied me with pot since I was 13, and then stronger stuff (peyote, shrooms, hash) from around 15.

I had to testify for him more than once in court when i became an adult. most of his girlfriends were younger than me.

now that they are older and into designer handbags and spa resorts, I'm finding myself having to check up on them- making sure they call their docs about things (well, not my dad- he passed away), teaching her how to do stuff, being her shoulder to cry on when she's lonely.

its a wierd thing and having my mom here for thanksgiving reminded me of it when she was amazed that i knew how to make a real thanksgiving dinner, being that we never had one.

She just sent me an email saying she was proud of me. it was touching.

 

[habitualhealth]

When i was a kid, my parents were irresponsible hippies. They left me alone (overnight) from the time i was 10. My father supplied me with pot since I was 13, and then stronger stuff (peyote, shrooms, hash) from around 15.

this explains so much

 

[stilleto]

this explains so much

lol, you have NO idea.

 

[Cutiebaby]

Damn!
My mom was off and running a lot and my dad remarried with another family also a alcoholic...If it were not for my grandmother I would most likely be saying I went through that too.
I dont really need to check up on my mom as she is schizophrenic (sp)so she worries and calls the docs constantly any ways. What does piss me off is that my mom takes all the credit for how I have turned out, when she was barely there. She was either in school getting a degree that is pointless, running around with local guys, or to high to notice that I was sitting there! Or she was giving me whatever I wanted so that I would leave her alone. I love my mom dont get me wrong at all here, but I def will do things a shitload differently when it comes to my kids.

 

[stilleto]

Damn!
My mom was off and running a lot and my dad remarried with another family also a alcoholic...If it were not for my grandmother I would most likely be saying I went through that too.
I dont really need to check up on my mom as she is schizophrenic (sp)so she worries and calls the docs constantly any ways. What does piss me off is that my mom takes all the credit for how I have turned out, when she was barely there. She was either in school getting a degree that is pointless, running around with local guys, or to high to notice that I was sitting there! Or she was giving me whatever I wanted so that I would leave her alone. I love my mom dont get me wrong at all here, but I def will do things a shitload differently when it comes to my kids.

was your mom on meds for her schizophrenia when you were younger?
when my mom was 52, she left my dad for a 30 year old. My father was dating a 28 year old (whom he married), and I was 31.

 

[OMEGA]

this explains so much

thats messed up

 

[Cutiebaby]

was your mom on meds for her schizophrenia when you were younger?
when my mom was 52, she left my dad for a 30 year old. My father was dating a 28 year old (whom he married), and I was 31.

No she was not and still is not. I try to tell her that she needs meds but she just laughs it off, as if I am joking! She some times can be too much to handle!
Oh god, my mom was dating a guy who was 2 years older than my brother. Severe pot head and bum who never worked.. I think that she was 42 and he was in his early 20's. Kinda sickening.

 

[OMEGA]

My Father is the best

if I am even 10% of what he is

I will be a lucky human

 

[stilleto]

No she was not and still is not. I try to tell her that she needs meds but she just laughs it off, as if I am joking! She some times can be too much to handle!
Oh god, my mom was dating a guy who was 2 years older than my brother. Severe pot head and bum who never worked.. I think that she was 42 and he was in his early 20's. Kinda sickening.

are you sure she has schizophrenia? she might just have borderline personality disorder or a problem with inhibitions.

Is your mom amazed that you're different from her now?

 

[stilleto]

thats messed up

she was joking. she thinks i'm weird. i don't know why.

 

[habitualhealth]

lol, you have NO idea.

i've got a clue.

And my dad never dealt me drugs or alcohol buuutt...he's on his 6th marriage. (he's 54, *gulp*) I think that says enough in itself. It seemed as if I was going to "lose" him from divorce to divorce. He's always go off the deep end. Couldn't deal, couldn't cope, never learned from his mistakes. Though I love him more than life, he's never had the strongest, sound mind.

So, he's always been on my couch of counsel. Thanks to good ol dad, I was a parent long before mini me came along.

 

[Smurfy]

When i was a kid, my parents were irresponsible hippies. They left me alone (overnight) from the time i was 10. My father supplied me with pot since I was 13, and then stronger stuff (peyote, shrooms, hash) from around 15.

I had to testify for him more than once in court when i became an adult. most of his girlfriends were younger than me.

now that they are older and into designer handbags and spa resorts, I'm finding myself having to check up on them- making sure they call their docs about things (well, not my dad- he passed away), teaching her how to do stuff, being her shoulder to cry on when she's lonely.

its a wierd thing and having my mom here for thanksgiving reminded me of it when she was amazed that i knew how to make a real thanksgiving dinner, being that we never had one.

She just sent me an email saying she was proud of me. it was touching.

that's cool.

how did they go from being irresponsible hippies to rich folks? or were they rich hippies?

 

[stilleto]

i've got a clue.

And my dad never dealt me drugs or alcohol buuutt...he's on his 6th marriage. (he's 54, *gulp*) I think that says enough in itself. It seemed as if I was going to "lose" him from divorce to divorce. He's always go off the deep end. Couldn't deal, couldn't cope, never learned from his mistakes. Though I love him more than life, he's never had the strongest, sound mind.

So, he's always been on my couch of counsel. Thanks to good ol dad, I was a parent long before mini me came along.

yup, me too. i think from the time I realized what I had to do to keep them around for a while, which was probably around 18 or so.

I learned to cook when i was around 12- not that I wanted to, but because I wanted dinner. now i'm the one teaching my mom.

 

[habitualhealth]

thats messed up

crap i forget about the sensitive people on this site. my apologies.






......but it really does explain alot.

 

[stilleto]

that's cool.

how did they go from being irresponsible hippies to rich folks? or were they rich hippies?

my father's progression was a natural one- he became one of the largest drug importers ever convicted in his state.

mom opened a healthfood store that did very well, then opened a completely unrelated company with her profits and did really really well. plus, she remarried a few times.

 

[Cutiebaby]

are you sure she has schizophrenia? she might just have borderline personality disorder or a problem with inhibitions.

Is your mom amazed that you're different from her now?

She does not seem to notice that we are different. Every single good deed that I accomplish she claims "oh like mother like daughter"....I am left standing there like "Wtf?!?" But any how. No I know it is schizophrenia. Also hypochondria. Every time any one is sick, she is sick. I am telling you she is bad. Drives 25 miles an hour, sees people pull out in traffic and starts flipping out because they are going to crash. She gets pissed at me because I am too layed back with my kids.I let them jump around!!!! "Omg, they may crack their skull open". She is terrible about every thing. Afraid of every little thing that she sees or hears.

 

[OMEGA]

crap i forget about the sensitive people on this site. my apologies.






......but it really does explain alot.

boob

job

 

[habitualhealth]

boob

job

let's stay focused. no need for me to steal the scene in another stilleto thread.

 

[OMEGA]

artificial l melons = suasage receptical

 

[Smurfy]

my father's progression was a natural one- he became one of the largest drug importers ever convicted in his state.

mom opened a healthfood store that did very well, then opened a completely unrelated company with her profits and did really really well. plus, she remarried a few times.

interesting! i cant imagine having parents like that. it's so different from what I know. amazing that you turned out the way you did, isnt it?

which one of your parents is asian?

 

[stilleto]

interesting! i cant imagine having parents like that. it's so different from what I know. amazing that you turned out the way you did, isnt it?

which one of your parents is asian?

my dad. i'll show you a pic next time I can hit you.
and thank you for the compliment.

 

[theoak01]

i find myself trying to help my dad manage money and im always bailing him out of shit he gets into. some people never grow up