O/t Girl Trouble

[ripped103]

hey, need some advice so i thought id look here.
well ive been with the same girl for five years and we are engaged to be married.the thing is i do love her but dont know if im ready yet.im conflicted, i dont want to lose her but then again i cant imagine being with same girl my whole life.im constantly getting hit on and sometimes it makes me think.this has been bothering me because i dont want to lead her on for nothing.ive never cheated or even came close but relationships just get harder not easier.any advice would help

 

[needsize]

Bro, one thing to keep in mind is that if you have it good with her, then no matter how great the others look, the grass really isn't greener on the other side, you would end up in the same situation in the end, but probably with a girl not as cool as the one you have.

 

[decem]

ripped... another you need to consider is that if you truly were in love.... you'd probably not even have to contemplate this whole mess.. you'd know what you wanted and that would be her..

i'm in the same situation as you.. well kinda.. i was engaged but called it off then we split for awhile the we got back together and i am in the EXACT same mindset as you now.. if you figure out what to do.. let me know. personally.. i'm even considering seeing a shrink to see if they can help me figure out if i'm resisting the relationship for fear of commitment or if i truly don't need to be with the person..

good luck man.

 

[momwarndu]

I did that once, was with this girl who I thought was perfect, wanted to keep her for ever!! after 5 years, i started thinking what if.... I left her and the next few years where a good time of nailing everything in sight... as reality has set in, i feel like i missed out on the one i never, ever, will be able to replace or even come close to what i had with her.... that is painfull, let me tell ya!! think hard, think deep. These are questions only YOU can answer. Good luck~

oh yeah, here is something a old man told me recently
"it's better to miss the train than to get on the wrong one"

 

[ripped103]

thanks for the replies.im also feeling depressed but its probably cause of the post cycl crash ad these clomids are making me emotional.but have thought about it before and everytime we get ready to split because of a stupet fight i chicken out and make peace.

 

[momwarndu]

oh shit Ripped!~ you didnt say you are post cycle!!! geez, dont do anything in this state of mind!!! you know how hard it is to deal w/ your chick when she is on her period? well, suprise, but now, your body is having it's own period!! LOL...shit, wait till your hormone levels are back to normal!! hell, postcycle downs and the drugs (clomid) will warp any thinking!!!

 

[theoak01]

ill give ya some advice a vet on gear gave me,dont make major decisions while coming off gear because your not totally there

 

[ripped103]

bump

 

[luckiwan]

I've gone through what you are going through, you feel good because other girls give you alot of attention, but the girl you are with now has stuck by you for five years. If you werent lifting would the other girls even give a damn? Well the girl you are with now has probably been with you since before you were muscular.

Think about all the good things in her especially when she looks at you and smiles, and then ask yourself how you really feel about her.

 

[ripped103]

actually i was big when i met her, and never had a problem meeting woman.its just after so many years things change

 

[Andy13]

Well bro, lucky me, whenever I have girl trouble like this, there is this homeless guy I talk to.. It's pretty cool... I give him advice with his cycles and he helps me with my girl troubles.

Well, the other day I was talking to him about chicks.. He says "if she don't try to kill ya then ya don't got to worry about nothin- ya gotcha-self a lil'keeper.. Heeee-YAAAHHH" (Im serious.. that's how he talks).

Well, the girl in question has never tried to kill me.. So I guess it's all good.. Well... maybe if you count the pancakes she makes... maybe then she tried to kill me.. But probably not on purpose.

Andy

 

[PimpnAintEasy]

He says "if she don't try to kill ya then ya don't got to worry about nothin- ya gotcha-self a lil'keeper.. Heeee-YAAAHHH"

Silly me, here I was thinking death threats were all part of being in love. I guess I need to quit hooking up with these chicks who get all bent out of shape over me sleeping with their sisters, best friends, underage hookers, etc.

 

[~HOUNDOG~]

My uncle,had a few really long lasting relationships and many bimbos but he felt the same.
He always wanted that new girl or whatever,so he never married.Now he regrets that decision and is very lonely.
It's up to you man.
good luck,I hope you make a decision your happy with.

 

[FBI]

don't break up with her. i did the same thing. now i cry like a baby about every other day and miss her so much it literally hurts. good luck.

 

[badazzwhitedude]

If she is a good companion and trustworthy, a good person, etc, then I wouldn't get rid of her. You get used to anyone aftera while, so it will be a never-ending search for the one that it remains the same as when you first met. But personally, I don't think that such a good female exists. In the end, she is probably using you for something anyway.

 

[Lord_Suston]

ill give ya some advice a vet on gear gave me,dont make major decisions while coming off gear because your not totally there

Good F*ckin reply I will remember that for the future......

 

[serge]

deside whats importants for you, not her, not your parents or her parents.....but you. at the end you will have make a decision and live with it.

 

[ripped103]

i think ill wait on my decision till my test levels are high again.im too dam emotional.ifeel like a woman.post cycle sucks especially when you have something on your mind.
thanks for all the advice, keep them coming

 

[Golfer18--old]

Well i dated this girl, she was cool as fuck. I would go out with her for a year, then say "man there is so many girls out there"
So i would break up with her. 3 months later i would call her back up. I dont know what my problem is. It will probaly be another month before i call her again. Why does she put up with my shit?
i have no clue

 

[decem]

golfer.. i am in the exact situation as you on that one..

how old are you if you don't mind my asking..

 

[brianharper94]

Would you be willing to give up $1,000,000 for 50 chances at $1,000,000? Kind of vague, but hear me out. Don't give up the very best thing in your life for a chance to have something that might be as great. I did this, and I just can't believe what a dickhead I was. I have been lucky enough to find a girl who is just as great as the one I messed up with, and you can bet your ass that I'm not going to make the same mistake twice.

bh