need to vent

[jenny27]

i'm sorry but i really need to vent here....i'm starting to hate college. So last night i gave in and drank even though i wasn't going to this weekend-ate so much food. I was giving myself a couple weeks or eating clean low carb to see how much fat i could take off, but i dissappointed myself. I don't know i guess my motivation is lacking at times because i feel as if i'm not getting anywhere-(example: i diet-feel better about myself...my social life plummets vs. go out and drink and eat with my friends...i have more friends). Sometimes i wish there was someone here at school who could be my training buddy (instead of living with alcoholics) and train for a competition or something to boost my motivation (knowing i was working toward something great). My only weakness is my diet as is probably most people's problems...i'm sorry i just need to vent then hopefully i can get back on track.

"If it was easy, everybody would do it. The hard, is what makes it great."

 

[circusgirl]

I am struggling with diet as well, I ahve a tendency to binge and I LOVE carbs. Keep trying, and try adapting your diet one bit at a time. I am currently getting my lunch and 4pm meal in shape. Still having carbs a lot for breakfast and dinner. Also, I'm havign a LOT of trouble cutting out sugar although diet coke with lemon can kill that urge. Stick with it, you can do it!

 

[Gladiola]

Yes, having the support of people with the same goals really means a lot - part of why the boards are great. As for carbs & sugar, I have SUCH issues with them, I had actually started a yahoo group on it with VeggieLifterChick! It's died down now that a bunch of us did a 6 -week sugar detox, but the support was so helpful at the time. I still struggle with sugar. I always will. For me, it's work stress that has me binge. My work stress was INSANE through July & August, still somewhat.

Not sure what my point here is. But remember one weekend doesn't make or break anything. Try focusing on how you FEEL better when you eat clean - that usually helps me too. I sleep better, lift better, less moody, PLUS being leaner.

 

[Candi Barr]

Are there any sports teams or clubs you could join at school, crew, bicycling, mountaineering? Belonging would give you goals to train for and you'd meet people interested in sports and fitness. Most schools have a lot to choose from, and sometimes you can use club equipment. Is there really no one to buddy up with for training? Do you talk to people at the gym? I know, we need to focus on our workouts, I don't mean extended conversations, but a little casual chat with people you see regularly could lead to a workout partner.

 

[jenny27]

Are there any sports teams or clubs you could join at school, crew, bicycling, mountaineering? Belonging would give you goals to train for and you'd meet people interested in sports and fitness. Most schools have a lot to choose from, and sometimes you can use club equipment. Is there really no one to buddy up with for training? Do you talk to people at the gym? I know, we need to focus on our workouts, I don't mean extended conversations, but a little casual chat with people you see regularly could lead to a workout partner.

i mean i have friends at the gym that i talk to but noone that i hang out with outside of the gym...and the friends that i have outside of the gym-i mean i love them but it's so hard sometimes since they don't live a "healthy" lifestyle. As far as clubs go, there are some...i guess i'll have to look into it more. It just seems that the people i do associate with at the gym aren't as serious about working out with weights and such as i am...and many of them don't really keep track of their diets.

 

[Sassy69]

Its really hard when you are at school. Shit I was a physics major -- you think there are any gym rats in that department??? THEN, I moved on to computer science. Most of those guys developed this nice little gut and big bug eyes from playing Network DOOM all the time. Sometimes you just need to become a "regular" at the gym where you work out, hook up with some of the other regulars and hang w/ them. Food-wise, you can usually do a chicken salad or somethign at a restaurant and goign out drinking --- I stuck with water for quite a while. Thanks to the HUGE freekin drug culture where I hang out, everyone else is drinking water because they are fucked up on X or something. So I just get a bottle of water and if anyone asks why I'm not drinking i just sort of imply that I'm rolling or whatever. Or simply just say "It aint' on my diet". Plus its more fun to watch other people get fucked up than to be the one fucked that they laugh at.

It is very hard tho. You really need to be in the right frame of mind. I spent all summer alternating weeks of competition quality diet and killing a 1/2 gal of ice cream every night. That's depression eating. I just started workign again after 5 fucking months on unemployment and I literally forget to eat now. My diet is really clean and I feel soo much better. Now I'm starting up in the gym again after being sick and just plain old getting out of work too late. My boss likes to call meetings at 5:30 PM.

All you can do is the best that you can do. You might go after a 6 week sugar detox and see if that helps at all. At the moment I really have no desire for sugar at all. 2 weeks ago i had no desire for anything but sugar.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

Hey I feel you girly. I go to college in Jersey too, and as Gladiola can tell you, I've certainly had issues with bingeing - especially sugar. I figured out that my bingeing was due to 2 things: 1) smoking weed and 2) sugar addiction. serious, serious sugar addiction. As Gladiola said, we kicked the addiction by going cold turkey for awhile and that REALLY helped.

Unfortunately I had sugar addiction relapses this week. I found myself compulsively shoveling M&Ms and other sugary junk in my mouth, feeling guilty the entire time, and then regretting it so much that I actually induced vomiting. Then I did it again a couple nights later. And again a few nights after that. i was really disgusted with myself for the lack of self control and for such destructive behavior, so I told my roommates what had been happening and they've been so cool about keeping the sugar away from me and watching me when I'm around it. I guess an addiction is an addiction. I'll have to quit now. I guess its got to be permanent.

And the second trigger: The roommates have been so awesome. Whenever I smoke with them, which isn't very often, they won't let me eat cuz they know I'll binge. And tonite one of them made brownies but she made a huge deal about only giving me one. They heard me walking in the kitchen after I had eaten it and reminded me not to give in. I guess your vice is alcohol but I'd give the same advice. Eat before you drink, then tell your friends not to let you touch any food when you're out because you have issues with bingeing. And drink hard liquor (shots) - fewer calories, fewer carbs.

And now, the workout buddy thing. Its really hard to find girls who lift seriously. The people at the gym are always available to spot you but its not the same as a workout buddy to motivate you. I just enlisted a friend of mine who wasn't really a gym fiend before, but she's totally into it now. She made these charts so we can measure our progress and she's all into lifting. I noticed my lifts are going up like crazy when I work out with her because she motivates me on my shitty days and because I'm sort of competing with her to match or beat her weight. What school do you go to? I'm at Rutgers. I might be able to help you find someone to lift with if you PM me...I have a friend who needs a workout partner at Ramapo, too.

 

[jenny27]

Hey I feel you girly. I go to college in Jersey too, and as Gladiola can tell you, I've certainly had issues with bingeing - especially sugar. I figured out that my bingeing was due to 2 things: 1) smoking weed and 2) sugar addiction. serious, serious sugar addiction. As Gladiola said, we kicked the addiction by going cold turkey for awhile and that REALLY helped.

Unfortunately I had sugar addiction relapses this week. I found myself compulsively shoveling M&Ms and other sugary junk in my mouth, feeling guilty the entire time, and then regretting it so much that I actually induced vomiting. Then I did it again a couple nights later. And again a few nights after that. i was really disgusted with myself for the lack of self control and for such destructive behavior, so I told my roommates what had been happening and they've been so cool about keeping the sugar away from me and watching me when I'm around it. I guess an addiction is an addiction. I'll have to quit now. I guess its got to be permanent.

And the second trigger: The roommates have been so awesome. Whenever I smoke with them, which isn't very often, they won't let me eat cuz they know I'll binge. And tonite one of them made brownies but she made a huge deal about only giving me one. They heard me walking in the kitchen after I had eaten it and reminded me not to give in. I guess your vice is alcohol but I'd give the same advice. Eat before you drink, then tell your friends not to let you touch any food when you're out because you have issues with bingeing. And drink hard liquor (shots) - fewer calories, fewer carbs.

And now, the workout buddy thing. Its really hard to find girls who lift seriously. The people at the gym are always available to spot you but its not the same as a workout buddy to motivate you. I just enlisted a friend of mine who wasn't really a gym fiend before, but she's totally into it now. She made these charts so we can measure our progress and she's all into lifting. I noticed my lifts are going up like crazy when I work out with her because she motivates me on my shitty days and because I'm sort of competing with her to match or beat her weight. What school do you go to? I'm at Rutgers. I might be able to help you find someone to lift with if you PM me...I have a friend who needs a workout partner at Ramapo, too.

hey...i go to rowan-that's so cool you go to rutgers...i live not too far from there. Anyways, yeah I do tend to keep my diet when i eliminate sugar and keep it low carb...then when i give in a alittle (say on the weekend) i kind of in a sense give up and think to myself "well i might as well go all out." It's like I have no sense of monderation and i envy my friends who go out and buy all this junk and then don't even eat it. Because I know that if i had it in my apt., it would be gone within and day or two lol. I guess I'm just addicted to food...you know everyone has their own issues (heroin, pot, cigs...) mine is food I'm really glad to see i'm not alone though...

 

[Gladiola]

Maybe we ought to revive the group - I certainly could use it again myself. The yahoo group is still there, it's just been silent since August.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

Gladiola. can you post a link to the group? I'll start visiting it again if you will.

 

[Gladiola]

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/fitpeopleavoidsugar


Here is the deal with yahoo groups - if you have a yahoo ID, you can go to the group to sign up. Once you sign up & are logged into Yahoo groups, you can access the web site, archives, files, post messages, etc. You just need a Yahoo ID.

You CAN get on without a Yahoo ID if I send you an invite (I'm the moderator) - can post & recieve messages, but you can't access the site, archives, & files that way. Easier just to get a Yahoo ID.

 

[SteelWeaver]

I know exactly how you feel - it's hard having to choose. Friends, or bodybuilding? Or try to come up with some sort of middle ground. I think sassy's got that down pat - she's the queen of figuring out how to cope with outings, restaurants, etc so that everyone can be happy. For me, I hate compromise, and am a very all or nothing type of person. So I chose bodybuilding. But my circumstances are somewhat unusual, and I will be leaving here to go home next year, where I expect I will make a whole new crowd of friends, and will make sure they have the same values, interests, etc, that I do. Also, I will not be on a competition diet after November, so that's likely to make my life much easier.

Basically, dieting/eating clean whatever, is HARD. Having a specific date or goal to work towards makes it much easier.

Or simply relaxing one night for one meal a week makes it more sane.

Then there's the other suggestion someone gave me a while ago on just such a thread as this - invite your friends to do OTHER stuff, instead of going out drinking. Go for a hike. Go play putt-putt (mini-golf). Go roller-blading, cycling, go to the park and play frisbee I mean, why the hell NOT??? Only one life, you know ...


BTW, circusgirl - keep it up, hon - you're gonna be just fine - it's tough, but hang in there