need some girl advice...

[cal]

i need some input on this.

i met a very cute girl, that i worked with about a year ago. we had great chemistry and flirted all the time. i never really realized that we flirted so much at work, until ppl started talking. very forward and agressive. used to grab my ass at work, press her crotch and tits on me while i was at work and no one else was around and otherwise find ways to touch me at work. at one point she asked if i wanted to go out for drinks with her, i said sure, and her reply was ...that it would be pretty easy for me to get her drunk and smiled. she asked me several times if she could come over to my place and hang out, and sleep over. all this with a bf that wasnt apparently satisfying her. i was receptive to her flirting and touching me and stuff, but never really made it like i was that into it...i thought she was by far the coolest girl ive ever met, very cute and sexy, smart and very funny...and a good sport, i used to make fun of her all the time...in a good natured way...

well she left for another job and gave me her number and i of course loss it. never gave her mine. well i recently found the lost number while moving and gave her a call...like 10 months later. she was a little suprised...to say the least, said she never expected me to call her or anything. well i called her...and we talked for a long time...and early on asked me ...if i wanted to meet up with her again...when she visits relatives on east coast, she on west...i of course said yes...

should i even consider trying to start anything with this girl? is she simply a tease or what? not sure whether she was interested in me...bc i wasnt very available or didnt act like it, as she is the type of girl that is rarely if ever turned down or ignored...i think ill just play it by ear when she comes out...ill be moving out west in about a year...ill probably be transferring to diff grad school, i like west far better...

 

[fistfullofsteel]

wow, you have been here since the may of 2000 and this is the 1st time i saw you post.

i think you should have had her long time ago.

 

[cal]

you think i fucked up?

the reason i kept delaying shit, was bc i was on some prescription drugs and i couldnt fucking get it up if my life depended on it...

...i hope i at least left the door open, i hope she didnt feel rejected...bc i didnt fucking call...

well ive been with some cute girls since that time...but still want her...even thogh some of em were as cute as her...but not the same chemistry...i know i sound pretty damn gay...

laugh your ass off if you want

 

[HumorMe]

wow, you have been here since the may of 2000 and this is the 1st time i saw you post.

Must not be many women posting tonight ffos!

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Must not be many women posting tonight ffos!

nope, wtf are you guys that aren't married doing here? go out man. i would but I got stuff I got to do, but ef isn't helping.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

you think i fucked up?

the reason i kept delaying shit, was bc i was on some prescription drugs and i couldnt fucking get it up if my life depended on it...

...i hope i at least left the door open, i hope she didnt feel rejected...bc i didnt fucking call...

well ive been with some cute girls since that time...but still want her...even thogh some of em were as cute as her...but not the same chemistry...i know i sound pretty damn gay...

laugh your ass off if you want

i don't know, but i think that she might think that you were just teasing her. those are pretty strong i want to fuck you signals.

 

[HumorMe]

nope, wtf are you guys that aren't married doing here? go out man. i would but I got stuff I got to do, but ef isn't helping.

I wish I could have gone out with my wife tonight. My day started off with two daughters of a friend coming over at 7:15 this morning while their parents went to the doctor(she's pregnant with twins and in early labor). Then at 9:30 this morning my neice and nephew came in from out of town and I wound up taking them all out to eat for lunch. Imagine....me and my wife, 4 girls...9 years old and younger, neice(15 years old) and nephew(19 and useless as a broken screwdriver) eating out for lunch! A cluster fuck, I tell you! Between all of this....posting on Elite all day! What a fucking day! Tough life, I say!

Tomorrow after my wife's birthday party....the bed will be rockin'!

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Tomorrow after my wife's birthday party....the bed will be rockin'!

married couple have sex bigtime on b-days?

 

[HumorMe]

i don't know, but i think that she might think that you were just teasing her. those are pretty strong i want to fuck you signals.

To say the least!

Cal...I hate to tell you but I think you might have screwed up by losing her number. Maybe she will come to the east coast and fuck you silly until your eyes cross ( a man can dream) but you should have showed more interest and bought some viagra or drunk some cement to get the pole up.

 

[HumorMe]

married couple have sex bigtime on b-days?

I wish they came every month instead of once a year!

 

[cal]

kind of funny that i was thinking that she might have been fucking with my head...

now that i think about it ...does look like i rejected her...she seemed pretty excited about meeting up with her...though in a couple of months.

she asked me out twice and both times i simply said yeah sure...and she left number and i never called during that ten months...that does sound like i was rejecting her...

thanks for the advice...

id like to hear anyone else...

 

[3Vandoo]

Stay away!

she sound like troubles

 

[cal]

what specificlaly makes her trouble?

it might be hard to resist...

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

dude, i was on prozac almost all of high school for depression and shit, and it fucked up my sex drive, i was almost like a deer in headlights around girls i now realize might have been making passes at me. i kick my ass now sometimes for not taking action. i would definitely try to spark up something with that girl, just be careful, you know?

 

[cal]

yeah i hear ya...on the ED, really blows when youre like 22.

im not sure when...what ill do ...but its not like i can plan...something like that...

i highly doubt that ill need to much work, she has comeon to me physically and verbally, and i havent done much of anything. i have no idea what she thinks about the fact that i havent taken her up on anything...i know she isnt used to that sort of thing...

do any of you guys worry about girls that have been with a fair number of guys in the past?

 

[ATrollFromTheFatBoard]

As a female, I can definitely tell you, when a guy does not call, we feel hurt and rejected.

However, it is an unusual female who would come on to a guy like this.

Be careful and make sure she isn't a psycho, out to get knocked up, carrying some disease, or some other disaster in the making, before you do anything stupid ...

 

[cal]

is the 10 months a bit too much to get over?

i really did misplace the number...and told her so...i didnt put it too smoothly i must say...

"i usually dont forget peoples numbers, but i somehow misplaced it..." ...

not exactly a smooth delivery...

...didnt sound like she really believed me when i said it...though it really is the truth, but she did say almost immediately afterward that she wanted to meet up with me when visiting relatives on the east coast...

 

[ATrollFromTheFatBoard]

If a guy acted like he was on the up-and-up from then on, I'd give him a second chance.

However, I'd NEVER entice a guy I was interested in like that in the first place. It indicates a lack of respect IMHO -- either for the guy, or for oneself.

 

[cal]

about the disaster in the making...

well she is on the pill, im not sure why she told me, and her only real issue seems to be ones dealing with her father...i guess...

atrollfromthefatboard does it seem wierd, that she would have a bf during the time that she was doing this?

she rarely mentioned him, all i knew was that she was not particularly satisfied by him...but still suprised about it all...

 

[ATrollFromTheFatBoard]

It seems *worrisome.*

What do you get if you hook up with someone who cheats on their significant other?

You get someone who cheats on their significant other.

I would worry that this person could not handle their relationship problems in an honorable fashion and be mindful that you could be treated in the same way.

Approach if you must, but approach with caution.

 

[MFMan]

Don't have an opinion.

 

[cal]

well,
im not gonna put too much thought into it...

just feel stuff out when it happens...

 

[cal]

i talked to her on the phone other day...

was wondering have any of you had a girl be this forward and touched you like that...and just wanted to be friends?

seems a bit strange for someone who wants to be a friend to press their crotch on someone everyday...and...to tell em...that she has never slept with someone of my particular ethnicity (she's a wasp) but she would be very open to it...pretty much straight out of the blue...and smile while saying it...

reason i ask is bc she mentioned something that seems like a thing you might say to a "nice guy". she said that what she liked about me and the reason she liked being around me was...BC she knew that while i was "macho" and strong i also had a caring side...wtf does that mean...? have i been relegated to the friend status?

kind of odd, she cant be as stupid as some girls...asked me if i ever took gear...even though i have no visible sides or anything...

hmmm...give me your input.