Need help from fellow members

[John G]

Whats up guys? I don't know what to do or where to go. I buy things and try dating different women and it just doesn't work. About 5 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend that I was with for about 3 years. She really hurt me badly. Anyhow, unlike alot of my buddies I handled it, or atleast I thought I handled it, better then they did. Anyhow lately I have been very depressed. I haven't noticed it until yesterday when it really hit me. I have been buying things to make me happy, and I am happy for awhile but it comes back all over again. I try to date different people and it seems like I can't find the right person. Or the person I become interested in, turn out to not be for me, and I am in denial about it. At some point I stopped my training that I love to do so very much. What the hell is wrong with me. I need some motivation from you all. I know I don't post much, but I am here often. I figured this would be a good place because everyone here has a positive attitude, and when it comes to things like this, everyone is always helpful. Even if they clown around. Thanks guys/gals.

John G.

 

[pushing_fe]

I recently went through something very similiar. I knew the only way to get through it was to focus on other things. I went back to school and started training my ass off.

As a result things have really turned around for me. I am dating the before mentioned girl again and have other opps. in the wings.

Just stay positive. It will be hard for awhile, but you have to do it anyway. Things will get better only if you allow them to.

 

[Raina]

For me, I tend to get completely out of my normal routine when I'm stressed out and hurting. I don't sleep as much, my eating patters change, I don't work out as much....as hard as it is to do, try to get back into your normal routine. If nothing else, it tends to keep you busy and living a more familiar life is comforting.

It's easy to spend like crazy when you're all emotional too. The temporary "ooh, I got a cool new toy" feeling distracts from the hurt for a bit. It's hard to admit, but ultimately it's easy to rely on other people to make us happy....but other people come and go. Try to use this time to do things you enjoy. Enjoy your freedom and try not to get caught up in thinking "it would all be okay with someone else".

Be gentle with yourself and try to think about what you really want/need right now. Seriously, getting back into your normal routine will help. I gave mine up for a while in the spring and it made me feel even worse. Good luck.

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Material possessions provide short-lived relief.

Drugs and alcohol, however, last a lifetime.

 

[Norman Bates]

Material possessions provide short-lived relief.

Drugs and alcohol, however, last a lifetime.

Dooh,i run out of them quite quickly