Need advice (women probs, what else)

[Austin316]

k so I don't have a lot of people on my IM list around so Ill ask for advice and opinions here I guess

btw of course women issues is the last thing I need seeing as how in the last 2 weeks I got poor grades back, I got fired, AND my parents found my gear when they did a surprise cleaning and rummaged through all the boxes in the attic, I still manage to get them anyways lol

theres this girl who Ive been tlaking to since june and we really are close and yea I want to be with her but for now there is a ton of complications and it sa 50/50 risk its not gonna happen, its been an issue since september...she's great and if things were 100% it would be an easy choice and hell Im going to risk it by waiting on it and finding out what happns cuz I simply have to or Im going to regret it, put a lot of damn time and meotion into this and I have to know, good or bad, what happens...maybe Im stupid I dunno I always take the risk cuz I hate living with regret, if it pays off I know Im goin gto end up pretty damn happy and whatever

but at the same time there is another girl where it would be easier with, we both have feeligns for each other too, we'd prac be perfect for each other and we relate to each other very well and we have both told one another all these things but my feelings aren't on the same leval, not nearly...she's in somethign simialr, we both kinda know we would be perfect for each othe, feelings are there, but our hearts are on someone else, hers mostly cuz she knows mine is where it is and Im pretty sure if it asn't the case hers would be on me totally..she's told me she will be jealous of the other because she never will have gotten to know what "Us' woud be like and that no matter what happens with each of us she's still gonna have feelings and yea if things with girl 1 go the bad route and she's available we'll prob end up together....

I basically know where my heart is and Im gonna follow it and risk, but with my luck, Im just gonna end up losing both..I don't know Im kinda confused if sit #1 wouldn't be 50/50 right now it would be simple...if that doesn't work whats gonna get to me is because tis the result of outside complications and not lack of feeling for one another...sorry for rambling, thats it, Im done...call me a pussy or whatever u like lol just gimme an opinion

 

[PHATchik]

Follow your heart. You said you know where it is. That's the most important thing you can realize, especially since it's one of the hardest damn things to figure out.

 

[saint808]

1st off you are a pussy. second off pick one and go with it if that's what you think is best however you could always date non exclusive and see how things go with both of them as long as they are both aware you are doing this.

 

[PHATchik]

1st off you are a pussy. second off pick one and go with it if that's what you think is best however you could always date non exclusive and see how things go with both of them as long as they are both aware you are doing this.

No girl really wants to be one of two choices. He doesn't get to do a taste test to see which he likes better.

 

[Pamela]

Austin,

Be open with both girls.
And tell them you care about both of them.

Why make a decision?
You are still young enough to date around.

Are you planning on getting married?
If not the answer is easy.. Date both...
And tell them to date too.

And time will tell who you really love and want to be with.

Best of luck..

Pamela

 

[Austin316]

when I commit to soemthing, I go 100% Im not going to see whats there with both..in order to come out happy, I know I must give it my all in whatever situation

 

[saint808]

No girl really wants to be one of two choices. He doesn't get to do a taste test to see which he likes better.

i said casual dating... which i am not a fan of at all and have never really done. I didn't say he could have his cake and eat it too, you missed my point entirely. He said he is interested in both women so why not casually date and get to know them better and therefore he may be able to get serious with one of them and not wind up regretting it later. What I have learned through the trial and error of dating (mostly error) is that personality is 90% of the equation because beautiful women are a dime a dozen but most of them open their mouth and ruin it. Find someone whose personality you can deal with and enjoy and you will find your keeper.

 

[supersizeme]

I can't help you out without knowing which one has bigger tits.

 

[PHATchik]

i said casual dating... which i am not a fan of at all and have never really done. I didn't say he could have his cake and eat it too, you missed my point entirely. He said he is interested in both women so why not casually date and get to know them better and therefore he may be able to get serious with one of them and not wind up regretting it later. What I have learned through the trial and error of dating (mostly error) is that personality is 90% of the equation because beautiful women are a dime a dozen but most of them open their mouth and ruin it. Find someone whose personality you can deal with and enjoy and you will find your keeper.

If you're not a fan of it, then why suggest it?

 

[Austin316]

people Im already going with #1 I just want some input maybe it will ease my mind or whatever maybe I just needed to vent

and with each, I can't casual date both, its all or nothing and I wouldn't want to put any one in a feeling of competition, like I said if the ball gets rolling with #1 this won't be an issue..the issue is if that even happens and I lose out on both...bah I dunno its a matter of risk or safety, the second thank god understands going with #1 because she would do the same in my situation...Ive been friends with her since september and have talked a lot with her bout lots of thngs

 

[saint808]

If you're not a fan of it, then why suggest it?

just because something isn't right for me then it doesn't make it wrong for everyone else... it is merely an option.

 

[grlpwrd]

..btw of course women issues is the last thing I need seeing as how in the last 2 weeks I got poor grades back, I got fired, AND my parents found my gear when they did a surprise cleaning and rummaged through all the boxes in the attic, I still manage to get them anyways lol

You're right..women issues are the last thing you need. The way I see it..forget about the girls and get your act together first. You need better grades and another job. I remember your posts mentioning girl problems you have...Take care of yourself first. No offense, of course, just keeping it real.

 

[Taps]

Dude, what you need to do is forget about this relationship bs, and concentrate on school, and life in general. Oh, and fuck a few girls along the way...just don't involved with any of 'em.