My friend wants to commit suicide ….

[Trojana]

Last week her boyfriend of 3 years left her for another woman and now my friend is drinking uncontrollably and has suicidal tendencies. If she killed herself she would be leaving behind 2 girls.

She is not listening to anyone’s advice at this stage, not even the emergency conseler's.

What can I do to help?

 

[Razorguns]

Slap her.

Anyone who kills themselves over a guy or a girl has the problem inside of THEM, not with others.

Being her emotional tampon isn't going to help her. Tell her to grow up and only a stark brutal message of reality will wake them up.

 

[EnderJE]

Suicide is an escape. Now matter how drastic, it is an escape.

However, I would of figured that the two girls would of make her want to live. Lord knows, my kids do every day.

 

[awittyusername]

You need to be there for her. You are going to have to do whatever it takes to get her to forget about her bf.

You girls should get dressed up and take her out for a nice dinner. You should tell her how beautiful she is etc , because her ego is shot right now. Then, take her dancing and have a few glasses of wine. All the time reminder her how beautiful she is. Once you girls get back home you should have a little champaign and celebrate how you had fun without men. After a little champaign, it might be a good idea for you 2 to slip into something a little more comfortable. (like your bra and panties) Continue to reinforce the point that 2 women can have fun without men around. She has been under alot of stress, so you should definately give her a full body massage. Now would be a good time for you to switch on the web cam. (The guys here at elite are very interested in the well being of your friend.)Last, show her the beauty of 2 women making passionate love infront of a web cam for a steroid board.










Sorry I got a little of the subject. Odds are she will not kill herself. Be good friend and offer to take her to councelling etc. Good luck

 

[SharonNeedles]

Last week her boyfriend of 3 years left her for another woman and now my friend is drinking uncontrollably and has suicidal tendencies. If she killed herself she would be leaving behind 2 girls.

She is not listening to anyone’s advice at this stage, not even the emergency conseler's.

What can I do to help?

Is your friend very selfish??? Answer and I will explain.

 

[courtneybcca]

Her talking to you about this is a very good sign.. If she were serious she would have done it without telling anyone. Confiding in you is a cry for help. So just be there for her as much as possible, try to boost her self-esteem, and try to keep her busy for a while. I know this is tough because you feel helpless but actually just listening and being there for her will make the world of difference.

 

[Razorguns]

"being there for her" just means that the end of the night -- when she still thinks about him and feels like crap -- nothing you will have said will have made an iota of difference.

been there, done that. It's like trying to get a girl to break up with an abusive boyfriend. Trying to talk logic into her is an uphill battle. As soon as she seems him -- she'll ignore everything you said, drop everything and run right back to him.

These women have no backbones, and their entire "existence" is based upon someone else. Trying to reason with them, give them an outlet to whine w/o focusing on the real issue of WHY they're even in this situation -- is just ignoring the root of problem which'll just manifest itself once again in 3-4 hours when she's all alone.

Feel free to spend 8 hours "talking" to her and listening to her. Bet ya 95% chance, she'll still feel the same way about him by next week and be back in the same situation in 8 months when he cheats on some other girl. Guess what -- you'll be back talking to her for 8 hours again saying the same crap.

Rinse, Repeat.

 

[Devastation]

if she thinks about it, there's a very good chance she is capable of carrying it out. in my state you can call the police/sheriff and have the person committed if they are suicidal. i was a guard at the hospital and seen many cases like that come thru. you can help your friend get the help she needs. be the friend she needs you to be

 

[biteme]

Last week her boyfriend of 3 years left her for another woman and now my friend is drinking uncontrollably and has suicidal tendencies. If she killed herself she would be leaving behind 2 girls.

She is not listening to anyone’s advice at this stage, not even the emergency conseler's.

What can I do to help?

Stupid bitch. She cares more about her boyfriend and her own self then she does about her 2 little children. Would probably have been better had they not been born. Let the dumb bitch kill herself. Man, I'm in a mean mood tonight.

 

[E_Fermi]

I am a walking stick of dynamite, sooo I'm prolly no help with this one.

 

[biteme]

Just tell her that her breath has always stunk, and that's probably the reason he left her. That should finish her off.

 

[ghettostudmuffin]

Kinda gotta go with biteme's logic on this would.

If she is so caught up in herself and her boyfriend to actually consider committing suicide and leaving 2 kids out to dry then she has "issues" and needs to grow up.

Getting her committed sounds like the best idea yet.

I remember when I broke up with this girl that I was insanely in love with. I cried like a fuckin baby for a couple hours. Then I went to sleep. Then I woke up and life went on...

 

[tuc biscuit]

ring citizens advice, get some numbers to help suicidal people

someone talking about it is a sign they may do it

 

[awittyusername]

Update????

Is she better????

 

[manny78]

Last week her boyfriend of 3 years left her for another woman and now my friend is drinking uncontrollably and has suicidal tendencies. If she killed herself she would be leaving behind 2 girls.

She is not listening to anyone’s advice at this stage, not even the emergency conseler's.

What can I do to help?

Sometimes you need to reach the bottom of the barrel to realize what you are and how you could fix these issues. Give her the options (suicide help groups or any other professional) and let her decide. There're some people out there paid and trained to deal with this.

 

[Smurfy]

Kinda gotta go with biteme's logic on this would.

If she is so caught up in herself and her boyfriend to actually consider committing suicide and leaving 2 kids out to dry then she has "issues" and needs to grow up.

Getting her committed sounds like the best idea yet.

I remember when I broke up with this girl that I was insanely in love with. I cried like a fuckin baby for a couple hours. Then I went to sleep. Then I woke up and life went on...

Um. Of course she has "issues". What person in their RIGHT MIND would even consider suicide as an option. We cannot try to understand what's going on in her head. SHe is not thinking LOGICALLY.

Get some crisis intervention for her immediately.

 

[SoKlueles]

Um. Of course she has "issues". What person in their RIGHT MIND would even consider suicide as an option. We cannot try to understand what's going on in her head. SHe is not thinking LOGICALLY.

Get some crisis intervention for her immediately.

I think Smurfy is right, noone in their right mind would kill themself. My uncle did it a year ago. He has 2 kids...and they adored him. He killed himself in his home and his 15 year old son found him with blood everywhere...
Noone in their right mind would let their kid find them after they have done something so drastic. Something isnt right in their head

 

[from zero]

Tell her to grow the fuck up and stop being so insecure. She can live without a boyfriend for a while.

 

[saint808]

suicide is an alternative... a bad one if you have people who love you and depend on you... if you are a loner and have no family to speak of then it's not so bad of an option.

 

[Yarg!]

just make sure u do SOMETHING for them. even if ur actions were unsuccessful atleast u tried. one of my best friends commited suicide about 7 months ago, but i never saw it coming. i wish i had done something, as futile as it might have been, atleast i tried. itll make u regret it. GL

 

[jestros]

Tink?

 

[alien amp pharm]

I've had relationships that ended and I thought was the end of the world, but guess what each time I eventually found someone even better than the previous relationship.

 

[bodytemple75]

I feel that everybody is pretty much alone with their problems, since nobody truly knows what someone has to deal with and thoughts/ worries going on in their head on a daily basis. Even if you had/have a great family or relationshp, or friend to talk to there are certain things unsaid or having to deal with yourself even in the best of them. Certain things can come up that you still have to deal with alone, and you may still don't know how to go about solving them on your own. They may be bad, or even really bad. This by no means makes anyone crazy IMO, but everyone has their limit, and everyone goes through a different path in life. Suicide is an escape it seems, and should be an individual's own decision. Right or wrong.
I do feel however if another life is involved with that person, as an infant (children) for example, that depend on that person for their well being, that the right choice would be to get through their depression no matter how rough it may be. For the children's children's sake. They depend on you. It is more serious now when you are the provider and care for others who cannot fend for themselves or are too young to. If you are married, and your spouse depends on you then that would apply as well....
As for family and friends, they are adults and have their own lives. The thoughts of suicide bieng a "selfish act" comming from that perspective (single) always seems like close-minded ignorant thinking to me. Family is great, but as we grow older everyone usally goes their seperate ways and in most cases with the exception of exceptional family relationships, can't or don't really want to hear about your problems too much as I am sure they are focused on thir own. Sucks,...but seems to be somewhat true as I see it most of the time.


Just my opinion on the subj.

BT

 

[Deterass]

Tell her to use a shotgun so she gets it done right the first time.

 

[biteme]

I think Smurfy is right, noone in their right mind would kill themself. My uncle did it a year ago. He has 2 kids...and they adored him. He killed himself in his home and his 15 year old son found him with blood everywhere...
Noone in their right mind would let their kid find them after they have done something so drastic. Something isnt right in their head

That's what we have to tell ouselves in order to accept it. But, I'm not sure that they are not just a self absorbed person who doesn't think of what it will do to others, they only think of themselves. Too many excuses for everything these days.

 

[biteme]

suicide is an alternative... a bad one if you have people who love you and depend on you... if you are a loner and have no family to speak of then it's not so bad of an option.

So you can't kill yourself then. Just wait it out, it will happen soon enough anyway. I sincerely, hope things have gotten better for you. That's a deep, dark hole that sux to be in. Still sux me in from time to time.

 

[ghettostudmuffin]

Suicide is a pussies way out imo. You gotta be pretty fuggin mentally weak to commit suicide.

1. The only possible reasons I could see for commiting suicide is if you have a horrible illness that you cannot recover from that will kill you slowly and agonizingly.

2. You just killed your true love like in Othello after being tricked by someone you confided in. That would suck salty balls.


3. You had your weiner chopped off or have been castrated.

4. Looking at life in prison with no parole and you can't keep yourself occupied while in or you have a nice butt and don't feel like getting gangbanged every week.

5. You have been horribly disfigured by an accident. Kinda relates to 3.

6. You're stranded in space and about to be used for experiments by a advanced alien species looking to see just how much "pain" a human can withstadn before there body jsut shuts down and dies. Picture 100 paper cuts or whatever.


These are all fairly reasonable reasons to commit suicide imo.

Notice they are far more drastic than being dumped by your boyfriend/girlfriend.

 

[E_Fermi]

... if you are a loner and have no family to speak of then it's not so bad of an option.

.

 

[KA-BAR]

Also make sure she gets it in front of the head and to use 00 buck. First tell her that is not the answer and she is here for a reason. If she still does not listen go with the shottie.

Tell her to use a shotgun so she gets it done right the first time.

 

[CrazyRussian]

Get her some professional help for fucks sake...

if you take one thing out of this thoroughly use(full) thread, please take this. You're not going to make her feel better by taking her to dinner. This is a mentally sick person, and nothing short of medical help can help her.