my brothers father died

[Cutiebaby]

we just found out yesterday ..I was going to call my brother last night, but I dont know what I should say..For the last atleast 4 years he has not really talked to his father.He lived in the same town as me and everytime I would see him I would ask him if he was bob and he would say NO..All I wanted to do was tell him that he was a grandfather!!! He was a big time drunk and one terrible father..my step monster and father got custody of my brother when I was about 7 years old .
But anyways, what the hell should I say to my brother? I mean it is not like I am sorry for his loss or anything like that...I just have no idea what to say to him. Maybe ask him if he is ok or something?

 

[SoKlueles]

tell him you are thinking of him and hope hes ok

 

[SoKlueles]

oh and that you love him, and ask him if he wants you to be with him.
Not because of the dad, but because of him.

 

[Cutiebaby]

thats good, thanks klu..I was gonna call him last night but I did not know if step monster had told him the news yet or not..I mean it was only in the paper yesterday and I did not want to be the one that had to tell him that his dad passed away.
I guess I will call him later and ask him if he is ok and if he needs anything..the funeral is in the funeral home right behind my house, so I may walk over there on sunday just to show my regards to him..I am sure the step monster will show up just to she can act all snotty and shit.

 

[SoKlueles]

kick her in the nuts and then hug him

 

[Cutiebaby]

kick her in the nuts and then hug him

I can not begin to imagine how he feels. i mean obviously that was his biological father and all that, so there is going to be some form of emotion. Especially seeings how they had not seen each other in some time.I know that I would be upset if my parent passed away.But I can see his mom now..Walking up in there just to talk about how his father never sent any money or cards never called, etc..She is probably going to be very unsupportive.Hopefully my dad will tell her to just leave it be and stay away.That imo would be the best option.
I think my brother is working so I am gonna call him on his cell in a little while. I cannot see him missing work until the night/day of the services..He has a rough life because of this guy, and was a bad child. Trouble maker with millions of emotional problems..Severely neglected until my dad took him in our house...But he has turned out to be a great kid.He has a son with a bitch, and he works two jobs, gave her his car, gives her all his money, and wants to be with his son as much as his work schedule can allow it..I am proud of him, and I just feel bad that he really did not get much closure with his bio dad.

 

[Raptorex]

sorry to hear that, prayers go out to the entire family.

 

[heatherrae]

Klu got it right. That would be the best thing to say.

 

[Cutiebaby]

Klu got it right. That would be the best thing to say.

yeah, that would be my best bet..

 

[jack sparrow]

Sorry to hear Angel