Moving out after a relationship

[riverrock]

Hello All,

Life seems to have begun to send myself and my GF in different directions and we're not sure if we'll be together not as the year goes on. At least we're being adult about it.

Anyhow, she said that if things don't work out, she'll move out and stay with her brother while she finds her own place.

This is the first time I ever lived full time with someone. What can you expect emotionally as your partner packs and begins to leave after all the time together?

Its not 100%, but I'm preparing for the worst if she has to move on.

 

[hamstershaver]

she will steal all your shit when you arent looking, fucking bitches

 

[chefbone]

I felt pretty empty when I moved out of my ex's place. All that I thought about was us. It's best to hit the gym harder and find other things to fulfill your time.

 

[Becoming]

she will steal all your shit when you arent looking, fucking bitches

LOL- this is funny and totally true. Shit will keep biting you in the ass too, fucking CDs you haven't listened to for 3 years and then all of a sudden are jonesing to listen to 6 months after she moves out will be MIA from the case.

Bitches.

Now, as for "What can you expect emotionally as your partner packs and begins to leave?"

Expect a fucking nightmare. Take everything that is valuable to you and store it somewhere else (see above) then plan not to be there at all till she is gone.

And save your breath. Once she decides to leave, stop talking to her!

 

[pintoca]

Is this the spanish chick?

 

[alien amp pharm]

It would mean more video game time for me.

 

[Juiced]

Bro I know what your going through, I went through the same thing about 1.5 years ago, and we were engaged for 4 years and lived together for a long time before, and the same thing happend, we just wanted different things out of life so we decided to go our own way and move on, we still talk about once a week and still are close, but to tell you the truth its the best thing I have ever done, because if not I would of not met the women I am with now, and for the first time in my life I feel something totally different, its a weird feeling that cant be explained until you have it, the second I seen her I knew she was the one ,and the more days go by the more it looks like I was right. We have only been together a few months, but she is it. Bro, just remember things happen for a reason, and you have to follow your heart and do what you think is best for you, if your not happy now, then she isnt the one, and the one is out there waiting for you to find her...When my X left I really felt releived in a way, as I knew she wasnt the one I would spend all my life with, and once you move on and come to terms with that you will have a load off your mind like you cant imagine.

 

[jnevin]

I felt pretty empty when I moved out of my ex's place. All that I thought about was us. It's best to hit the gym harder and find other things to fulfill your time.

Agreed. I went on a bender that redefined alcoholism and self-destructive behavior. Use it to better yourself and keep a clear head. Hindsight is 20/20.

 

[mrplunkey]

Brace yourself. No matter how cordially and maturely it starts, it will almost certainly end-up in the gutter. Try to stay objective, develop a plan for seperating (i.e. out of the house by XYZ, credit cards seperated by ABC, friends chatted with by DEF, etc. etc.). Then just stay on the plan and execute it.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

id leave also, memories attached to the place would weird me out and impede my moving on properly

 

[Tytan]

an empty void that can`t be replaced will haunt your place....even after you start seeing someone else, memories of things you used to do will creep into your head...

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Why are so many couples splitting these days? Somehow I doubt it was like this a 20-30+ years ago. So this means things are getting worse in that respect......wtf. I know why primarily but there's many factors.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

Why are so many couples splitting these days? Somehow I doubt it was like this a 20-30+ years ago. So this means things are getting worse in that respect......wtf. I know why primarily but there's many factors.

singlehood is habit forming

 

[-SD-]

This is the first time I ever lived full time with someone. What can you expect emotionally as your partner packs and begins to leave after all the time together?.

Relief, happiness, freedom.