The one thing you have going for you, if you can consider it that, is that the younger a kid is diagnosed with autism the easier it is to get assistance and more importantly, education will be geared appropriately. Enroll him in everything you can. Trying to get access to programs for adult diagnosed individuals is like some sort of Chinese water torture. I'm lucky I (finally) found an advocacy group that specializes in working with autistic adults, I was beginning to lose what little mind I have left.
You are a great mom for not giving up. Many just lose it and give up, especially when roadblocks keep getting put in the way.
