Man Im all alone now and stopped doing everything

[patkob2001]

Last week my girlfriend left me ,she left the appartement we built ,all the stuff we bought together ,we started from zero to having a beautiful place.3 weeks previous she started crying ,when I asked her why, she said she wasnt sure if she still believed in our relationship,that I had changed from when we first met,that I got lazy.......and became a shadow of myself.The next week I got up from my ass and changed eevrything around so much that she freaked out.I ask her for a chance to try and fix eevrything.I was still freaking out not knowing if she still loved me ....3 days after that she wrote a letter telling me she loved me and was gonna give me a chance.The sunday after that she got up started putting on her make up ,then when I asked her what she wanted to do today she said she was gonna take her brake
and was going to her friends house .I was destroyed cried all day .I called her job the following tuesday to ask her what was going on and if she was comming back ....she said no .So I have lost the girl of my life ,she said that she needed to be alone she was in a depression.I ask her if she still loved me she said yes but Im not in love with you like before.Now we must divide all the stuff rent out the place we lived together.All this all of a sudden...I didnt sleep the whole week maybe 1 hour a day ate 3 meals the whole week.The thing is I help this girl out when we started out together ....She loved me more than anyother girl Ive ever met.By the way we are both 23......................I know we are young ,she even said that we might come back together in a few years cause she knows Im a good guy ........Anyone ever go true something like this and any comments and help

 

[plifter]

Sorry to hear. I'll do some crying for you

 

[Freak Show]

Been there. Not as much was involved (i.e. apt,etc.)but I hurt the same. I feel for you, but there's nothing anyone here can say or do to improve how you feel. You need to experience all the emotions that come with breakups: anger, guilt, depression, desparation. I'm sure there's more. Do your best to keep your head up. Turn to a support system if you have one. Talk, talk,talk. Don't bottle it up. Just hurts more. Each day it gets better. Don't smother this girl otherwise you'll never get her back. If you act like a co-dependent it'll only reinforce the reason she left you. Be strong. If you have the chance, show her how strong you are. Don't break down and start sobbing your eyes out every time you see/talk to her. You'll get through this. I wish you the best.

 

[dballer]

I went throught the same thing.... excact!!!! Down to the details. We were together for two years. I kept all of the shit and just told her to get lost. That was 1 year ago... I am just starting to get over it.

I asked this old guy on the street how long heart ache lasts one time and he told me "As long as you let it"

Good luck to you my brother,
I feel for you.
DBaller

 

[Y_lifter]

Like Sand through the Hourglass,, So are the Days of Our Lives.

Find one little tiny thing that used to annoy you about her and
think about that one thing all day, every min of the day for a couple of days.

It will help you move on..

 

[Big Brother Val]

Man... that is fuckin' rough. I'm sorry to hear it.

Losing someone you truly love is very, very hard.

I wish I had great advice. Something to really help.

If I knew how to help, I wouldn't be feeling the same way myself.

Take care of yourself.

 

[the nature boy]

Wow man I feel for you. But we've all been through that kind of thing in one way or another and we move on. Dude hang out with your friends and don't be by yourself, otheriwse you'll just dwell on the situation and make yourself depressed.

I know this won't help but realize that there are people who are doing a lot worse then you right now.

 

[Sassy69]

Sorry to hear about another break up. I think as much as people want to find that Mr / Ms Right and build their lives together, especially if you haven't had a chance to find "yourself" that time will eventually come. And it may come at the expense of that relationship -- when "us" becomes "you" and "me".

The good new is that for every change in your life comes another opportunity. But I'll spare you the rest of the "happy horseshit"... the point is that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and its up to you to spend some time coming to grips with it and then you move on.

 

[polarpixie]

Stay strong, keep working out!

patkob, sorry to hear you're going thru such a rough time.

How long were you together? Not that THAT really matters, since it's still upsetting to you....

I wish I had some wise words for you, but of course I don't. Just remember though, many people DO eventually end up finding the right person for them, in your case, it may or may not be her, regardless of how you feel about her now. There is something to be said about being on your own for a while and 'finding yourself' like sassy said though, and knowing that whoever you find will only enhance and not 'make' your existence...it's easy to forget that sometimes.

Plus, just think, if it's so easy for her to bail now, just think if you guys were married!! I hate how so many people just give up on a good thing because....*whine*, they've changed....and they jump ship thinking the next person they find will not have any faults or change on them??? Everyone changes. It's a way of life. Yes, I have some issues.

Stay strong! Keep working out, that always helps! Feel better soon!

 

[patkob2001]

Guys iM feeling abit better now .........still down but and depressed abit..........atleast I worked out and slept the last two days ........eating is still tuff but Im forcing itr down.I went from 233 to 220 in a week ....Not sure if its fat or muscle but I was on a anavar 40mg a day the whole time I lost the weight.Anyway maybe it wsnt right but I work a s a doorman at a club here in Montreal ........And yesterday I picked up 3 chicks(yes a foursome) and brought them back to theyre place ....Yes I feel guilty but hell It made me feel like I was a worthy man .I still cant believe that I went from no sex the last 3 weeks with my ex then next thing u know 3 girls are drooling over my body and face.I guess god exists!Thanks guys 1 day at a time