Longest time it took you to get over a (failed) serious relationship.

[MkZk]

Been a year for me...painful breakup, but by no means a hateful one. Still have a lot of respect for each other. Moved on, more or less...but yes, it still hurts a great deal when I think about it deeply. And I think about it almost daily, but I would definately say I'm over it. And have been for a few months now. But damn sometimes it still hurts, u know?

Family, friends and the fucking gym helped me through the tough times. I love the gym!

 

[JohnyJuice]

The relatinship i just got out of was a great one. We moved apart, and she decisded she couldnt do a long distance relationship and wasnt ready for such a serious relationship as we were having at her age. It was really hard for me. I loved her completely, and she loved me. Well, i should say i still love her, i always will. Like you said, there was no hostility or bad event (cheating or fight) which caused the relationship to end. So it was tough. I was pretty bummed for about 2 months. Didnt really even talk to any other girls, cause i knew i only wanted one. I then decided that some new ass would make me feel better and take my mind off it. I waxed some chicks, and felt even worse afterward. The sex didnt make me feel any better, and it made me sink lower do to the fact that it seemed nothing would cheer me up. But as time went on, i str8ened my shit out. It just takes time. I still miss her though.

 

[big_bad_buff]

those are the worst kind man, you should have accused her of sleeping around, and called her a slut or something, just so you leave on bad terms, makes it less painful those you never get over.


Longest time it took me to get over relationship was about a year or so.

 

[JohnyJuice]

those are the worst kind man, you should have accused her of sleeping around, and called her a slut or something, just so you leave on bad terms, makes it less painful those you never get over.


Longest time it took me to get over relationship was about a year or so.

Its the truth. The easiest relationships to get over are the ones where the bitch was trife or somthing. Like when you realise how she was no good for you, o a filthy slut, or something. The ones where you both have feelings for each other and part ways on good terms always have you looking back. I still do on occasion. It still saddens me truthfully.

 

[alien amp pharm]

dated & engaged to a girl for 3 1/2 years.

took a year and a half to get over it to where it doesn't hurt.

However there's not a day that goes by that I don't miss her or think about things we use to do.

 

[b fold the truth]

I'm not for sure if you ever really get over it...but you just learn to move on. It is VERY tough...it REALLY is...

B True

 

[AAP]

The stronger the love, the longer the time needed...


Take the total amount of time together and multiply it by 3.

If you felt like this was your "soulmate", then it is more complicated.. you may NEVER get over it. You will think about them every single day... you will wonder "what if" and "maybe one day"... you will compare all others you meet to them....


Been there, done that.

 

[Saizen]

Mine just ended about 2 weeks ago. After we got back from our cruise it went to shit I guess. Sometimes harts aren't in the same places and it's best to move on. Sometimes I can't help feel that everything in the end was a waste of time, considering the effort put into it. Anyway, I think we will remain party fuck friends. How long will it take for me to get over her? As long as I have some of my sexy "acquaintances" around me and want lay with no strings attached I won't be think of her.

 

[The Shadow]

The stronger the love, the longer the time needed...


Take the total amount of time together and multiply it by 3.

If you felt like this was your "soulmate", then it is more complicated.. you may NEVER get over it. You will think about them every single day... you will wonder "what if" and "maybe one day"... you will compare all others you meet to them....


Been there, done that.

wow...3x....

Damn - 30 years....ouch

 

[hardrock]

My gf broke up with me in the beginning of 97. It was actually the day after new years eve. She had caught me cheating 2 times before, and I got really wasted on new years, and I guess I was hitting on chicks. I took her for granted and it took me probably three years to fully move on. I still think about her alot and wonder what could have been.

 

[MkZk]

It still saddens me truthfully.

Yup, same here. As much as I tell myself I'm over her, it does make me sad. And that's the truth.

However there's not a day that goes by that I don't miss her or think about things we use to do.

I can relate to this. I think about our times together everyday. But I also condition my thinking to realize that I needed that breakup to make me a better person. Basically, I try to think positively. Not always easy, though.

I'm not for sure if you ever really get over it...but you just learn to move on. It is VERY tough...it REALLY is...

If I were totally honest with myself, I would say the same thing. I hope one day I will find someone who has also known this kind of hurt. I think only when you've been hurt like this is when you can truly appreciate real love.

If you felt like this was your "soulmate", then it is more complicated.. you may NEVER get over it. You will think about them every single day... you will wonder "what if" and "maybe one day"... you will compare all others you meet to them....

Yes, she was very much my soulmate. And yes, sometimes in my weaker moments I do feel like I'll never get over her. But...when I think positively, I realize that while I do need to get over her (as I've more or less done so) I don't need to forget her. I don't want to. She has given me so much.


I guess everyone has a story to tell. Everyone walking on the street. People you say hi to at the gym. People on the other side of the world. This is life. And we've got to accept these difficulties and pain. Embrace them, even. They make you wiser, more patient and basically a better person. (But don't become bitter though...because then you'd probably negate the whole "self-growing" thingy)

 

[DcupSheepNipples]

Longest time it took you to get over a (failed) serious relationship.

Sounds like we need to start a telethon for you so that you can visit the "BUNNY RANCH!"