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Long Distance Relationship

FreeballinDC

FreeballinDC

Dumper Humper
I am leaving tomorrow to Atlanta to see if I can start up a relationship that should have been on the front burner two years ago.

I have not been a big fan of having a serious long distance relationship because the distance can be a hinderance to any growth that a relationship needs in order to mature (at least that's the way I view it).

I've decided to change all that and go for it. A person like that only comes along once in a lifetime (if at all) and distance shouldn't be the reason to keep us apart.

And for all you cynics, you're right, I couldn't find anybody in DC worth the effort. All these pigs here want to do is play.

Mr. Serious Goes to Atlanta.
 
I have my doubts about long distance relationships too. You never know, maybe if you go down there and make an effort, it won't be long distance for long. Good luck!
 
FreeballinDC said:
I am leaving tomorrow to Atlanta to see if I can start up a relationship that should have been on the front burner two years ago.

I have not been a big fan of having a serious long distance relationship because the distance can be a hinderance to any growth that a relationship needs in order to mature (at least that's the way I view it).....
Mr. Serious Goes to Atlanta.
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GOOD LUCK TO YOU! It can work if you try! I met this guy in ATL & next thing I know we were in a long-distance relationship which I didn't really want. However, it worked for us...he moved to Chicago for me & we're engaged to be married! Wish you the best...keep us posted! :qt: :qt:
 
Thanks guys. You might as well have hit me with a 2x4 to make me realize what I was putting on the back burner. I can't wait to make this happen. I can only hope it burns bright, hot and long.
 
Longest I ever traveled to see anyone was a 7 hour drive from me. No way i was even thinking of a relationship tho', but I'm just saying. My perfect woman right now is ut in LA, lol. Completely opposite coasts.
 
Burning_Inside said:
Longest I ever traveled to see anyone was a 7 hour drive from me. No way i was even thinking of a relationship tho', but I'm just saying. My perfect woman right now is ut in LA, lol. Completely opposite coasts.
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I think it's perfectly weird (like life in general) that we find our potential mates in places we least expect (or at least I do anyway).

It amazes me that in the metro DC area, I cannot find one eligible guy to settle down with.

It's all about posturing and playing head games here. I know it's like that in other cities too, but DAMN!!

At least I'll know that during this weekend, there will be at least 2 happy people on this planet.
 
FreeballinDC said:
I think it's perfectly weird (like life in general) that we find our potential mates in places we least expect (or at least I do anyway).

It amazes me that in the metro DC area, I cannot find one eligible guy to settle down with.

It's all about posturing and playing head games here. I know it's like that in other cities too, but DAMN!!

At least I'll know that during this weekend, there will be at least 2 happy people on this planet.
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That's because I use the net to find women, and I find that in my general area, there's nothing for me. This is because I guess I'd describe myself as a person that goes against the grain somewhat and is kind of non traditional, and these traditional values I think are proprietary to your locality. You probably fall into the same category. Maybe you didn;t live in your current area you live now al of your life, and your values you brought with you just don;t mesh there with others very well. But, they may however mesh well with a higher % of people from another area somewhere potentially far away.
 
Burning_Inside said:
Longest I ever traveled to see anyone was a 7 hour drive from me. No way i was even thinking of a relationship tho', but I'm just saying. My perfect woman right now is ut in LA, lol. Completely opposite coasts.
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It's up the two people involved to make it work if they both believe there is something there.

7 hours...pffft. A mere trip around the block.

heh
 
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Tried it with the last girl I went out. Went halfway around the world. 2 months later it became too much for her and she broke it off.

Not trying to discourage you, just telling what happened to me.

Good luck.
 
I tried it once, and she lived 90 miles from me. It only lasted 3 or 4 weeks. Good luck.
 
the back burner never lasts forever so good you acted on it now...ATL is much cooler than DC, make the move...
 
Best of luck to you Freeballin. I may be smoking crack but weren't you going to move to Atl? If so you can start something now and have something to look forward to on your move.

Cheers,
Scotsman
 
My BF and I lived on separate coasts for 6 months.....it was hard, but we made it through. We saw each other about every 8 weeks, then I moved out West to join him. Long distance sucks, but if you are both dedicated, it can work....maybe not long term, but at least temporarily.

Hope things work for you! :)
 
Daisy_Girl said:
My BF and I lived on separate coasts for 6 months.....it was hard, but we made it through. We saw each other about every 8 weeks, then I moved out West to join him. Long distance sucks, but if you are both dedicated, it can work....maybe not long term, but at least temporarily.

Hope things work for you! :)
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Wow, how did you guy meet in the first place - if you don't mind me being nosy.
 
velvett said:
Wow, how did you guy meet in the first place - if you don't mind me being nosy.
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Not nosy at all. :)

I lived on the East Coast most my life, he moved to East Coast for job (transfer to new branch of company). I applied for a job at that company, we met there. He was my supervisor (uh oh), we started dating quietly, had some issues with that, got in a huge fight, stopped dating, he decided to move back West, then we got back together a couple weeks before he was to leave. We decided to "stay together", see how things were when we were apart. Once he left, we realized that we were meant to be together (awwww!). Couldn't decide if he was to move back East or me go West. I applied to Grad School out there, got in, and made the big move across country. :) He left in June, I moved out West the following January. While we were apart, we spoke EVERYDAY. :)

I moved right in with him when I got out here, that was almost 2.5 years ago. :) We are silly happy together. :heart:
 
Daisy_Girl said:
Not nosy at all. :)

I lived on the East Coast most my life, he moved to East Coast for job (transfer to new branch of company). I applied for a job at that company, we met there. He was my supervisor (uh oh), we started dating quietly, had some issues with that, got in a huge fight, stopped dating, he decided to move back West, then we got back together a couple weeks before he was to leave. We decided to "stay together", see how things were when we were apart. Once he left, we realized that we were meant to be together (awwww!). Couldn't decide if he was to move back East or me go West. I applied to Grad School out there, got in, and made the big move across country. :) He left in June, I moved out West the following January. While we were apart, we spoke EVERYDAY. :)

I moved right in with him when I got out here, that was almost 2.5 years ago. :) We are silly happy together. :heart:
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:bawling:


Snif. HOOOOOOOOONK snif, snif.

That's beautiful.

I love a good romantic story.

:heart:
 
Daisy_Girl said:
I moved right in with him when I got out here, that was almost 2.5 years ago. :) We are silly happy together. :heart:
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I'm still planning to fix that once and for all. :p
 
See, it's things like this that make me want to give it a shot. If you two can do it, then why can't I?

This is the first time in 5 years I have really felt good about following through on this and make it work. Thanks DG for the encouragement, or at least posting up that somebody made it work. It may be hard, but it sure beats what I have here, ZERO!

Daisy_Girl said:
Not nosy at all. :)

I lived on the East Coast most my life, he moved to East Coast for job (transfer to new branch of company). I applied for a job at that company, we met there. He was my supervisor (uh oh), we started dating quietly, had some issues with that, got in a huge fight, stopped dating, he decided to move back West, then we got back together a couple weeks before he was to leave. We decided to "stay together", see how things were when we were apart. Once he left, we realized that we were meant to be together (awwww!). Couldn't decide if he was to move back East or me go West. I applied to Grad School out there, got in, and made the big move across country. :) He left in June, I moved out West the following January. While we were apart, we spoke EVERYDAY. :)

I moved right in with him when I got out here, that was almost 2.5 years ago. :) We are silly happy together. :heart:
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Best of luck freeballin! I believe it can work if you both want it to! I am currently in a LDR and it's rough! It's been only a month, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!! I am moving to the DC area to be with my man soon!

Good news today! Got my letter to get my Visa today! Gotta run on down to the border on Friday!! Yaaaayyyyyy!! :horny: Gonna get me some soon!
 
lil'tangerine said:
:horny: Gonna get me some soon!
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It's funny, when we were living apart, lack of sex wasn't even the hardest thing. It was the day-to-day things....the sharing, the being silly together, the running errands together, the closeness. The being together is what I missed.

Long Dist is hard, but it CAN work. You have to have trust and a mutual desire to be together. Being apart can be temporary, but it can bring you closer eventually. That is what happened to us - we spoke every night, which allowed us to sometimes talk about things that might be too uncomfortable in person. It actually made us stronger in the long run - we got to get out a lot of fears and desires early on.

I wouldn't change ANYTHING about our relationship, even the long distance part. The long distance part made us the couple we are now, I wonder if we would be so strong now without it?
 
Daisy_Girl said:
Not nosy at all. :)

I lived on the East Coast most my life, he moved to East Coast for job (transfer to new branch of company). I applied for a job at that company, we met there. He was my supervisor (uh oh), we started dating quietly, had some issues with that, got in a huge fight, stopped dating, he decided to move back West, then we got back together a couple weeks before he was to leave. We decided to "stay together", see how things were when we were apart. Once he left, we realized that we were meant to be together (awwww!). Couldn't decide if he was to move back East or me go West. I applied to Grad School out there, got in, and made the big move across country. :) He left in June, I moved out West the following January. While we were apart, we spoke EVERYDAY. :)

I moved right in with him when I got out here, that was almost 2.5 years ago. :) We are silly happy together. :heart:
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That is such a great story... I'm so happy for you guys!!! :heart:
 
I moved from Atlanta to Los Angeles 5 1/2 years ago for someone I met on AOL. It took a leap of faith but I didn't really have anything tying me down in Atlanta other than my family. We finally broke up last year but we still live together as roommates (separate bedrooms) since we get along fine as friends. I'm already on to someone else but I don't rub it in her face since I think she would have preferred to work things out. It can work but it's ALOT easier when you don't have to worry constantly about the other person being unfaithful, if that's an expectation.
 
FreeballinDC said:
I am leaving tomorrow to Atlanta to see if I can start up a relationship that should have been on the front burner two years ago.

I have not been a big fan of having a serious long distance relationship because the distance can be a hinderance to any growth that a relationship needs in order to mature (at least that's the way I view it).

I've decided to change all that and go for it. A person like that only comes along once in a lifetime (if at all) and distance shouldn't be the reason to keep us apart.

And for all you cynics, you're right, I couldn't find anybody in DC worth the effort. All these pigs here want to do is play.

Mr. Serious Goes to Atlanta.
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Go for it. I did the same thing and it's the best move I've ever made.
 
FreeballinDC said:
I think it's perfectly weird (like life in general) that we find our potential mates in places we least expect (or at least I do anyway).

It amazes me that in the metro DC area, I cannot find one eligible guy to settle down with.
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biteme said:
Dude! I didn't know you were gay. Or is that a misprint? ]
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Where have you been, orb?
 
Dial_tone said:
Where have you been, orb?
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I was just in Long Beach. Got back yesterday. My girl said that you live somewhere nearby. I saw a guy about 5'8" 250 when we were out sightseeing and I said, "Hey look baby, there's Dial Tone." The sweetheart actually thought it was you. LOL But this guy was fat, not a mountain of muscle.
 
biteme said:
I was just in Long Beach. Got back yesterday. My girl said that you live somewhere nearby. I saw a guy about 5'8" 250 when we were out sightseeing and I said, "Hey look baby, there's Dial Tone." The sweetheart actually thought it was you. LOL But this guy was fat, not a mountain of muscle.
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So when you gonna fill me in on the details there Sugarplumb?!

Guess what... guess what... guess what?!?!?!?

There is this guy.... and I kinda think he is neat. ;)
 
biteme said:
I was just in Long Beach. Got back yesterday. My girl said that you live somewhere nearby. I saw a guy about 5'8" 250 when we were out sightseeing and I said, "Hey look baby, there's Dial Tone." The sweetheart actually thought it was you. LOL But this guy was fat, not a mountain of muscle.
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I meant where have you been in relation to not realizing Freeball was gay and that fat guy might have been me. :) Long Biatch is pretty close. I can actually walk 30 feet down the hall, step out on the outdoor stairway and see Long Beach Harbor from my apt bldg.
 
Love will work miracles, surpass expectations, and keep you both together bonded, no matter where your travels make take you. You may be miles apart in reality, but if you truly found that someone that loves you for everything you are, you are lucky. We are not nearly as far as one may think at times. Never miles apart, or that very from that person's thoughts and heart at any given time or moment. We are still like we never left. Right there... Always there. Always in your, their thoughts, to make you break a smile for whatever reason while waiting on line at the video store, at the supermarket, or driving to work. Never that far away. There will always be a way to make it work, given, you still have the need, want, and love is there. That is unconditional, true love, and knowing your purpose in life... is "Just to simply love eachother."..." Always."..

Aside from that, everything else in my life comes a distant second.



That's for my girl....;)

Love you baby....


Good luck bro....(Freeball)
 
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Daisy_Girl said:
It's funny, when we were living apart, lack of sex wasn't even the hardest thing. It was the day-to-day things....the sharing, the being silly together, the running errands together, the closeness. The being together is what I missed.

DG you are very right! Feeling his arms around me is probably on the top of the list! Especially when I'm feeling down...
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I think relationships that start out as local than become long distance have a greater chance of surviving if both parties are willing to work at it.

I think that pre-relationships that start out as a potential long distance relationship have greater odds against them - not that it's impossible it's just that as adults - especially those that have careers will have a harder time.

Someone will have to leave their current life behind and if one is willing to pick up their life and move to see if a potential relationship could work that's great as long as they are prepared to deal with the consequence should things not work out.
 
Daisy_Girl said:
It's funny, when we were living apart, lack of sex wasn't even the hardest thing. It was the day-to-day things....the sharing, the being silly together, the running errands together, the closeness. The being together is what I missed.

Long Dist is hard, but it CAN work. You have to have trust and a mutual desire to be together. Being apart can be temporary, but it can bring you closer eventually. That is what happened to us - we spoke every night, which allowed us to sometimes talk about things that might be too uncomfortable in person. It actually made us stronger in the long run - we got to get out a lot of fears and desires early on.

I wouldn't change ANYTHING about our relationship, even the long distance part. The long distance part made us the couple we are now, I wonder if we would be so strong now without it?
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Definitely agree w/ you on that Daisy... we also had no choice but to talk everyday...sometimes about nothing & sometimes about a lot of things. Definitely made us more open w/ one another. & it was the EVERYDAY things that I missed...like watching movies together etc. But it was all worth it! Everything that's worth the effort, takes a lot of sacrifices on both parties...if you're ready & willing then GO FOR IT! But nothing is easy & nothing is perfect. Ups & downs are what a relationship strives on!
 
Daisygirl, good story. Maybe there is still hope for BBF out there. One day I will find a woman who doesn't actually have a boyfriend or husband she isn't telling me about, who isn't psychotic, and who will actually put up with my shit.
 
avenirup said:
Code for: you missed him and he missed sex...... :chomp: :chomp:
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Actually not at all. He is usually sweeter to me than I to him, he can be crazy romantic. Before he moved, we actually hadn't had sex very many times at all. We had dated for a few months before having sex - HE was the one who delayed it, until we got closer emotionally.
 
Daisy_Girl said:
My BF and I lived on separate coasts for 6 months.....it was hard, but we made it through. We saw each other about every 8 weeks, then I moved out West to join him. Long distance sucks, but if you are both dedicated, it can work....maybe not long term, but at least temporarily.

Hope things work for you! :)
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Same situation here. We spent about a year together before she moved away. We will spend a year apart before being together again.

B True
 
bodytemple75 said:
Love will work miracles, surpass expectations, and keep you both together bonded, no matter where your travels make take you. You may be miles apart in reality, but if you truly found that someone that loves you for everything you are, you are lucky. We are not nearly as far as one may think at times. Never miles apart, or that very from that person's thoughts and heart at any given time or moment. We are still like we never left. Right there... Always there. Always in your, their thoughts, to make you break a smile for whatever reason while waiting on line at the video store, at the supermarket, or driving to work. Never that far away. There will always be a way to make it work, given, you still have the need, want, and love is there. That is unconditional, true love, and knowing your purpose in life... is "Just to simply love eachother."..." Always."..

Aside from that, everything else in my life comes a distant second.



That's for my girl....;)

Love you baby....


Good luck bro....(Freeball)
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Tiamo
 
FreeballinDC said:
I have not been a big fan of having a serious long distance relationship because the distance can be a hinderance to any growth that a relationship needs in order to mature (at least that's the way I view it).
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Anybody know what he's talking about?
 
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