Like how long?

[Festina Lente]

Should a woman support a man? I am at 7 years, and am VEERY tired. He of of course does not work, but does work out, how admirable, how long do I keep suporting him before i go totally crazy??? Just curious to know how out of line my fitness nut is before I dump him, thank god for prenups. 115 and losing, stress you know.

 

[BrandonXJ]

if he got laid off, a year, tops.. other than that, there's no excuse.. mcdonalds is always hiring.

 

[hardrock]

Assuming you are hot, he's got it made. Do you give him money to go out with his friends too?

 

[PHATchik]

He has to make an effort or I wouldn't put up with him even that long. If you love him, then you can't just kick him to the curb, but make some changes. Soon.

 

[Festina Lente]

It's been a lot longer than a year (ok 7 yrs, no bills paid by him), and yes the tie that binds is that sex is very good (from his perspective, from mine, ok, better than none,) but, I would like to share the emotional and finanacial load and be able to work out myself. Ah, dreams.

 

[PHATchik]

Do you love him? If it's just the sex is just okay, then honey, you can find better. If this man is not supporting you emotionally, then why are you even doing this? Seven years is way too long to put yourself through this.

 

[Festina Lente]

I agree, I'm just trying to work up the courage to walk away, thanx for your help. And yes, I did love him a lot a long time ago, but, I am not unkind....

 

[PHATchik]

Perhaps I am just hardened, but a man can only use you so much. One of the hardest things you will ever do is walk away from him, but it will be the best thing you could do too. The longer you wait, the harder it will be. I know you say you don't love him anymore, but I honestly think you can move on. Financially, I would put up with a lot more, but if you're not even getting emotional support from this man, then just move on. You deserve a relationship that is as fulfilling to you as it is to him.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

i've been "supported" for over a year now. when i lost my job it was due to a back injury. i havn't even looked for another one.

however, when i lost my job i immediately began collecting unemployment. the unemployment ran out just after i started college, and when i started college i began collecting the GI Bill. so while i havn't worked, i've brought in money and i'm paying my share of the bills.

7 years with NO income, however, is just too long unless he's physically incapable of working. if you let it go this long, you have 2 choices. continue to put up with it or make some drastic changes. make him get a job. if you don't love him anymore, then maybe it's time for a long overdue good bye. not trying to tell you what to do, but damn, 7 years......where do i find a woman that'll support me for that long and all i have to do is workout and have sex?

 

[Festina Lente]

Ya, I know, and I have my only child, age 21, in college (barely) and mom age 70 in bad heaith all draining me emotionally, and of course hubby demanding that I do it all for him, and like no one is there to help me carry the load, thanx for the kind words, it get's really hard sometimes, but I am not sure I have the energy to well, change things, I am just so drained, but thank you for the help getting through another day. And of course keeping the job, which no one but me seems to understand keeps this whole whobbly boat afloat.

 

[Festina Lente]

And yes, once in a great while I dream, wish for the right man, ahh dreams. But mostly I work really hard at keeping this boat afloat for everyone except me...sigh...

 

[Sundance]

This is your side of the story though.....

Are you perfect? Dont you have any vice? Why did you stay with him 7 years if you now claim how unhappy you are?

Is he helping around teh house with chores?


Something is fishy in your story as You wanna play the victim and blame it all on the husband.

Look in the mirror and acknowledge your flaws !!!! Stop bitching!