Ladies, do you think these gifts....

[Delinquent]

will smooth over the reaction that my wife will have when she finds out that I bought a handgun without her knowledge or consultation lol?

I can't remember the last time we have bought each other gifts for any occasion because we have never had the money but I think she really deserves it after practically raising our daughter on her own while I was in school last year. She's also never had a professional massage and she's in need of some pampering of her own for once. So it first was about the gun but it has evolved into more of a Valentine's Day gift that is well deserved.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v151/Stangfriik/blah.jpg

I know that the earrings aren't that big at all because we don't have that much money and I really shouldn't have spent it but she deserves it. Along with the earrings, I have scheduled an appointment with a day spa that includes the following:

Serenity Retreat

Approximately 4 hours

European Facial with Peel

1 Hour Whole Body Swedish Massage

Paraffin Manicure

Paraffin Spa Pedicure

Does this sound like a decent Valentine's Day gift?

 

[blueta2]

Buddy, no matter what, you're in BIG trouble.......hahah!

 

[nefertiti]

Buddy, no matter what, you're in BIG trouble.......hahah!

Nah, depends on the female. I wouldn't make a big stink about it.

 

[blueta2]

Nah, depends on the female. I wouldn't make a big stink about it.

you're just all over me these days huh!

Well he bought a gun and they are broke. I would make a big stink out of it.
My ex bought a paintball gun for 3 grand when we had no money for food and I would not let that slide b/c he got me a massage and earings.

I'm sure he's a super guy and his wife does deserve all the great gifts, but were they bought out of worry or love?

you're right, depends on the female. I like a responsible man, silly me!

 

[nefertiti]

you're just all over me these days huh!

Well he bought a gun and they are broke. I would make a big stick out of it.
My ex bought a paintball gun for 3 grand when we had no money for food and I would not let that slide b/c he got me a massage and earings.

I'm sure he's a super guy and his wife does deserve all the great gifts, but were they bought out of worry or love?

you're right, depends on the female. I like a responsbile man, silly me!

Blue, you are one of my fav people here...doesn't mean I won't disagree with you from time to time.

I wouldn't let it slide so to speak...but it's still a pretty small crime and not worth a fight as a first time offense. If it became habitual to compulsively buy stuff, yeah, I'd have a problem with that. Plus, he didn't say they were broke...just that they don't have a lot of money.

 

[vixensghost]

I have a hubby who spends money on stuff without my consent. I could care less as long as we have the money in the account left over after bill paying.


The gifts are nice. However, as a woman who has everything, a letter stating how much you appreciacte her being a loving wife/mother would be the perfect gift IMO. I understand that you've not been able to get what YOU think she deserves, but, that letter would make her heart swell- trust me!

 

[Delinquent]

um the gun was only $165 not $3000 and we aren't broke. We are struggling yes but considering we haven't bought each other anything for years and I mean years, I think it was time to get her something.

Plus judging by your attitude, I can see why he's an EX

 

[Delinquent]

I have a hubby who spends money on stuff without my consent. I could care less as long as we have the money in the account left over after bill paying.


The gifts are nice. However, as a woman who has everything, a letter stating how much you appreciacte her being a loving wife/mother would be the perfect gift IMO. I understand that you've not been able to get what YOU think she deserves, but, that letter would make her heart swell- trust me!

That's what I have done in the past so it was now time to get her something.

Oh and trust me, she has far from everything. We have been "getting by" for a number of years now but hope that time is over since finishing school. I just have to find a job in this oversaturated market here in Central Florida.

 

[cindylou]

yes
I would be happy with that gift!

 

[blueta2]

I have a hubby who spends money on stuff without my consent. I could care less as long as we have the money in the account left over after bill paying.


The gifts are nice. However, as a woman who has everything, a letter stating how much you appreciacte her being a loving wife/mother would be the perfect gift IMO. I understand that you've not been able to get what YOU think she deserves, but, that letter would make her heart swell- trust me!

I like that also, or a donation in her name to her favorite charity.

Vixen, I was going to send you a brand new pair of Jimmy Choos, but I'm writing you a poem instead ;-)

 

[blueta2]

um the gun was only $165 not $3000 and we aren't broke. We are struggling yes but considering we haven't bought each other anything for years and I mean years, I think it was time to get her something.

Plus judging by your attitude, I can see why he's an EX

Ouch....he's my ex cause he's a dirt bag, but thanks for the insight

You said in your post "Do you think these gifts will sooth over"
So I took it as you bought her the gifts only to soften the blow b/c she will not react well that you bought the gun

 

[Arabian]

I can see it now::::: Another :: My wife just left me because I bought somthing without her permission...hhehe

 

[vixensghost]

That's what I have done in the past so it was now time to get her something.

I understand that you think she deserves "nice things" NOW. However, nice things do not show the person you adore them. IF you still gave her the sweet letter of appreciation, that letter will outshine those diamond studs forever. Well, at least in my book it would.

 

[ceo]

Nah, depends on the female. I wouldn't make a big stink about it.

Nice! Hopefully his wife feels the same way. Guess there's a lot of things we don't know. Are you still struggling in the money area? Why'd you buy the gun? Any events occurred recently to you or others to make you buy it? Could the money have been put to bills, etc.?

I could see her saying, "Why the eff did you spend $400 on that damn gun when you KNOW we need the money for _______????" - insert various angry outbursts, and bringing up stupid shit you've done in the past - "Why do you think we need a gun in the house?" "What about when little Johnny/Susie get ahold of it?" - insert freaking the fuck out after she has that realization of the possibility the kids could get hold of it - "Get rid of that gun!" "No fucking guns in my house!" "I'm not going to be that parent on the news whose kid just shot himself!" "I can't believe you would do something like this...and without even asking me about it first!"

Or, she could just be cool with it, realizing that you are the man of the house and that protecting the family is your department and that is why you bought a gun. After all, something you saw on the news or something that happened in the neighborhood, just made you tell yourself one day that you would do anything to protect your beloved family and that if anyone ever tried "that shit that happened to those people on the news" to your family, or in your house, you'd kill a nigga to protect your wife and kids.

Ya know?

 

[vixensghost]

I like that also, or a donation in her name to her favorite charity.

Vixen, I was going to send you a brand new pair of Jimmy Choos, but I'm writing you a poem instead ;-)

I'd love the poem.

Hell. I have too many pairs of Choo's anyways.

 

[blueta2]

I'd love the poem.

Hell. I have too many pairs of Choo's anyways.

;-) I know, you're like me, stuff means nothing after a while. Gestures are worth a lot more.

 

[vixensghost]

;-) I know, you're like me, stuff means nothing after a while. Gestures are worth a lot more.

Agreed!


I've never went without, so, "stuff" really has no meaning to me. I love the heart felt "stuff" more than the shiney crap.

I may have a different opnion if I never had "things". Who knows?!

 

[Delinquent]

Nice! Hopefully his wife feels the same way. Guess there's a lot of things we don't know. Are you still struggling in the money area? Why'd you buy the gun? Any events occurred recently to you or others to make you buy it? Could the money have been put to bills, etc.?

I could see her saying, "Why the eff did you spend $400 on that damn gun when you KNOW we need the money for _______????" - insert various angry outbursts, and bringing up stupid shit you've done in the past - "Why do you think we need a gun in the house?" "What about when little Johnny/Susie get ahold of it?" - insert freaking the fuck out after she has that realization of the possibility the kids could get hold of it - "Get rid of that gun!" "No fucking guns in my house!" "I'm not going to be that parent on the news whose kid just shot himself!" "I can't believe you would do something like this...and without even asking me about it first!"

Or, she could just be cool with it, realizing that you are the man of the house and that protecting the family is your department and that is why you bought a gun. After all, something you saw on the news or something that happened in the neighborhood, just made you tell yourself one day that you would do anything to protect your beloved family and that if anyone ever tried "that shit that happened to those people on the news" to your family, or in your house, you'd kill a nigga to protect your wife and kids.

Ya know?

Yea I bought it because of a potential situation that if things got messy, I would need to defend myself.

Regardless of how she feels about the gun, it's staying. If she wants to throw a fit about the money then I'll take her earrings back and get a refund for the day spa. After all my gun = $165 whereas her gifts ~$500.

I decided to spend this money because we got a pretty decent tax refund this year. I wouldn't have even thought about this stuff if it weren't for the refund check. I made sure we had enough to cover all bills and not let it get us in a bind.

Some of you people jump to all sorts of conclusions based on a pretty simple question by me.

 

[Delinquent]

Agreed!


I've never went without, so, "stuff" really has no meaning to me. I love the heart felt "stuff" more than the shiney crap.

I may have a different opnion if I never had "things". Who knows?!

My wife is also like that so please don't get the impression that she's the typical american materialistic type. She's been absolutely happy with letters and simple cards and she has made sure that I knew that.

I just felt that in my mind, I wanted to get her something material this time.

Damn the next time I ask for suggestions, I'll remember to not ask them here.

 

[ceo]

Damn the next time I ask for suggestions, I'll remember to not ask them here.

LOL!!! Go read your original post again bro. You made it sound like you know 100% she's going to be pissed.

...will smooth over the reaction that my wife will have when she finds out that I bought a handgun without her knowledge or consultation lol?

Sounds like you're buying her gifts to "make up" for the "gift" you bought yourself (your gun). You already know she'll have a reaction and you're trying to smooth it over by getting her gifts.

So what exactly makes you think we are jumping to conclusions when you fucking TOLD US she's going to "react" to your buying something "without her knowledge or consultation"?

You're just all pissed off that we aren't all saying that your gifts will soothe the savage reaction she's going to have. LOL!!!

Good luck.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I have a hubby who spends money on stuff without my consent. I could care less as long as we have the money in the account left over after bill paying.


The gifts are nice. However, as a woman who has everything, a letter stating how much you appreciacte her being a loving wife/mother would be the perfect gift IMO. I understand that you've not been able to get what YOU think she deserves, but, that letter would make her heart swell- trust me!

I couldn't agree more... This goes for BOTH genders.

 

[txbondsman]

get a piece of copy paper and colored pencils and make her a Valentines card. Doesn't matter if you can't draw, just draw. Doesn't matter if you good with words, wright about how you feel, in scribble if you need to. I have a feeling she'll dig it....
By what you saying about $$, she'd prolly rather have the card than the earrings, but you did blow $300 or so, so keep the earrngs just in case....

 

[cindylou]

awwwww

if J made me a homemade card I would keep it forever.

He's not that kind of guy thats what would make it so sweet

BUt I would love a spa package and earrings too, dont get me wrong! they are both great gifts.

 

[Bikini Mod]

get a piece of copy paper and colored pencils and make her a Valentines card. Doesn't matter if you can't draw, just draw. Doesn't matter if you good with words, wright about how you feel, in scribble if you need to. I have a feeling she'll dig it....
By what you saying about $$, she'd prolly rather have the card than the earrings, but you did blow $300 or so, so keep the earrngs just in case....

Seconded... last year My Old Grump bi-folded a piece of copy paper, took a marker and made me a silly birthday card for my 40th B-day. The card is still on our mantle.

I get therapuetic massages on a weekly basis, so the spa package wouldn't really be a gift for me. But the thought behind the jewelry AND package is nice.

MAKE THE CARD.

 

[txbondsman]

Seconded... last year My Old Grump bi-folded a piece of copy paper, took a marker and made me a silly birthday card for my 40th B-day. The card is still on our mantle.


MAKE THE CARD.

see, I TOLD you......
you live long enough, you can't help but pick up a few things along the damn path.....

save the jewelry for some weekday when nothings going on, your sitting around watching Deal or No Deal, and say, "Honey, I was thinking of you today and all the stuff you do for us and I bought you this".....
wait till the TV show is about over or you won't know if they got the money or not!

 

[heatherrae]

will smooth over the reaction that my wife will have when she finds out that I bought a handgun without her knowledge or consultation lol?

I can't remember the last time we have bought each other gifts for any occasion because we have never had the money but I think she really deserves it after practically raising our daughter on her own while I was in school last year. She's also never had a professional massage and she's in need of some pampering of her own for once. So it first was about the gun but it has evolved into more of a Valentine's Day gift that is well deserved.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v151/Stangfriik/blah.jpg

I know that the earrings aren't that big at all because we don't have that much money and I really shouldn't have spent it but she deserves it. Along with the earrings, I have scheduled an appointment with a day spa that includes the following:

Serenity Retreat

Approximately 4 hours

European Facial with Peel

1 Hour Whole Body Swedish Massage

Paraffin Manicure

Paraffin Spa Pedicure

Does this sound like a decent Valentine's Day gift?

Wow! Yeah, she will like that. Those are nice and romantic gifts. PERFECT!

 

[Gymgurl]

i think they are awesome gifts....now my only question is why can't you have a gun?