kids that are cvnts about eating...

[binö]

the way i handle it is "look this is what we are having you are gonna sit here untill you eat some of it capiche?"
but the lady likes to cater to needs more, more touchy feely about it..."oh we'll make something you like teehee"
meanwhile a lot of food is getting wasted (i'm the one buying most of it)...reading up on it apparently modern thinkers say it's bad to force kids to eat...but jr just won't eat anything, then acts like a major cvnt cause he's blood sugars are low.
what's your opinion?
dicusssssssssssssss

 

[youpissmeoff]

You tell them if they don't like what is being served, make whatever they want. My daughter learned to make a bean burrito at a very early age. Don't worry about them missing meals, when kids get hungary, they will eat. I had one that would go a couple of days not eating anything at all and then he would eat everything in the house.

Last thing you want is to become a short order cook. They will take full advantage of that.

 

[binö]

You tell them if they don't like what is being served, make whatever they want. My daughter learned to make a bean burrito at a very early age. Don't worry about them missing meals, when kids get hungary, they will eat. I had one that would go a couple of days not eating anything at all and then he would eat everything in the house.

Last thing you want is to become a short order cook. They will take full advantage of that.

a 4 yr old with a sweet tooth should not be able to maker his/her own food...if i let that happen it would be marshmellows and juice every day.
the kid is not a good eater, doesn't recognize his own appeitite and gets to be a pain in the ass when he doesn't eat...my folks made me eat regularly scheduled meals every day and i'm sure i bitched about it...but now 30 yrs later i have good eating habits and i thank my folks for all those boring healthy dinners we had as a fam.
trying to impart this knowledge on the kids mom, cause the way it's been done just isn't working

 

[overgreen]

Eat it or wear it? Lol might try that. When I would complain my mama would say make what you want like the above said.

 

[Cutiebolic]

It's a lot harder when they're not your kids. I'd say pick your battles, Bino. As long as you're not going broke I'd let this go if you can.

It's hard, though... Most of the time the one who really needs to learn to discipline is the biological parent, and they sometimes lack the self-discipline to be consistent with their kids. This is made worse if that parent feels guilty anyway. I was in this situation in my last relationship and I think it was our undoing.

If you let it bother you, you can't win...the kids are in a pissing contest with you for their mom's attention, so if you get involved you only make it worse. I don't know if it's worth it to you but you might consider couples therapy. I know I wish we had done it a year ago. I don't know if it would have helped, but it feels like crap when it's too late.

Good luck. Will keep my fingers crossed for you.

 

[Headholio]

People get too uptight about kids eating. Don't substitute healthy food for tasty food, but give them whatevers on the menu and tell them that's all they get. If they don't eat it, don't freak. In an hour if they are hungry, pull out the same food.
My kids were not picky eaters, which makes me an expert

I don't get using the C word in reference to your own children. Pretty offensive. I knew a guy who called his baby daughter a cvnt; I never respected him much after that.

 

[binö]

People get too uptight about kids eating. Don't substitute healthy food for tasty food, but give them whatevers on the menu and tell them that's all they get. If they don't eat it, don't freak. In an hour if they are hungry, pull out the same food.
My kids were not picky eaters, which makes me an expert

I don't get using the C word in reference to your own children. Pretty offensive. I knew a guy who called his baby daughter a cvnt; I never respected him much after that.

good info that's the tack i take...and it's not my bio kid, and i am 100% fugging around i'd never say that aloud, i used the word on here to describe a picky/occasionaly bitchy kid not a defect of any sort.
kid is a gem

 

[binö]

It's a lot harder when they're not your kids. I'd say pick your battles, Bino. As long as you're not going broke I'd let this go if you can.

It's hard, though... Most of the time the one who really needs to learn to discipline is the biological parent, and they sometimes lack the self-discipline to be consistent with their kids. This is made worse if that parent feels guilty anyway. I was in this situation in my last relationship and I think it was our undoing.

If you let it bother you, you can't win...the kids are in a pissing contest with you for their mom's attention, so if you get involved you only make it worse. I don't know if it's worth it to you but you might consider couples therapy. I know I wish we had done it a year ago. I don't know if it would have helped, but it feels like crap when it's too late.

Good luck. Will keep my fingers crossed for you.

it hasn't reached the stage where conselling is necessary, i'm just trying to adjust to the situation and offer my help...living with the girl i can't just sit back and watch her get overrun with work/child rearing/stress, it's my duty to offer insight and help...and i'm laid off for a few months so it would be ultra slacker of me to do nothing

 

[Headholio]

I have a kid who looks forward to his carrot sticks and apple in his lunch, and another who eats like crap. Raised the same. There's only so much you can do. But one thing I think is really important, is just don't have the junk food in the house. Period. If its there, kids want it and eat it and ruin their appetites and ruin their eating habits with it. If the only snack is carrot sticks, then obviously the kids going to eat more carrot sticks than a kid who has a choice of carrot sticks or cheetos.
Sliced apple or banana with peanut butter is a good snack too. If they snack like that, you don't have to worry as much if they don't eat all their chicken at dinner time.

 

[WoodyO]

My 4 year old is a pretty picky eater. There's about 10 meals he commonly eats. I usually give him his choice of 2-3 for each meal and he'll pick one out. Most of it is a larger meal I make a couple times a week (such as spaghetti) and I just heat up what he wants.

If he skips a meal, it's no big deal, because he'll tell me when he's hungry. We don't keep much junk food around the house, so I usually don't need to worry about him filling up on crap. The only thing he eats too much of is Chewy granola bars.