my real life can be stressful,at times when you don't expect it
I had picked up a dead guy(70) at the hospital and was just back at the office
some lady wandered in from the cemetery and I was just beginning to handle her complaint about her father's grave and the sand and dead sod etc.
when a friend of mine came in and I was momentarily,or so I thought,hey XXXX
and then within a second I made the connection between his surname and the recent dead guy
so I have another second or two to formulate my response
in a matter of 3 seconds I moved from saying hello to a friend to consoling him
he had tears and had been crying when he removed his sunglasses
the lady I was talking with disappeared
so now I'm thinking "oh shit"
fortunately she called later to register her dismay and I was able to explain
everyone thinks they are the only one,and you have to treat them as such