I've been thinking a lot about killing myself...

[Cal_21]

Isn't it a strange feeling when an ex gf/bf says that to you? My ex girlfriend told me this recently...I feel really bad for her. I still see her somewhat as a friend..and I've been kind of a dick to her lately. How would you bros & broettes handle this situation?

 

[Smurfy]

yikes
not sure of the intent there but do you get the sense she'd act on it? or is it more likely a cry for attention from you or a need to sympathy?

 

[jnevin]

Point her in the direction of some help if you think she's serious. Maybe let her parents know.

If she's just doing it for attention, give her some rat poison.

 

[BNG]

She just wants to control you in yet another way. Get her some references for professional help.

 

[Cal_21]

yikes
not sure of the intent there but do you get the sense she'd act on it? or is it more likely a cry for attention from you or a need to sympathy?

It's hard for me to judge it. She got raped recently...

Before that I'd write it off as an omgaw we should be together thing.

I mean she does want to get back 2gether. But now I don't. For a while i was swv over her, and now I have zero feelings for her.

Her parents h8 me too. They prolly wouldn't believe me if i tried to tell them. I'm graduating so I'll never see any of her friends again & I dunno their #'s n shit. hmmm

 

[Cal_21]

Point her in the direction of some help if you think she's serious. Maybe let her parents know.

If she's just doing it for attention, give her some rat poison.

I think imma do this.

 

[redsamurai]

She got raped recently...

well there you go....

 

[AztecWarrior]

It's happen to me before too. What's even worse is they don't want know one to know and get help for there situation. All you do is worry.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Isn't it a strange feeling when an ex gf/bf says that to you? My ex girlfriend told me this recently...I feel really bad for her. I still see her somewhat as a friend..and I've been kind of a dick to her lately. How would you bros & broettes handle this situation?

pity sex

 

[Cal_21]

pity sex

almo

 

[pin]

Dude this very same thing happened to me about four years ago. I tried to break it off with this girl I was seeing. She had been raped a year prior. When I tried to break it off she took a bottle of sleeping pills. Her uncle found her and took her to the hospital and she turned out OK.

So. I, being afraid she would try again, kept hanging out w/ her let, her drive my car etc. After a while I relized that I was being held hostage by the suicide thing.

Finally I broke it off completely. She is still messed up . But she's alive.

I'd say be there to support her as a friend. But don't hook back up with her. Don't let her drag you down too. Drama sux.

And if she does do something stupid, its not your fault.

 

[Cal_21]

Dude this very same thing happened to me about four years ago. I tried to break it off with this girl I was seeing. She had been raped a year prior. When I tried to break it off she took a bottle of sleeping pills. Her uncle found her and took her to the hospital and she turned out OK.

So. I, being afraid she would try again, kept hanging out w/ her let, her drive my car etc. After a while I relized that I was being held hostage by the suicide thing.

Finally I broke it off completely. She is still messed up . But she's alive.

I'd say be there to support her as a friend. But don't hook back up with her. Don't let her drag you down too. Drama sux.

And if she does do something stupid, its not your fault.

Thanks bro.

I genuinely feel sorry for her as a friend. Especially after the rape incident.

But she never brought up the suicide thing until i told her there's no chance imma want to get back together & that I'm over her. Like the last straw kind of, I'm scurred of being the last thing in a line of fucked up things that makes her say life is too much 2 deal with.

 

[pin]

Thanks bro.

I genuinely feel sorry for her as a friend. Especially after the rape incident.

But she never brought up the suicide thing until i told her there's no chance imma want to get back together & that I'm over her. Like the last straw kind of, I'm scurred of being the last thing in a line of fucked up things that makes her say life is too much 2 deal with.

Just be her friend and let her down easy.

 

[SpyWizard]

Isn't it a strange feeling when an ex gf/bf says that to you? My ex girlfriend told me this recently...I feel really bad for her. I still see her somewhat as a friend..and I've been kind of a dick to her lately. How would you bros & broettes handle this situation?

You can't help her, all you can do is tell her you are there for her as much as she needs you to be, and seek professional help with/for her. If she refuses, she is not in real need, and thus needs to sink even further..

Sorry, but there isn't really anything you can do.. be firm, but don't be the life jacket..

good luck..

 

[SouthernLord]

Whatever you do...Don't cum in her. Sorry but that's all I got

 

[Cal_21]

You can't help her, all you can do is tell her you are there for her as much as she needs you to be, and seek professional help with/for her. If she refuses, she is not in real need, and thus needs to sink even further..

Sorry, but there isn't really anything you can do.. be firm, but don't be the life jacket..

good luck..

Thnx bro, solid advice!

 

[pin]

Whatever you do...Don't cum in her. Sorry but that's all I got

You ain't kiddin.

 

[SpyWizard]

Thnx bro, solid advice!

you are welcome, i've been there with a friend..

It effected my whole family, so that's not good. You hate to cut them off, but in the end that's almost what has to happen.

They become embarrassed and feel shame and it gets worse and worse..

Good luck though..

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

It's serious seeing as how she got raped. That's a whole other twist to what it would usually be; a pretty selfish statement to make considering it's to an ex. It's over, move on, don't try to burden them with a guilt trip expecting sympathy.

Now the rape issue is something to tread lightly on. She trusted you enough and felt she could go to you, so be her friend now.

 

[drsketch]

I would stop excepting the phone calls, if I thought it to be a serious cry for help I would probably tell her parents to get her some help.