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novamanms
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Sorry, blah...sleep deprivation making me say stupid things.
GoldenDelicious
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depends on wats going on with the nuts and bolts of the relationship. sometimes its best to jump in right away, other times waiting for circumstance to turn or attraction to build again is the thing to do. so its subjective. if shes very attracted and comfy with you, do it right away imo
mrplunkey
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Just be careful that if you are really into this girl that you don't smother her. In a lot of situations, even on the heels of a great first date, someone who's "in your face" every day after the first date can be scary.
On your first date, a girl may say something like "I could really see this relationship going somewhere." If that happens, calmly excuse yourself and go to the washroom. Once there, wrap your coat jacket around your hand and break the washroom window. Use the coat to smooth-out the broken glass shards as best you can and escape. Then do not return calls or emails or letters. If she insists on calling, answer the phone with an Asian accent and keep shouting "HE NO LIVE HERE NO MORE!" in your best Chineese voice.
On your first date, a girl may say something like "I could really see this relationship going somewhere." If that happens, calmly excuse yourself and go to the washroom. Once there, wrap your coat jacket around your hand and break the washroom window. Use the coat to smooth-out the broken glass shards as best you can and escape. Then do not return calls or emails or letters. If she insists on calling, answer the phone with an Asian accent and keep shouting "HE NO LIVE HERE NO MORE!" in your best Chineese voice.
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novamanms
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Raina has a point. If she's a Raina-quality lady, then I would say get up with her ASAP...because you likely have competitors for someone of high yummy-ness.Raina said:
mrplunkey
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Raina said:
Ohhh... your opinion on this would be *very* helpful.
Let's say you went out with a guy who had real potential: Personality, looks, career, intelligence, etc. etc. You guys hit it off really well on a Friday night date.
What's your ideal timeline after that? Would a call the next day be creepy? What about being asked out? Would a weekday lunch date be too soon? How long would be "too coy"? Remember... this guy seems to have potential for you too, but it's also obvious he's into you as well.
mrplunkey said:
Okay just thinking about a timeline would be a turnoff.
If you like someone and want to spend time with them, just tell them that. There's no need to overthink it. Just let her know "hey, I really enjoy spending time with you- when can I see you again". Anyone trying to be coy or anything else is trying too hard.
Game playing is a waste of time. Just put yourself out there and be honest.
Yarg!
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well she does have a good reason.. its that our schedules are soooo busy that lately the soonest we can see each other is a friday. then again, she has stated she can see me on her lunch breaks at work and we can have lunch together in the days leading up to a major date. so i dont mind- that shows a sign of interest on her part and willingness to make it work.
mrplunkey
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Raina said:
Bah! I don't mean a pre-planned timeline. I mean what's a reasonable course of events after the fact?
Let me give you an example... a friend of mine entered into a relationship. She and the guy hit it off *really* well, even first date. Catch is, she wanted to see him the next day and he did as well. Then the next... then a camping trip... etc. etc. Well, about two weeks into it, the guy looked up and thought "whoah! This is suffocating! I haven't been away from this chick for over two weeks!".
That could be as annoying as some yahoo playing coy and waiting a week to call.
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