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Internet Chat boards = substitute for real life interaction?

Lestat

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I'm not trying to be condcending here or anything.. I'm an internet chat board user with 40,000+ posts so if anyone is guilty here its me...

but I live downtown now.. walking distance to about 30 different bars.

I notice that EVERY night of the week, there are at least 5 or so bars that are packed! People that are part of this scene go out regularly... for what reason, I'm not 100% sure. It must be fun?

There are also "dive" bars.. more local bars with no cover, pool tables, juke box.. etc... seems like people head there everyday almost.. and they make friends with people there.

So instead of that, we all come here... instead of a bartender.. we have digger/George Spellwin/BRR who handle all the shifts.. instead of cocktail servers we have the mods.. and all of us are the patrons!

Some of us come once a week... (infrequent posters) and some of us are there every night to close the place down (post whores).

Seriously, I think we all bullshit around here, share life stories, and act interested in what near strangers have to say, similar to what people in the bar scene do.

Just like in the bar scene people get laid here... women get more attention then men.. and every once in a while (rarely) a real relationship comes out of interaction here.

The upside for us is that posting on this board is not hazardous to our health like alcohol is.. its also a hell of a lot cheaper.. and we learn some stuff here sometimes>?

thoughts?
 
this has been talked about endlessly, no?

it's different with everyone, no doubt. I am sure some people substitute "real life" interaction with this and I am sure some people don't. it's all in the use. it's also only fair to mention that this IS real life. kids that are growing up right now - the Internet is their playground, their way to meet people and interact.
 
I don't know. I like online interaction because I can just wander away for an hour and play with my dogs or something. I deal with people all week at work and I like my free time to be my time and to only deal with people on my own terms. It's a little easier to do that over the computer instead of coming off as an aloof bitch in person.

But posting from work is a lot more fun than talking to the people here.
 
For some people they cant be social in real life for whatever reason.. do i personally use it as a substitue no.. as an escape maybe..

because people in my real life do drive me nuts.. but im sure i do that too them too..

my friends do say i should be banned from the net at times because they want my attenion.. but i come on the net when i wanna be alone.. i can walk away have a shower make my dinner and it's the same..
 
KillahBee said:
this has been talked about endlessly, no?

it's different with everyone, no doubt. I am sure some people substitute "real life" interaction with this and I am sure some people don't. it's all in the use. it's also only fair to mention that this IS real life. kids that are growing up right now - the Internet is their playground, their way to meet people and interact.
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It has been discussed, but i never really thought of comparing it to the bar scene.

I mean we all do SOMETHING in life.. job.. working out.. etc.. but I'd be surprised if anyone who is a regular poster here is also a regular member of any particular "bar" scene.
 
Substitute for real life in the winter perhaps lol.

Going to bars or having a wild nightlife Ive grown out of. Having spent years doing it. Its alright on occassion.
I really do not view the internet as just the internet like I used to. I am connected to the web nearly 24/7 with cellphone/pocket pc, cellphone broadband laptop that I make calls from too, check email, text messages, watch tv, listen to music.

Its all blurred now, there is no distinction between the internet as a separate way to communicate. I basically can speak to people in real time anywhere I want with the touch of a button. The internet has progressed to where all communications can be done through it if you invest in the technology.

In the summer though my breaks are to put beeper, cellphone, laptop away and just be disconnected from everyone and go do stuff. In the winter, meh, not so much
 
Lestat said:
It has been discussed, but i never really thought of comparing it to the bar scene.

I mean we all do SOMETHING in life.. job.. working out.. etc.. but I'd be surprised if anyone who is a regular poster here is also a regular member of any particular "bar" scene.
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U have some posters here who post 7 days a week, some who post more duirng the day and some just on week days.. i think it's hard to generalize.

There was a time when i assumed everyone on the net was a geek or had no life.. but i know that's not the case.. everyone has a story.. some of them r even true :mix:
 
Can't look down people's tops in here.
Can't take advantage of drunken people.
Can't see how ugly people really are.

Thus, it will never compare.
 
Lestat said:
It has been discussed, but i never really thought of comparing it to the bar scene.

I mean we all do SOMETHING in life.. job.. working out.. etc.. but I'd be surprised if anyone who is a regular poster here is also a regular member of any particular "bar" scene.
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Oh, in that case I completely disagree (for some people). this point would only be valid if someone had a usage chart for working hours vs. weekend evenings.
 
KillahBee said:
Oh, in that case I completely disagree (for some people). this point would only be valid if someone had a usage chart for working hours vs. weekend evenings.
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plus, someone like me for example, wouldn't go to the bar scene regularly regardless of my chat forum usage.
 
Lesat some of us are also at an age where going to a bar every night isint where we wanna be.. im 29 years old..

When i was 26-27 i was at a club thursday to sunday, sometimes going to work on monday in some pretty crazy get ups.. but at 29, it's not where my head is at..

The bar/club is somewhere i go occasionally- have some fun and for the most part i like to do other things with my friends. Sometimes i find the lonelinest of people r the ones crowded in bars and clubs..

If someone feels like they r missing out.. then by all means they should pack up their keyboard and go buy a drink.. but then this might indicate another problem.. a more deep seated one if they r using the internet as a replacement for human interaction
 
*MissFit* said:
a more deep seated one if they r using the internet as a replacement for human interaction
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What if they have 10 hookers on speed dial? Still a problem?
 
meeting people is great... using bars as that crutch is totally unneccessary. If you live somewhere where alcohol is the only crutch commonly used to meet new people, you will live a miserable existence. Try a blue state on for size.
 
KillahBee said:
plus, someone like me for example, wouldn't go to the bar scene regularly regardless of my chat forum usage.
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Same with me.

I've been a member for a year and my life has changed significantly. Is EF a substitute ... no it isn't. I still go out to eat once or twice a month with friends. I use the weekends to make jewelry, so I'm on EF hitting the refresh button now and then.

Also, I forsee a lot of travelling this year. I'm saving for my first car. That said, I need to stay home and save money. So, I will be home on EF. lol
 
ZKaudio said:
meeting people is great... using bars as that crutch is totally unneccessary. If you live somewhere where alcohol is the only crutch commonly used to meet new people, you will live a miserable existence. Try a blue state on for size.
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No kidding!

The internet is fun but I honestly feel sorry for people I see logged on here for hours every single day.

Life is too short. People get way too caught up in the internet. I've done it..not worth it at all. It has its place and fun... but its not LIFE....No way will I ever date anyone who is so obsessed with the internet either.
 
starfish said:
No kidding!

The internet is fun but I honestly feel sorry for people I see logged on here for hours every single day.

Life is too short. People get way too caught up in the internet. I've done it..not worth it at all. It has its place and fun... but its not LIFE....No way will I ever date anyone who is so obsessed with the internet either.
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if the people that are tied up on the boards maybe thats what they like to do fuck. everytime u post its always about people being on here too much. like fuckin pick a different fuckin topic
 
starfish said:
No kidding!

The internet is fun but I honestly feel sorry for people I see logged on here for hours every single day.

Life is too short. People get way too caught up in the internet. I've done it..not worth it at all. It has its place and fun... but its not LIFE....No way will I ever date anyone who is so obsessed with the internet either.
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Always dogging people who post on the internet, if you have to keep repeating how much of a life you have then you are insecure and prolly dont.
Its hilarious to see you take little blips on a screen so serious and then we can watch your meltdowns unfold online with anyone that strays into your paranoia airspace that circles your head.
I can only wonder the horrors people face in your company in real life.
I really think you need a good psychiatrist Starfish with some heavy duty medications
 
Lestat said:
It has been discussed, but i never really thought of comparing it to the bar scene.

I mean we all do SOMETHING in life.. job.. working out.. etc.. but I'd be surprised if anyone who is a regular poster here is also a regular member of any particular "bar" scene.
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Move over Lestat. I'm the genius that compared this place to CHeers. You are plagiarizing my ideas. Actually you think a lot like me and vice versa.
 
*MissFit* said:
U have some posters here who post 7 days a week, some who post more duirng the day and some just on week days.. i think it's hard to generalize.

There was a time when i assumed everyone on the net was a geek or had no life.. but i know that's not the case.. everyone has a story.. some of them r even true :mix:
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Some of us even find the time to get laid several times a week. Then, it's leave me alone bitch, I've got to get back to EF and check out the scene. Okay, I'm exaggerating just a little.
 
Wootoom said:
ill fuckin post here 40 times a day i still have perfectly fine life. wtf.
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Crap man, thats four times my average, get a life
 
Lestat said:
I'm not trying to be condcending here or anything.. I'm an internet chat board user with 40,000+ posts so if anyone is guilty here its me...
...

Seriously, I think we all bullshit around here, share life stories, and act interested in what near strangers have to say, similar to what people in the bar scene do.
...

thoughts?
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EF IS my social life, okay. I'm secure enough to admit it. It's perfect for me: friends that don't make demands, don't expect me to call them back or answer when they do call, and I can ignore it at any time, as long as I want, and nobody gets hurt.

I have a life: I have a husband, a job, working out, part time stepkids and a grown son, cats, and a home to take care of. I also have social anxiety issues AND multiple chemical sensitivities AND weird dietary issues, so I have EF because going out there is SO damn hard on several levels.

Besides, people who don't lift don't understand those who do, and they sure as HELL don't understand a woman who loves the iron, we're mentally wired differently from "regular" girls.
 
MuscleMom said:
EF IS my social life, okay. I'm secure enough to admit it. It's perfect for me: friends that don't make demands, don't expect me to call them back or answer when they do call, and I can ignore it at any time, as long as I want, and nobody gets hurt.

I have a life: I have a husband, a job, working out, part time stepkids and a grown son, cats, and a home to take care of. I also have social anxiety issues AND multiple chemical sensitivities AND weird dietary issues, so I have EF because going out there is SO damn hard on several levels.

Besides, people who don't lift don't understand those who do, and they sure as HELL don't understand a woman who loves the iron, we're mentally wired differently from "regular" girls.
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You are exactly right and i'm glad you're here because I've learned a thing or 2 from you. :)
 
BrothaBill said:
Always dogging people who post on the internet, if you have to keep repeating how much of a life you have then you are insecure and prolly dont.
Its hilarious to see you take little blips on a screen so serious and then we can watch your meltdowns unfold online with anyone that strays into your paranoia airspace that circles your head.
I can only wonder the horrors people face in your company in real life.
I really think you need a good psychiatrist Starfish with some heavy duty medications
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lol
 
She's a very cute petite girl. She can have the world by the tail if she will just believe.
 
mmmm tail.....

but the cute ones are usually crazy. Crazier, cause they can get away with it.

I know a hot girl who lost a great job, when she moved into some guy's mom's basement and started smoking weed all the time, because her psychic said the next guy who asked her out would be "the one".
CRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAZEEEEEEEEE!
 
A substitute no.. a preference yes.

I am not one to go mingle in crowds and listen to peoples boring life stories and so on. Here i can pick and choose what i am interested in and feel like contributing too.

As well i can come and go as i please without people wondering where i am going or what i am doing.

I also use this board as a knowledge board and a place to kill time while i work :coffee:
 
*MissFit* said:
Lesat some of us are also at an age where going to a bar every night isint where we wanna be.. im 29 years old..

When i was 26-27 i was at a club thursday to sunday, sometimes going to work on monday in some pretty crazy get ups.. but at 29, it's not where my head is at..
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Haha, 29 is such a quantum leap from 26-27...
 
Mammoth2500 said:
I am not one to go mingle in crowds and listen to peoples boring life stories and so on.
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yeah i know what you mean
i need to find more interesting people IRL
maybe if i make my life more interesting i'll find 'em
 
I find it easier to make "new friends" (to ignore lol) in the real world than the internet. Takes longer to get from outsider to insider. I only have limited experience with chat boards (a few BB boards and some political boards), but find theres even more clique-ish group-think behavior on the boards than in high school. With exceptions, instead of "what do _I_ think about this new person", its "what do _WE_ think about this new person".

-
 
Mavafanculo said:
I find it easier to make "new friends" (to ignore lol) in the real world than the internet. Takes longer to get from outsider to insider. I only have limited experience with chat boards (a few BB boards and some political boards), but find theres even more clique-ish group-think behavior on the boards than in high school. With exceptions, instead of "what do _I_ think about this new person", its "what do _WE_ think about this new person".

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yeah... to be inside, first define what's outside.
they are the judge and jury
 
not the same

1) can't read body language
2) you're stuck taling to people you'd never talk to in real life
3) no good food or alcohol
4) every1 lives far away. locals don't want 2 c u.
5) you will never get laid, or even a kiss
 
Island Son said:
yeah i know what you mean
i need to find more interesting people IRL
maybe if i make my life more interesting i'll find 'em
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Perhaps but normally i find where theres fun theres trouble as well.
 
Razorguns said:
not the same

1) can't read body language
2) you're stuck taling to people you'd never talk to in real life
3) no good food or alcohol
4) every1 lives far away. locals don't want 2 c u.
5) you will never get laid, or even a kiss
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Sounds like a good place to me. Less headaches.
 
Razorguns said:
not the same

1) can't read body language
2) you're stuck taling to people you'd never talk to in real life
3) no good food or alcohol
4) every1 lives far away. locals don't want 2 c u.
5) you will never get laid, or even a kiss
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As Mammoth said.

Each of these points has plusses and minusses. I like talking with people here who I might not give the time of day in real life or, more likely, wouldn't give me the time of day. There's no pressure to meet, no reason to flirt because it won't get you anywhere (not that that stops some people...). No risk of getting drunk or going off diet, unless I can't resist a run to the fridge.

Mostly, I like hearing ideas and viewpoints that I wouldn't hear from my real-life friends and acquaintances. Cliques of real friends tend to be economically and culturally homogenous, I enjoy the benifit of the different beliefs and life experiences that I encounter online.

And I enjoy the challenge of trying to express myself clearly using only text, because vocal inflection and body language aren't available in this medium.
 
Razorguns said:
not the same

1) can't read body language
2) you're stuck taling to people you'd never talk to in real life
3) no good food or alcohol
4) every1 lives far away. locals don't want 2 c u.
5) you will never get laid, or even a kiss
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I agree with 4 of those 5 statements(because yeah I may have hooked up with a few people from here along the way). I used to be addicted to EF to some degree because it gave me a chance to interact with people who I normally wouldn't in real life. It's not that I wouldn't like them or judge them but I would never get to meet them because we all do different things. Also I go in phases of being a social butterfly to being the most isolated man on the planet. I have met a lot of people from here that I would have not met if said internet did not exist. For one... you Nav. Ironically, I hung out with you and Lestat when I was last in san diego.
 
Also I know a lot of people are incredibly fake on the net, however, a lot of people in real life are just as fake. When I met Kali for instance I was stunned and amazed because I had thought there was no way this girl would be on a chat room talking to my ugly mug, let alone actually be fond of me and do the distance thing for a while.

Also I didn't know if Raina would be a real person or someone just using some hot chick's pictures until I met her and found out that she was actually not as photogenic as she appears... truth is, she looks even better in person. And no I didn't hook up with her because had i done such I would have not been able to not kiss and tell. So some of what you see is real and some is not... much like real life.
 
in real life -- i pick friends i like and have a rapport with. On the net, there's no "friend" you can count on when u have a flat tire. I'm stuck with all of yous. Even borrowing 5 bucks wouldn't fly online.
 
starfish said:
No kidding!

The internet is fun but I honestly feel sorry for people I see logged on here for hours every single day.

Life is too short. People get way too caught up in the internet. I've done it..not worth it at all. It has its place and fun... but its not LIFE....No way will I ever date anyone who is so obsessed with the internet either.
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Hmm some of us can do this from work.. this is our escape from wat we're doing at our desk.. so no it's not life but it's better than the paper work.

but the net has opened up a whole new real of possiblities of interacting with ppl you never would've in the past.. kinda cool..

I would never use it as a replacement for real ppl, but as a compliment it is a good resource
 
*MissFit* said:
Hmm some of us can do this from work.. this is our escape from wat we're doing at our desk.. so no it's not life but it's better than the paper work.

but the net has opened up a whole new real of possiblities of interacting with ppl you never would've in the past.. kinda cool..

I would never use it as a replacement for real ppl, but as a compliment it is a good resource
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True, but now its also faster to meet e-stalkers and e-jerks.
 
I just really like to put people on ignore
 
I'd rather post on here than meet some losers in a bar.

except, when i am here, I'm also multi tasking- either watching the news or doing work online and I look back in here every so often.

its healthier than drinking, and there's nothing wrong with learning or keeping things humorous.
 
Starfish! We have never had beef, but you do realize that posting on a chat board to tell people it's stupid to post on a chatboard is well... i think you know.
 
Mr. dB said:
As Mammoth said.

Each of these points has plusses and minusses. I like talking with people here who I might not give the time of day in real life or, more likely, wouldn't give me the time of day. There's no pressure to meet, no reason to flirt because it won't get you anywhere (not that that stops some people...). No risk of getting drunk or going off diet, unless I can't resist a run to the fridge.

Mostly, I like hearing ideas and viewpoints that I wouldn't hear from my real-life friends and acquaintances. Cliques of real friends tend to be economically and culturally homogenous, I enjoy the benifit of the different beliefs and life experiences that I encounter online.

And I enjoy the challenge of trying to express myself clearly using only text, because vocal inflection and body language aren't available in this medium.
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Damn Straight! Love the post, but can't K ya for it :qt:

That's why I end up getting myself into a jam sometimes, by being too wordy, I keep trying to figure out how the other person may interpret what I just said.

But I do like the diversity! Not just the geographic differences, I really love the fact that the interaction is purely intellectual, completely neutralizing race, social and financial strata.

And flirting just for the sake of flirting is kind of fun ;)
 
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