"no" means no, most reputable clubs follow this to the letter
don't drink much if any at all your first time there, first impressions are a bitch to overcome
i personally wouldn't have sex with my girl before we went, it's much better afterwards
discuss what your rules are with your girl before you go. like is french kissing ok? are you going to same room swing only or will you do separate room swing. what are your non verbal signals if either of you are uncomfortable? discuss with each other what your OWN EXPECTATIONS are going into this, and discuss everything you feel about the experience afterwards <---- This is very important. will you do couples together, or are single females ok (depending on if your girl is bi)? are you going to the orgy room/play room after the party?
be yourselves at the party. if you are a bit outgoing, be that way at the party. if you are more introverted, don't worry, people are VERY friendly at these events and will come over to talk to you. be polite to everyone you speak with, but make it clear what TYPE of couple you are looking for. same age, HWP, have to attractive to you AND your girl, etc
here's some decent info on a club a "friend" of mine ch3cked out:
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No means NO. Above all don't be pushy. Remember that freedom of choice is every individual's right in swinging and respecting that right is only common courtesy. Learn how to handle a No, graciously. If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.
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Be friendly and courteous. Respect others.
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ILLEGAL SUBSTANCES, INCLUDING MARIJUANA, ARE PROHIBITED at responsible swing clubs and private parties. Swinging is its own pleasure, don't dilute it and don't subject yourself and others to legal problems. Going in and out of the party or dance to your car will be suspect. Don't do it.
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ARRIVE ON TIME. It isn't fashionable to arrive late to a swing party.
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ARRIVE AS A COUPLE AND LEAVE AS A COUPLE WHEN ATTENDING A SWING DANCE OR PARTY. It is frowned upon by most hosts and other swingers when a partner, usually the woman, departs, leaving her mate at the party as a single.
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ATTRACTIVE BUT CASUAL PARTY CLOTHES are usually best. If you're attending an on-premise party, take a robe, negligee or other slip-on. You may find it more comfortable as the evening continues. If you are attending a dance then dress according to the theme of the party or in nice clothing. You don't need to wear suits or fancy dresses but also don't wear dirty and torn clothing. What you wear will either help attract others to you or make them steer clear of you. Keep money, jewelry, and other valuables at a minimum. If they are lost, it's a problem for you, and an embarrassment to your hosts.
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CLEANLINESS AND GOOD GROOMING is essential for swinging participants. Be aware of your body and take care of it. Be especially aware of any repugnant body odor you may develop due to the rather physical nature of these activities. Even a kiss can be repulsive if delivered on a breath heavy with the taste of cigarettes or liquor.
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A GOOD MENTAL ATTITUDE AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH will make you popular in the swinging community. No one appreciates the negative person with nothing good to say about the party, other persons, or swinging. The man or woman with the smile, ready laugh and obvious interest in others is the person others like to be around.
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DON'T TAKE A "TICKET" TO A SWING PARTY. A ticket is someone who has no intention of swinging but is willing to go along to get someone else in. No one must swing at a party, of course, but if one person swings, it is expected that the other is willing and free to do the same.
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DON'T TAKE SOMEONE TO A SWING PARTY WHO IS NOT FULLY INFORMED as to the nature of the party and their expected behavior.
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DON'T DISTURB THE SWINGING ENJOYMENT OF OTHERS in a bedroom or other swing area with loud or prolonged talk.
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THE GROUP ROOM IS FOR GROUP SWINGING. If you want privacy, don't go to the group room. If you take your partner or any other person to the group room to swing, you can expect others to ask to join you and your paTrtner. (The right of refusal always applies, of course. Swinging in the group room doesn't automatically give others the right to join you).
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CLUB SWING PARTIES HAVE PARTY DUES OR DONATIONS. It is your responsibility to present it upon being checked in for a party. Don't make the hosts remind you.
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IF A PARTY IS BYOB (BRING YOUR OWN BOTTLE), ONLY DRINK WHAT YOU BRING. Never help yourself to what others have brought without their permission. This is another of the much violated rules of swinging etiquette, and one that causes anger among the party guests.
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TELL THE HOSTS if another guest causes a problem, won't take "no" for an answer, or is objectionable in any real way. They sincerely want to know so they can correct the problem. Keeping problems and bad feelings to yourself only contributes tension to the situation.
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IF YOU LIKE A CLUB OR PARTY, SAY SO. IF IT JUST ISN'T YOUR THING, LEAVE. to speak despairingly of a party to the other guests is simply poor manners.
and some more info from another club they went to:
This list of rules is intended to orient those who wish to particpate in our club. Anyone violating the rules set forth will not be invited back!
All guests must be registered to attend!
No Walk-Ins Allowed!
You WILL NOT be let into the party without being on the guest list. Sorry!
For the safety of all involved we must check photo id's at the door. You must be 21 to attend.
Confidentiality and Discretion are a must!
All guests will be required to sign a non-disclosure confidentiality agreement when attending a function for the first time. If you do not wish to sign this agreement, we cannot let you into the function.
We will STRICTLY enforce NO MEANS NO.
Please respect others boundaries and wishes.
At no time will any member harass another member.
If you are signed up as a couple, you MUST come as a couple.
No Camera's or Video equipment, no matter how much fun it would be! This is for the privacy of all involved.
No weapons or drugs are strictly prohibited! If you are caught you will be removed IMMEDIATELY and the authorities will be notified.
No Public Nudity! NO FLASHING! NONE! ANYWHERE! In the party area, hallways, lobby, pool area, or any other place persons NOT associated with our group could see you. If this rule is violated, you will be asked to leave immediately!
Since our club meets in various locations... we are considered an off premise club. This means no public displays or encounters. When we hold our functions in a hotel setting, we will provide a hospitality suite for those not staying over. Visiting the club does NOT guarantee or imply an type of encounter. Any type of encounter is by mutual consent only. Guests are liable for all or any encounters. You will be asked to leave if these rules are violated.
Due to the variety of those who participate in this lifestyle, if you are associated with any kind of legal, media or government affiliation, by joining this group you are giving up your right to public exposure.
Discussion of any activities or information about other guest is prohibited. This includes but is NOT limited to, **** and the facilitators, other members, location of club events, and any other information that might be critical to a persons privacy.
any other questions, feel free to ask. i can always check with my friend
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