I'm fucking things up

[Stan O'Zolol]

O.K. About 2 weeks ago I posted about which girl I should try and date. A girl at work, or a girl I met on the net. Most of you said stay away from the girl at work and go with the girl from the net. Well, the girl from the net says she wants to talk to me on the phone, so I give her my #, and I never hear from her again. Vanished into thin air.

So, I focus my attention on the girl at work. If I don't accidentally run into her, like I always used to (doesn't seem to happen when you want it to), then I will go visit her office. Almost every day. Just to chat for about 5 min. I guess the purpose of my visits are just small talk, to try and figure out her situation (single, boyfriend, lesbian), to try to get to know her a bit better. Well she seems to be the busiest girl at work, her phone is always ringing and other people are always showing up at her office. In addition, I also have to be careful what I say to her since I am standing in the doorway and people are always walking by. So I keep my visits short. But I'm almost positive she knows I like her.

So I decided that if I keep things going the way they are going, I might get to know her by the year 2007. I decided I'm going to have to be more upfront with her. But I'm pretty much scared shitless, way more than I would be if it was a girl that I met outside of work.

In any case, when I talked to her today I asked her what she was doing this weekend. She said she had some family thing...so I thought...o.k. she isn't interested...and then she said that she wants to get out of the house because her family annoys her alot. So I think o.k...maybe I should ask her to do something...then she says she is going to such and such a bar tonight and a different bar tomorrow night. So now I'm thinking she isn't interested again. Then she asks me what I'm going to do...I said I have no plans...she said "You're not going to play golf or anything?". I said I had no plan to. Then we start talking about golf. I ask her if she's been out to play yet this year, she says only once...that she has nobody to play with...none of her friends are athletic. So I said "You don't have a boyfriend?". She said No. So I was going to ask her if she wanted to play and I froze. I couldn't ask her. I think I was to self-concious about others overhearing since I was standing in the doorway. Then someone shows up at her office for business and I excuse myself. So I fucked up. I was pissed at myself!

I was so pissed when I got home from work that I looked up her home phone number. I decided I would right a wrong and call her. But it took me 2 hrs to work up the courage. Anyhow, I did phone her but got no answer. So then I paged her. Now I'm starting to feel like a stalker. Thing is, if she doesn't want to golf this weekend then I want to head out of town, so I really wanted to get a hold of her. Anyway, she probably won't recognize my number and I probably won't hear from her this weekend. But I'm afraid that if she is interested, then she's probably pissed at me for taking so long (maybe she thinks I'm toying with her) and has maybe given up on me.

Should I call her again tomorrow?

(And, yes, Stan has had a few ales tonight!)

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

Those of you without ADD should be able to struggle through that. Need opinions.

 

[big4life]

Call her up and ask her out.

Or maybe you can go to the bar she mentioned.

 

[Frackal]

Just make sure you slap her around a bit to make up for calling AND paging her. And when you fuck her, do it in the ass without lube. That my friend will be the key to her heart.

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

Does natural lube count? Or should I dry myself off first?

 

[rotovibe]

You looked up her phone number? Her personal phone number?
I wouldn't have done that.
I would've waited till the next time I see her and ask her if she was busy on the weekends or wanted to do anything fun and get her number that way.
Mysteriously getting her number and then asking her out would be a bit creepy and less cordial. I'm all for taking the initiative but that might be a bit much.
I wouldn't call her again and just verbally confirm a date that way the next time I see her.

trust your intuition, if you feel like a stalker, then I would listen to myself and back off a bit.

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

The only thing I'm worried about is that she thinks I'm never going to ask her out and might meet someone else since she is going out both nights this weekend. Trust me, with my luck with women, it is very much a reality.

But I think Rotovibe may be right. Now I just hope she doesn't have call display and her pager batteries are dead.

 

[manny78]

sounds too complicated for me (the girl I mean). I would just wait and see if she comes to you. Positive point: she has no boyfriend. Negative point: looks like a confused girl.

 

[guards]

Send her a bouquet of roses with your phone number in it......leaving it up to her if she wants to call or not.

Worked for me

 

[RedTide]

YO - she's asa tentative as you are, she hems and haws, and she GAVE you several opportunities to ask her out or run into her at one of two bars. Get out of your own head and go meet her at the bar, or just get the balls to ask her out....the easiest is to a non-threatening place, like a late morning or afternoon cup of coffee or something.....not committed to a date, cna last 5 minutes, or if you hit it off it could last hours ....first dates always suck and are always ful of anxiety....just accept it and move on. Plenty of time next week, don't stress over this stuff.